I met him 4 yrs. ago, he doesnt have his ged. so i tried to help him bought whatever he needed books, notebooks, even bus pass to go to school. Well 4 yrs, after he still doesnt have a ged. because he cant afford to pay $15 for a transcript but has money to go to san francisco and buy games etc. It gets me mad, because he shows no interest in doing anything other than his video games, but will whine about my job, my car, and what other people have. But yet he wont attempt to do anything about it. we have a baby together and i thought "maybe this will give him a reason to study" but no, i want to be successful and be able to send my child to college, be able to afford health insurance for us. but not him, its a big turn off because i never thought he was so pesimist. It sorta makes me not want to be with him. Any advise?? He also gets mad when i tell him i want to be an accountant, he thinks I'm trying to put him down because he didn't finish high school. But he wont even try.
2007-10-16 12:46:46 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He gets mad when i get something, a raise, a new car, or even a nice pair of shoes because he doesn't. I feel bad, but i feel like i will need to drag him to do something with his life. I honestly just want to leave sometimes, its not fair for me to pay for mostly everything, while all he does is whine about how other people earn money when he can just get up and get something going. Its just dissappointing.
2007-10-16 12:50:26 · update #1
You need to move out and give this guy a set period of time to get his life together. It isn't that he is a pessimist but that he is one of those who doesn't care who he uses to get what he wants. If when you move out that doesn't motivate him to change, nothing will and you are better off without him so that your child does not learn those bad habits from him. If you think you love him, you love what you thought he could be and he is showing you that he saw a quality in him that he did not have so you need to move on in order to find a partner who will help you achieve those goals, not make it harder for you to acheive them. Good Luck to you!!
2007-10-16 13:04:15 · answer #1 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a wonderful wife you sound here, but you made him a spoil rotten and now you are feeling the heat. He is not interested to go to school and there is not way you can force him to do it because school is not in his blood. As long as you are there to feed him, pay bills, do whatever he wants to do, you actually spoiled him and its you to make a stop to it. To force him to do what he is supposed to do is to make him pay for the rent, and all other bill for six months and don't have mercy at him. If a can't bear and be separated for at least three months and let him feel the heat of stepping up. For now as long as you continue to support him, he won't change and at the end you will be hurt behind his laziness
2007-10-16 23:51:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time for you to decide if you want to keep raising him. He is not a child and he needs to get it together for you and your child. If you already are paying for everything. I think it is time to ask him to move on till he can decide what he really wants to do.
It sounds like you have talked with him so now it is time to act!!
TIme to push him out of the nest so to speak....
2007-10-16 19:57:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may be doing him more harm then good by providing a life for him.
It's time to take care of yourself and your child and let him grow up......it's time to leave.....but I think you've known that for a long time.
2007-10-16 19:54:39 · answer #4 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋