Why do women destroy their marriages and relationships then complain they can't find anyone decent?

Question

I know a lot of men that are decent hard working that are divorced, and a lot of divorced women. Yet, men seem to never be able to find a women, and women say they can't find a man. Most of the women I know or have seen at work divorce perfectly good men, and then they slowly go down the tubes. Other women even encourage them to "get a divorce" and "take him for everything." Yet, a few years down the road, the guy is either re married or doing well financially, but she has spent all the money, the car she got in the marriage is breaking down 4 years later, and the shingles are falling off the house. It seems so self destructive. Why are women self destructive?

Nah, whenever I hear of a divorce it is mostly always the women that initiated it and wants it for even the most silly reasons. I guess they want to control men and get their way all the time. Why are they like this.

Funny daisy, 30 years ago men said women were dumb and women yelled that they are smart and equal. Now look, women like you say men are dumb. I guess men shoulda never let u women outa the kitchen and should have just stayed chavonists.

I know many women are capable of caring for themselves, well now at least, since men opened up jobs to them. Still, why do women prefer working for a man as opposed to a women? Maybe cause they can "get over" I really believe in equal rights, and I really think women should have to sign up for the draft just like men. Yet, you don't see women marching on Washington for the right to sign up for the draft, do u sugar?

I am being honest here, are you? Women destroy their marriages and they want to have the complete say in relationships, get their way, and control the man. The EXACT thing women accused men of doing to them 40 years ago. Funny. I guess the men were right.

Answer 1

I know woman just like this. They are just lost souls. They don't have any self esteem and aren't very smart. People who think they will find something better on the other side of the fence almost NEVER does. I can't think of one case where it worked out for the better when they jumped ship for greener pastures. Oh, and... they usually have expectations that are too high for anybody to fulfill. I stayed single for along time just to make sure I was going to get the right man for me. He's not perfect... many flaws (but so do I) But, he is kind, and gentle, and is a wonderful father.
Some marry because they think... this is as good as it's going to get. That's the opposite of high expectations... these woman have expectations that are too low... so, they are going into it already in the "it's going to fail" mind frame. Sad, I know.
You have to understand... both ways... people are not perfect. Nobody is. But, hey... this is not just women who do this... I've seen many a man think the same way, and usually end up worse in the long run.

Answer 2

Its not just women it's men as well so when asking a question like this look from both sexes not just 1 sex because your the opposite sex.

With that said.

Human being's destroy marriages because they become comfortable in their marriage's the romancing has stopped when the courtship ended , so they dont feel that they have to try anymore and then 1 morning they wake up and realise that their life sucks and it's boring and instead of trying to light a spark up under their own butt's or the butt's of their spouse they look outside of the relationship and if they cant find what their looking for they tend to just lash out and ruin the good thing they have emotionally , verbally and physically.

It isnt until after the damage is done and the spouse is gone that they realise what they had wasnt that bad , and that the grass wasnt greener on the other side but its to late.

A lot also come's from abuse as a child wether it be physical or mental abuse , if their parents were abusive and divorced usually the child will follow , if the child was sexually abused the reason behind the marriage was security and naivety in believing the spouse will protect them and when the spouse doesnt or can't protect them then they hit the self destruct button.

There are a lot of variable's to this situation , it's sad and a lot end up alone till death because they thought they wanted something else.Only to find out they had everything they needed right in front of them all it needed was effort.

Answer 3

Because we're stupid at times! So are men...so don't think you're totally off the hook. It's true--we want good men but then when we get them, we think that we need that "Bad Boy". So we go off and find one, then try to change him into the "Good Boy". It's been going on since the beginning of time. Everything we have we can't be happy with because it makes us wonder if there isn't someone else out there. I think that's just a part of being human beings, honestly.

Is there a solution? I don't know. I'm tempted at times to divorce my husband, but I've never come to the point where I've left the house. I told him before I got to that point so that he could know what I was going through. I've been honest with him and tried to give him what he wants/needs and hope to get the same from him. Of course, we can't all get what we need all the time--that's just the way things go.

I think too often, people are very willing to say goodbye to a relationship because they think it'll be much easier without the other person...and then when they're without a man, they wonder why it is that they can't find any good men. Also, with women entering the workforce at such a high rate, they know that they can now provide for themselves, so they don't have to depend on men to get what they need. This isn't like it was back in the "Leave It To Beaver" ages.

In answer to your question on why the self-destruction, I think also that as a society, we want everything and we want it NOW.

Answer 4

Why do men do the same thing?
Women haven't cornered the market on "self destructive", you know.
I thought I had Prince Charming, but he turned out to be a frog.

BTW, I signed up to join the Marines the day I turned 18.

Answer 5

Well thats easy, women are crazy!! They spend to much time looking for men to change rather then looking for a man who suites them. I've been married to my husband for almost 3 years and there are lots of times I wish that I could tell him to do something differently and he would comply. But I know thats not going to happen and I know that if I expect it to happen that our marriage will end in a divorce. I love my husband and although there are things I wish I could change, I don't. Because I married him for who he was not what I wanted him to be. Because of that I'm a great wife who has a great husband. We are very happy and I know that we will be spending our live togeather forever.

Answer 6

I think it happens more the other way around. A man becomes successful and then divorces a perfectly good wife for a younger and prettier version just because he can! Then he ends up miserable and missing his old wife, or someone his age. Not only that but its much harder for an aging woman to fnd a man, because most of them are either married or more attracted to younger women.

Answer 7

It really depends on the person, it's not always the women's but...My fiance has an excellent paying job, a house etc...and the ex-wife cheated on him multiple times..she has 5 kids from 4 different me...they only have 1 kid together..the oldest one. She tried to get back with him while she was 6 months pregnant with another guys baby. Now she is struggling.......I know of men who messed up also..My exbother-in-law....good thing my sister was the money maker in her relationship...now her ex is a bum while my sister is in a nice home..my sister's ex regrets leaving my sister...so it goes both ways!!!

Answer 8

Because usually women are willing to drive a breaking down car and have shingles falling off of the roof to be away from a loser of a husband!

It is called independence, not self destruction....

Answer 9

We allways ***** because of the fact the way men manage us. There are some stable men available yet I have been given some crappy ones. I heavily does not prefer to get married or in a relationship ideal now. I been harm by potential of fellows those I been with are not any stable.

Answer 10

Give me a break, not all women are incapable of pulling up their boot straps and carry on without the help of some dingbat man. Sounds like someone is a tad bit disgruntled by a relationship gone south or sour. Boo Hoo suck it up!