Should I marry him???

Question

I got back with my ex a couple months ago we have been off and on because of rumors...and now we are thinking of getting married...we both want to but people are telling us we're too young and we should wait...we're both 19...we both are sure that there is nobody else we could imagine ourselves with and we want to do it but we arent sure...are we too young??? should we just move in together and try living together first??? or should we trust our instincts and get married

thanks to those who gave reasonable answers even if you told me that i should wait thanks a lot i understand everyones point of view now i see things way better i think i'm going to wait a couple years and see where it takes us if our love is as strong as we think then we can wait a couple more years to see if our love is as srong as we think ...and to those who were just rude *uck you guys also to you a**holes i am not going to base my decision on Yahoo answers i just wanted other people's opinion...but that does not mean i am going to do what they think is best !!! So f*** you idiots that just get on Yahoo answers to be rude to people and give stupid answers get a life!!!

Answer 1

Try living together first - in a way this is marriage without the ceremony and piece of paper saying you are married. Living together is hard on a relationship, and besides if you are both sure that you are going to be together for ever there really is no sense in rushing in enjoy your time together and for your tenth anniversary together tie the knot.

Answer 2

If you move in together, there is a chance that you will get pregnant and have to get married whether you want to or not, and the fact that you have been on and off based upon rumors means that you are not yet ready to be married. The first thing you should do is to get some counseling together and make sure he is as serious about this as you are and that he realizes - and you do as well - that your life will change when you're married. You have to plan ahead for such things as how are you going to survive, whether he has the only job or you both have to work, whether either of you want to go to college, and even when to plan to have a baby. If you discuss all these things and can agree on the answers, then perhaps you are ready to get married but the longer you wait, the more you will learn about each other and the more reason you will love each other or be glad that you didn't marry if the rumors turn out to be true. Good luck to you whatever you decide

Answer 3

If you have to ask on Yahoo Answers whether or not you should get married, then you know deep down you are not ready. I understand you love each other and want to be together. I understand you can't imagine yourselves with anyone else. But, you included in your question the fact that you were off and on. Why? You are listening to people telling you are too young and you wonder if they are right. There should be no doubt in the decision to marry. When the day comes and you are ready to decide for yourselves without listening to others, then you will know what to do. Wait until you are sure. You won't regret it. Marriage is the last thing you want to rush into.

Answer 4

I know this isn't what you want to hear but, yes you are too young and evol is right about older people( who know from experience) you should wait to see if this is what you want. what is the big hurry if you guys have been having problems do you think this is the solution to prove to the rumor spreaders that you are past that, because that is a horrible reason to get married
why do you think the divorce rate is so high? think of this. out of all the married people you know that got married young how many are still together 20,10, or even 5 years later?
i am 36 and i can honestly say that my morals, ethics, and points of views on simple every day life things have changed drastically from 18 to 25 and even more from 25 to 30
if you two love each other you owe it to you self to wait. what is it going to hurt to wait a year or two if your still together isn't that what important

Answer 5

I just turned 20 and my fiance is 19... people just say that as an age thing cuz they're old and think you should wait to see if its really what you want. We moved in together too, and I kinda wish some times that we woulda waited to do that until we were married, but still, I'm so glad we did! I love spending the extra time with him!! I don't think you're too young. You're an adult legally now, so you can make up your own mind and choose whatever you want. It's your choice, if its really what you want, then good luck and go for it :)

Answer 6

If you're ready to comit, get married and don't just move in together. Ultimately, the decision is up to you, but be sure it's really what you both want before you make that kind of a comittment. Living together first is definitely not the answer.

Answer 7

Marriage does not fix things, just like kids don't fix a marriage.

You are not ready to be married yet. You need to fix the problems you have and work on having a GREAT relationship before you get married. Don't be like all the other couples out there. Do the right thing and make things good between you two before you rush into marriage.

BTW: I do not think you are to young, I was 20 when I got married. I just don't think your relationship is as stable as you think.

Answer 8

If you're absolutely sure, you should get married. Who cares how old you are?? My parents got married when they were 21, and they're still together! :D I'm 18, and even I'm thinking of getting married to my boyfriend this soon, which is saying a lot because marriage is a huge deal to me. But anyways...If you love him, then why not?

But if there's even 1% doubt in your mind, move in together and wait. Waiting is always better than jumping into something too soon and regretting it later.

Best of luck! :D

Answer 9

DON'T DO IT. If you are on and off, you are not ready to get married. You should give it a test run of at least 1 year living together. If, after that one year you can still stand each other then think about an engagement for another year. You will have made up your mind by then.

Answer 10

I think you both should go your seperate ways for awhile. I think you both will regret the fact that you married way to young and did not get to experience life in your early 20's. Getting married and living together is not as great as you might think it is, it takes work. You will be thinking as time goes by that you missed out on meeting other guys and seeing what it is like to date them. Have fun before you jump into a relationship like that.