ok went to bar ran into one of husbands pals and had way to many drinks both of us hes married and im married but we had sex husband knows and his wife found out what can i do?
2007-10-16 12:41:37 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you are truly in love with your husband and remorseful, ashamed and so sorry for your actions, all you can do is show him, in every word and action from this day forward, that he can again trust you not to do such a foolish thing again. It will take time as you must earn trust back.
You don't say how he is reacting to it all; if he is willing to forgive and make a go of your marriage. If he is, then please talk with him and allow him to get the anger and hurt out, as it is devistating. Hold him close, show him your love for him is real. Sorry, but it is best if you have no contact with this pal of your husband or his wife. You two were attracted to each other; best to part ways so you can concentrate on rebuilding your relationship with your husband. Learn from what happened and never allow it to occur again. Drinking is just an excuse; it does lower our inhabitions, but there was a point when you could have said no, as could have he. Take the responsibility of what you have done, start healing your marriage so the both of you can put this in the past and move forward, from today on. Best of luck to you!
2007-10-16 12:51:00 · answer #1 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you really screwed up. Do not blame it on the drinks. There is nothing you can do and the way you asked the question does not sound like your sorry about it. You will be lucky if he stays but he will never trust you again and better hope he does not kill his ex friend. How did he find out? did u tell him? did u tell him your sorry?
2007-10-16 14:34:01 · answer #2 · answered by s f 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's time to apologize to his wife and your husband.
Ask your husband if there's a way to fix this......and that you'll do practically anything including and especially going to marriage counseling.
I wouldn't get too comfortable though....cheating is a deal breaker for most people.
2007-10-16 12:48:20 · answer #3 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All you can really do is apologize profusely and accept the consequences that you get. I'm sorry that happened! Also, in the future be careful not to spend too much time around this man you cheated with, as that will only make people think something is going on.
2007-10-16 12:48:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Are you sure he was your husbands friend? Drinking is not an excuse for screwing some other person, it means the marriage was in trouble before the drinks, thats a lame excuse! Be honest with yourself and your husband, there must have been underlying problems?!
2007-10-16 12:48:13 · answer #5 · answered by yp_holly_chesapeake_457 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
why do you people ask such stupid questions what would you do if he did it to you? Let's use a lil common sense. It was not the drinks thst did it you did. Do not feel sorry for you. if you do not know your limit may be you should have stayed in that night.
2007-10-16 13:21:37 · answer #6 · answered by Precious1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope acting like a floozy was worth it, it is unlikely your husband will be able to get past this.
Be prepared for the eventual divorce.
2007-10-16 13:09:14 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a class act...the two of you I should say. You are not sorry you cheated, you are sorry your life is messed up due to it! By the way, was the sex good?
2007-10-16 12:53:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Give up drinking and bars unless your husband is with you. Ask for forgiveness and show him you love him.
2007-10-16 13:17:08 · answer #9 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're not sorry you cheated, you're sorry you got caught and are now worried your husband will find out, if hasn't already.
You're damaged goods and if your husband has an ounce of self-respect, he'll discard you with the rest of the trash.
2007-10-16 12:45:24 · answer #10 · answered by Stedway 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋