Why so much disrespect for working single moms?

Question

Ironically it is mostly from us women?

Answer 1

That can't be right surely it's the non working single moms that get the disrespect.

edit: Thanks ProfessorC you may become a fan if you wish. lol.

Answer 2

When you are a single mother and you work to support your child and NOT get handouts from anyone you are a bad parent. when you stay home and not work and take handouts your a bad parent. see the pattern?

As for me I work 3 jobs and i find BOTH genders say some things to me. I didn't set out to be a single mother but I am so I deal with it. my Daughter stays with a older lady who Loves her. she has the best time with her. and she only stays there every other day for 8 hours. all the other time i am with her. after all I don't want to miss much time with her since she is only a year old.

Like i said before in a perfect world there would be NO single parents, but this is NOT a perfect world only for a few who think they are sin less and perfect. which I am not. God Bless

Answer 3

I only have disrespect for single working moms who chose to be single moms without adequately preparing for it in the financial sense. It isn't right to dump the guy and THEN go back to work. You either need a job or some money saved up. Luckily, most women who choose to be single mothers can support themselves and their kids well.

Answer 4

I get a kick out of people who knock a woman who's working and leaving her kids with someone else. What do you want her to do??? Everyone screams about welfare, and yet give it to those who don't need it. You don't want to help her care for her children, but then you don't want her leaving them with someone else!! Hello.... where is the logic and sanity here?!

And dare I say that if we were taking care of our own here in America and not everyone else, maybe there wouldn't be such a problem with taxes and welfare????? Then again, that would be another topic....

Answer 5

Really? I admire single women who manage to balance family and careers - they prove that if you put your mind to things, you can succeed at anything.

Its not just single mothers, but single parents. Having been raised by a single parent (father) and knowing first hand the kinds of suffering and sacrifices they go through so their children can have the best of all things, I am very sympathetic to single parents. Far from disrespecting them, I look upon them as one of society's unrecognised heros.

Answer 6

Two times in one day where I agree with Johno is a record.

It's the non working single moms on welfare that annoy me. I have worked hard all of my life- and had a child with a serious illness as well. Why should they sit home and watch TV while I support them.

Answer 7

Have you been to the "parenting" section? As Ember Halo answered one my Q's over there, there's a certain breed of holier-than-thou nastiness over there. People are constantly telling people they should have their children taken away for the most ridiculous things. I've gotten a lot of attitude on account of my partner and I not being married. And not too long ago someone said my bf should have his child taken away from him, since I (yeah, not even my child, go figure) was obviously not mature enough. There reason? I used the term "baby-momma" (not my favorite term either, but damn, you only get so much space for the title of a question, and "mother of my partner's child" was just too long).

Wow. That was a rant. Anyway, to answer your question, I think there are certain areas people feel provide them a good opportunity to get up on their high horse and look down on anyone who's situation deviates from the norm. Child rearing certainly seems to be one of them.

Answer 8

How much disrespect is there - more than a bushel? Manifested how?

Pardon my answering your question with questions but you give no evidence of anything. What you see may not be what I see may not be what Ms. X sees...

Answer 9

I don't understand it either. Single parents should be commended for trying to keep their families together instead of pawning their children off on relatives or sending them into foster care. Sometimes marriages don't work out and it is much better for children if they live with a single parent than two parents who fight with each other or don't speak to each other unless they have to.

Answer 10

Because, in the U.S., the majority of moms work and the minority of moms stay home. There is naturally deep fear and neurotic defensive behaviors among minorities in social divides during any change that threatens to sweep their ways out from under their feet. And, because a self-sufficient woman rattles old notions and old ways and challenges a woman's feelings of self-worth. Many stay-at-home moms question themselves and wonder if they could support themselves and their children if they ever had to.