What signs/characteristics do think give ideas of someones self esteem?

Question

And what do you think is a good question to ask someone to see whether they have high/low self esteem without seeming too obvious?!

Answer 1

Believe it or not--you cant judge people's self esteem by their clothes. Some people with high self esteem wear crummy clothes, and vice versa.

If you want to see someone's self esteem--watch to see if they allow people to mistreat them or abuse them--thats the REAL test. See if they have a spouse, mate, or friend who uses them, puts them down, or crticizes them. People with high self esteem dont allow others to abuse or mistreat them. People with high self esteem usually have friends & spouses who treat them very well.

I have a friend who many people would think has high self esteem--she dresses nice, has a great job, and will always stand up for herself in public. But behind closed doors, she's dated men who have stolen her money & used her over and over again. Inside, she has low self esteem stemming from childhood.

So--look at the people who they are surrounded by.

Answer 2

When someone has low self esteem, they may have difficulty maintaining eye contact. Check condition of clothes/hair/nails. If unkempt or a tad neglected, it shows that the person isn't taking care of themselves and may have esteem issues.
However, people sometimes overcompensate for lack of self esteem by 'blagging' about how great they are, becoming defensive against personal criticism. Some women might look immaculate at the grocery store and school gate, but can't leave the house without make-up.

Answer 3

True Self-ishness always leads to joy, because it
is motivated always by the desire to feel as good
as possible. It is only when we are Self-ish
enough to be, do and act in accordance with our
desires (not someone else’s) that it is possible
to stay balanced. Energetically speaking, a desire
is a rush of life force energy, a connection to
the divine inner self, which can never result in
actions that are harmful. It is only when true
desires are blocked that they become twisted and
ugly. This statement goes against the common
wisdom that human nature is greedy, violent and
primitive. Human nature is precisely the opposite:
we are born knowing ourselves as powerful,
eternal, spiritual beings. Petty, competitive,
churlish and violent behavior must be overcome
with suitable practice. Observe your family,
friends and coworkers. Almost all of them are good
people, trying to do the best they can. It would
simply not be possible to build a sophisticated
society if human nature was so base. All
successful societies are based upon cooperation,
not competition. Competition works not because it
is adversarial, but because it inspires teamwork.
Ask two angry guys to get something constructive
done, it is not going to happen. All success is
based upon cooperation. That is because we live in
an attraction based universe.

These natural impulses are supposed to be
dangerous because they stem from a primitive
survival instinct. But human being has a better
mind than animals. Just look around at the mess
the world is in! But that is a delusional
assertion, a denial of the basic nature of
consciousness itself. The natural impulses of
human nature stem from a connection to life force,
and it is resistance to this divine impulse which
causes the selfish behavior people object to.

If you observe people you will quickly see that
those persons who are most alive are full of
desire, and those who look lifeless have little or
no desire. Desire = life force. Shut off desire =
selfish behavior. It's ironic that selfish
behavior actually results from self-denial.

Human nature is not a primitive, biological
instinct based on survival of the fittest, it’s a
pure connection to source energy. It is divine.
It's only when that connection is closed off that
selfish behavior is demonstrated. Every one of
your desires is, in its non-resisted state, joyful
and balanced, because that is an inherent property
of consciousness itself. True selfishness is
allowance of desire, without resistance, and
results in the impulse to give freely to others.
But it is first necessary to allow that impulse
within yourself.

http://kjmaclean.com/Selfishness.html

Answer 4

good eye contact - walks and sits with head up looking around and forward not at the ground.
smiles easily and makes conversation easily.

however - a person without these things may not have low self esteem they may just be a little shy - a little lacking in confidence - low self esteem is much deeper.

don't ask someone about their self esteem - if you suspect it is low or they are a little shy then put them at their ease with your company - show interest in them - asking them would just make them feel worse.

Answer 5

Don`t! Look at the body language, I have a habit of holding my arm with with my other hand or crossing my arms. (Low self esteem) or look to see how there eye contact is (do they look down or away?)

Answer 6

Ask them for their screen name or email address. If it's [e-mail] or [e-mail], then NO MATTER how insecure they say they are, theyre full of it.

I'm insecure and i'd never have an email address like hot_chick because i'd be terrified someone would say "you? HOT? As if! You're disgusting!!!"