OK, so I used to be friends with this girl, and then at the end of 7th grade (last year) she ditched us as friends, and we didn't even do anything! So my friends and I decided not to be her friends again.
So then, about a week ago, she told us she was sorry and asked if we would be her friends again. They said yes, but I said no. I mean, seriously. She's just going to be annoying like she was the years before, and will probably ditch us again. I told my friends that they were giving in too easily, and then they got all mad at me!!
But seriously, a simple "I'm sorry" and best friends again? I mean, it wasn't like a one day thing. We weren't friends with her for five months!!
2007-10-16 10:36:30 · 6 answers · asked by Miss New Jersey =] 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
yea, but she was also annoying before that too. Like, she bragged about being a model (which she isn't even one, she just got an agent) and always said how fat she was, even though she was stick thin, just so we would have to be like "oh, you're not fat. you're thin"
rrr, I think I hated her before she ditched us
2007-10-16 10:52:40 · update #1
Everyone makes mistakes. She was just confused and didn't know how to handle it. Everyone needs friends to help them. I know it's hard to accept, but be her friend again. Try to forgive her. Know that even you have made mistakes and need forgiveness for what you have done.
Remember what Jesus did for the adulturer in the Bible. When asked what to do with her after she had sinned, he didn't say condem her, or stone her as they wanted to do. He said, "He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her." I'm sorry if you're not a Christain, but this is a good principle. Know that even you have made mistakes, and try to forgive her.
2007-10-16 10:44:45 · answer #1 · answered by John 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive and forget. Life is too short to spend being mad at someone. I do agree though that a simple Im sorry shouldn't be enough but you should always give someone another chance. Ten years down the road, the little things wont matter and who knows, maybe someday you will need someone and she'll be the one to help you!!
2007-10-16 17:41:58 · answer #2 · answered by jenluvslife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm,5 months is a long time!i don't think that she is sorry,i think that she just wants to use you,for some reason!it would take more than a "sorry"to make me want to take her back as a friend!but,if she is sincere and sees her mistake,i'd give her a second chance!but then again,if she was annoying before,she is still going to be annoying!
well,if you don't want to lose your other friends,you're going to have to respect their decision,and either be her friend again,or lose your other friends!
if she is going to ditch,you guys again,then at least YOU won't be fooled,let your other friends learn the hard way!
2007-10-16 18:02:34 · answer #3 · answered by ....FED UP............ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with you she will probably do it again because she thinks ull just give in really easily. I would first find out why she left u guys and tell her how you feel and i feel like the same way as you. My friend stopped hanging out with me and turned some ppl against me but its all good she hast changed at all since we stopped being friends and im fine with that i dont think i liked her either b4 we stopped being friends
2007-10-16 18:00:33 · answer #4 · answered by 10\/3you 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were right to be honest about your feelings. But you need to tell HER and not us that her simple apology didn't make up for the hurt she caused you or the length of time she ignored you, and that you need more time and more sincerity from her before you can forgive her.
However, you should consider giving her another chance. People make mistakes and need second chances. Maybe she's learned her lesson.
Also, you should apologize to your other friends for criticizing their decision (and essentially calling them stupid pushovers). For them, the apology was enough; for you, it wasn't. You need to respect their decisions/needs if you want them to respect yours.
2007-10-16 17:43:48 · answer #5 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i absolutely agree, i would just block the person out of my life if she had ditched me, shes prob having troubles with her newe frends so shes comming bak to u. shes kinda using u like a bakup frend.
i duno how u should tell ur other frends. maybe make them realize that shes using u guys
i duno, hope that helped
2007-10-16 17:43:59 · answer #6 · answered by cheeky girl:P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋