How do I make her understand?

Question

My best friend is not really popular or anything. But recently, one of the really cute guys started talking to her. And like, me and her don't really have a set "group" inside of school. And I'm sick of all my friends who are close going to other schools. But, her and this guy started talking and have become really close and like, I am friends with the guy too. But like, she is hanging out with their whole popular group now and it's just like "what about me?" i keep hinting to her that all of us need to hang out outside of school and she just keeps saying that she doesn't think that that is such a good idea. I want to hang out with them but she is just not getting the hint. What should I do? (And when I say them I just don't mean her and him, I mean like his whole group.)

i can use the word "like" as many times as i want thank you very much!

Answer 1

I think she does get the hint and is purposely leaving you out. She might not be doing it to really be mean to you , but she probably feels a little good about being in with this group considering she is not popular and just doesn't want to share this with you. She may even be worried that if you start hanging out with them, they may like you more and she will get less attention. I say tell her exactly how you feel and that it is very strange that she doesn't think you all hanging out is a good idea. See what she says and hopefully you can resolve it. If it doesn't end well, i guarantee you she will look for you once the newness of the new group wears off or they turn on her, which happens. Good luck, I know this stuff is tough when you're in school!

Answer 2

Well stop trying to hang out with all of them. Maybe starting to hang out with just her and him may be a good idea. And then get into the whole group.

But for starters get her alone and tell her how you feel. That you are left out now. And that it isn't fair. I've been through this before. if she really cares about your guys' friendship then she will try to help you out.

And if the guy ends up not likeing you and then tell sher not to hang out with you then you've got a problem. Because then she will either choose you or him. It may pressure her a lot. Give her some space if this happens. But if she does end up picking him over you she was not a very good friend to begin with.

I hope this helps.

Answer 3

I say she is getting the hint but she simply doesn't want you there.I think she a little insecure about her self and she may think that you will steal this so called cute guy from her.What i would recommend is that, ignore her until she realizes that you are more important and if she doesn't than she was never your best friend.Try to find a new group of people to hang out with and pay no attention to her and see what she does.You will only see her true colors when the fear of loosing you is involved.

Answer 4

She is choosing to be with the group instead of you. I am sorry to tell you she has got the hint that you want to hang with the group, but she is trying to brush you off. My advice to you is to make new and better friends. The two of you are young, believe me this guy will not last forever and soon as he is gone she will want to hang with you again. If I was you I would let her know how you feel about how she is treating you and see what she has to say about it

Answer 5

Tell her you feel left out. It's really simple. She's not going to read your mind. You have to let her know how you feel, not hint. If she doesn't think it is a good idea for you to hang out with her new friends, chances are she is afraid of you being friends with them for a reason. Ask her why that is. She could be trying to let you down slowly, but remember, when she gets let down by them, she will want you back and you will have to decide if you want to be the better person.

Answer 6

To start out with sweetie, you seriously need to take the word "like" out of your vocabulary. Because if you say it half as much as you said it in your question, then that might be your problem....lol, no i am just kidding, maybe they are starting to really like one another and just want to spend some alone time together, and believe you do not want to be the third wheel...no fun.... just make a date with her to hang out with just her. I understand he is your friend too, but obvisiouly he likes her alot and sometimes that happens you need to be the bigger person and just respect that, and soon it will all work its self out. Good luck!!

Answer 7

if she's not interested in including you, don't pressure her. find friends that want to spend time with you. maybe she no longer enjoys your company. or maybe she thinks the group would not accept you. let it go and find other friends. this path is just a path to pain.
she probably KNOWS you want to hang out with them but it's not what she wants. You can't force someone to hang out with you or like you. So cry a little bit and call your other friends to make fun plans with them. Or invite her to something for just the two of you.

Answer 8

Well , if she doesn't wanna hang out like you said.
&& shes not inviting you to hang out with the whole group.
What kind of friend is she?

&& what the heck is up with the "popular" group.
Why would you wanna be with them .

I only have 3 really close friends.
And I only hang out with them .


And I tend to be different.
Cause I dont wanna be like other people .

Answer 9

Can you just start hanging out with them? You said you are friends with the boy also. Tell her you feel a bit left out and would like to come along. A true friend will understand

Answer 10

Well, I assume she forgot that you are around because she has a guy who wants to talk to her and a whole new group. I suggest you, stick with your school issues. You don't need a group to hand out with. During lunch time you can keep yourself busy by working at school offices and making new friends there and learning something new. You will look smart and make better friends. Don't go after her, she will realize it one day and talk to you herself.