OKKAY..the facts are my b.f just turned 19 on august 30 and i just turned 16 on september 1.im a junior in high school and i live with my mom and step dad. i have been dating this boy for about 3 months now [we got together july 15,he was 18 i was 15]my mom does NOT let me date him she refuses to let me have a boyfriend.if i got pregnany by him could she send him to jail or any of that,like couls she keep him from me?and my mom always said if i got pregnant before i graduated she would MAKE me get an abortion,me & my b.f are STRONGLY against abortion.so does she legally have the right to MAKE me get one?since im underage and in school?would she be able to keep me away from the babys father?help i dont know what to do its all so scary,me and my b.f want a baby really bad,but im so scarred about my mom keeping me from him and making me have an abortion,im not worried bout getting kicked out or anything cause my b.f can get us a place.i need to kno all info about anything relayed to this.
2007-10-16 11:08:48 · 13 answers · asked by --Kix <3 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I believe that each state's abortion laws are different. Try checking with an attorney (many will give a free 30 minute telephone consultation--check your phone book's business section). If the attorney can't/won't give you an answer, you might try calling a Planned Parenthood-type clinic...or maybe even an abortion clinic...either should be able to give you some guidance.
That being said...for everyone's sake, I hope it turns out that you're not pregnant yet. You're barely 16, and haven't been dating this guy for all that long in the grand scheme of things. Take your time in the relationship. Finish school. Try to enjoy your last couple of years in high school. If you're truly meant to be together, and have children together, you'll have plenty of time for both after graduation.
2007-10-16 11:28:45 · answer #1 · answered by Sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I do not believe your mom can make you have an abortion. And you are wise in knowing that abortion is wrong but if you are not pregnant ou should not try to get pregnant because it is very hard raising a baby when you are so young I know because I was pregnant at sixteen too. I had my parents support which was fantastic and with their help I finished high school by correspodance. I feel your pain of being pressured into an abortion and be forwarned your mother my threaten to do lots of mean things just so you give in and have an abortion. My advice would be to find someone or some orginization that supports your feelings in this matter because you are going to need all the support you can get if you are going against your mother
good luck
2007-10-16 12:19:27 · answer #2 · answered by harmonyjoy5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not 18 yet, then yes... your mom is still the "boss" of you. She can arrange for you to get and abortion. If you really want a kid... kid(s) then I suggest that you wain until you planted your feet on the ground... do you have the money? a place to stay? are you really ready to start a family? you have to buy diapers. buy baby food. buy so many things and you just need to ask yourself... are you ready? You only get a few hours of sleep because the baby cries at night too. It needs to be feed at night. It needs to be changed. Your b.f might say now that he'll always be there but can you really, really, really, trust him? If you're ready to go through with it then at least prepare yourself. and yes, your b.f could get arrested if he's 18 and your under 18... just think about it before you decide anything. Make sure you have the money though... it's very important... please think it completely through.
2007-10-18 15:55:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes your mom can get him sent to jail. I have a family member that got a 21 year old sent to jail for being with a 16 year old. But about the abortion. I am strongly against it also and so is my family. I am 14 and have a 3 month old. I will admit that it is NOT the easiest job in the world. Lots of sleepless nights but I would never regret having a baby. To answer your question no your mom can not make you get an abortion. Yes she can keep you away from the father.
2007-10-16 11:19:57 · answer #4 · answered by נєѕѕι¢α (ανα'ѕ мσмму) 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Well yes she can send him to jail because of the age that he is. However she cannot have a say in you getting an abortion. Just try sitting down and talking to her about it and say how you feel about her trying to control your relationship with your boyfriend. I am 18 yrs. old and pregnant and I thought when I told my mom she would flip because my boyfriend is 37 and already has 3 kids of his own. But when I told her she was totally understanding.
2007-10-16 11:22:07 · answer #5 · answered by cassandra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your boyfriend should also know that since you are under 18, he is legally committing statutory rape. You did not have the legal right to consent to sex, and will not until you are 18. Your boyfriend can go to jail for this. As to whether your parents can force you to have an abortion, go to Planned Parenthood in your area for information and counseling.
http://www.plannedparenthood.org
2007-10-16 11:54:05 · answer #6 · answered by Jeanne B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
to start off you need to find out if you are pregnant for sure. Pregnancy scares are very common among teenage girls. as far as the law goes the age of consent is 16. that means that people under the age of 16 are not allowed to consent to sex with anyone, especially someone older than that. at least that is the age in my state. you should go to http://www.ageofconsent.com/ageofconsent.htm and look up the state that you live in. if you were under the age of consent legally your parents could press charges on you boyfriend for statutory rape. Statutory rape is the crime that someone can be charged with if they have sex with a person who has not reached the age of consent but who agrees to have sex. or you could try looking up the age of consent in your state at http://www.actwin.com/eatonohio/gay/consent.htm unfortunately in these circumstances your parents have more say then seems legal. they are able to press charges against your boyfriend if you were not of age, and courts can be persuaded into a restraining order from your bf by your parents. if your parents kick you out that sucks, but if you live in their house they tend to have more power over you. if you want to keep this baby you would probably have to start by being annulled. i hope this all turns out to be a scare, because the circumstancecs for bringing a child into this world under those conditions will be very hard. i hope it all works out for you. Good luck…
2007-10-16 11:30:01 · answer #7 · answered by Chelsea S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In most states, if your bf/gf is 5 years or over it is stachatory rape if you are under 16. but it depends on your state. i would do some research before you make your decision. also if you can prove to the courts you can support and job, stay in school, and have a place to live you can get emancipated (sp?) but beware if you do that you may lose all ties to your family.
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2016-10-07 01:33:08 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom always told me that too.. and here i am... 18 and pregnant... not married. but my bf and i have been together for over 4 years... so yea... i havnt told her yet. but if shes that pissed and is gonna :"make me get one" then im outta here... i DONT believe in abortion... not one bit. and if she pushed me out now... whats gonna happen after the baby is born and she wants to see it and love it? "i dont know then mom..." we'll see. good luck with that. and if you want to talk at all about anything... feel free to email me... ooxxtruelovexxoo@yahoo.com
2007-10-16 14:45:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋