My husband and I always go on a vacation at Christmas. Two years ago, we spent a week in Florida (last year was a week in Hawaii). This year, I thought we'd go visit my grandma and then spend the rest of the week in Florida. A few months ago, some friends said they were going to Argentina and asked if we wanted to go with, but I kind of shrugged it off. Now, my husband says he really wants to go, but I do not. He has an answer for every obstacle, besides the one that I just don't want to go (can't afford it: his mom will pay for our tickets, etc.). He says he just doesn't want to spend any more time in Florida. What's the best solution?
2007-10-16 11:39:31 · 12 answers · asked by lucy_d 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Last year our trip to Hawaii was with these same friends. He wanted to go with these friends then, and I agreed.
Also, the trip to Argentina is at least a 14-hour flight. In addition to the 14 hours it will take to get from our home to Florida...
2007-10-16 11:45:46 · update #1
i see no reason to take a trip u cant afford to pay for on ur own. mom wont be around forever and then what will he do.
2007-10-16 11:46:44 · answer #1 · answered by forktail_devil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A marriage is two people coming together because of love but that doesn't mean that they have to always be together in everything. If he wanted to climb Mt Everest, would you go? For this one vacation, you go to Florida and he goes to Argentina and then perhaps joins you in Florida for a day or two, or you just meet again when you get home. Your best argument is that your grandma is getting older and may not be there next year, kiss him, tell him you love him, hand him a camera and tell him to take plenty of pictures and you can share that vacation when he returns. You can enjoy the vacation without all of the exertion involved.
2007-10-16 11:50:45 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If separate vacations are out of the question, then I would do what the first response said--take a little bit of time to go to Florida and then also go to Argentina. Or if the times just won't work out that way, go see your Grandma shortly after Christmas...or sometime throughout the year.
2007-10-16 11:45:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This depends on the relationship you have with your husband. Many religious people belief that the man is the leader of the household. Now, if that's the case then you'd need to submit to your spouse. But if your relationship is not based on that, you need to ask him, Why do you prefer to go to Argentina? Then, you need to look at yourself and your reasons you want to go to Florida. Also it's good to ask yourself, what are the disadvantages of going to Argentina and is it worth to have a disagreement over it.
To prevent a fight, listen to his side. Actually try to reason with what he is saying and try to understand. And keep a soft tone.
- I see your additional details. Try and reason with him that you want to change things up this Christmas and that you want to spend the week with your grandma and him instead of the group of friends. Just remember marriage is about making the other person happy as well. I really hope you guys can come to an agreement! :)
2007-10-16 11:51:51 · answer #4 · answered by Marriage Woman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hm mm.... how about you go see Gma on your own and do the Argentina trip with the hubby and friends. It sounds like a great adventure. Be sure to invite hubby on the gma trip. It sounds like you have pretty good communication and that you are sensitive to his feelings. I have to believe he is probably a lot like you just a little bit more of a tiger. Have a great time in both places. Grandmothers are very special and time is somewhat limited by age. Argentina with friends might me a once in a life time opportunity too. Go for the gold.
2007-10-16 11:47:19 · answer #5 · answered by ontheedge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christmas is the hardest time for married couples. deciding where to go. That really sucks. If you dont' want to go, make sure he knows the real reasons why you dont' want to go. Dont lie to him and tell him you can't afford it. you two need to come to a resolution of who picks what each year. You gotta be fair. That's the only way to do it.
2007-10-16 11:44:53 · answer #6 · answered by mannasox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you too should decide on a place that you BOTH like. I also think that YOU and YOUR HUSBAND should just go to a place together without the friends for a while. But then that is my opinion. I hope you guys agree on somethng great!
2007-10-16 11:54:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you know the answer already...you already went to Florida so go somewhere else!
2007-10-16 11:44:34 · answer #8 · answered by ms_sokin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can you take a mini trip to visit your grandma (before x-mas) and spend x-mas with your husbend and friends?
2007-10-16 11:43:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Last year you had it your way this year let him have it his way. You visited your Grandma let him do what he wants to.
2007-10-16 11:43:12 · answer #10 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋