My realtionship of 3 years, the father of my child seems to be going down hill. He is dosen't seem to care about what I have to say or my feelings.
2007-10-16 12:58:47 · 8 answers · asked by American Women 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'll try and talk about my day and he could really careless. He can be very rude and hurtful.
2007-10-16 13:29:27 · update #1
We all grow and change during a relationship (and life).
It takes hard work and both people working to change together instead of apart.
You should really sit down with him and talk for from time to time.
Get a baby sitter and go out to a bar or restaurant, just the two of you.
Tell him you need him to listen to you WITHOUT trying to fix or change what you are talking about, JUST listen.
Make sure and give him his alone time. Do NOT hover waiting for him while he is alone (that is NOT alone time).
I really suggest that you (or both of you) read the book Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus. It does not have all the answers, but I found it very insightful.
2007-10-16 13:14:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Are you sure that this isn't just baby blues? You have only been together for 3 years and you have a child. It sounds like you are on about your fourth life change. Believe that there are many more to come. You really have to let him know that you are concerned and be specific.
Having a long, happy, marraige requires falling in love over and over again, only with the same person. He loved the person you were before you got married. He loved the person he married. He loved the mother of his child. Now, who are you? Are you taking good care of yourself and your appearance? Are you doing fun things so that you can come home and talk about something new and different? Have you thought about what you have to say? What feelings do you have that he doesn't seem to care about?
And,on the other hand, maybe he is having problem that you are not aware of. Are you aware of what's going on with his job or with his family? Could he be going through a depression?
Marriage takes work. It isn't easy. Keep trying. Don't give up unless he really gives you a reason too and, "He's just not that in to me" is not a reason.
2007-10-16 13:27:00 · answer #2 · answered by MsRiddle 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Guys don't commit to women any longer bc the women don't demand marriage. Also, many women put out so they know they can go down the street and find another. Some men are relationship types and some are not. How about age, that matters too. If he won't communicate or get outside help in resolving issues, you are at a dead end. Some people in life just can't stop thinking about all the stuff they are missing. Maybe that's his problem. Just think how messed up he'll be by the time he hits his midlife crisis. People think relationships are disposable - sad. Find yourself someone with your values and avoid the commitment-phobes next time.
2007-10-16 15:19:45 · answer #3 · answered by Contemplative 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it might be that u guys are going thru a rough patch every relationship goes through that the best thing is to communicate with him tell him how ur feeling instead of assuming the worse
2007-10-16 13:05:43 · answer #4 · answered by Nokuthula 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
try to talk to him or get counseling but if that doesn't work, he may not be into you anymore and it is time to lose him and find someone who does care about what you think and your feelings!!
2007-10-16 13:08:44 · answer #5 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Whoa, time for you to take inventory as to whether or not you want to be with him if he is rude to you !
2007-10-16 13:48:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
do not waste anymore time pack your stuff and hit the road before you hurt anymore.
2007-10-16 13:18:46 · answer #7 · answered by Precious1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
try to communicate to him with kareokee. try that i think it will work. good luck to u.
2007-10-16 14:58:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋