Should I go on birth control?

Question

I'm 17 and my step-mom found out that my boyfriend and I have sex. She wants to put me on birth control and I have an appointment for Oct. 31 I am going to have the pills but I dunno if I should take them or not. Katlin said when she was on them they made her sick and miserable, and gave her mood swings like mad, and I already get almost suicidal depressed sometimes. My boyfriend REALLY doesn't want me going on them. He got a girl pregneat about 3 years ago because they didn't use protection and the birth control pills basically worked as an abortion for her. He says they will mess up my uterus and possable prevent me from having kids in the future and it will mess with my digestive track. I told him I wouldn't take them, and we ALWAYS use condoms, but should I or shouldn't I take the pills?

He was very upset about it. He said he would rather not have sex at all then me go on them, but wouldn't he be able to notice the side effects if I went on them after I said I wouldn't. I just don't know what to do.

Answer 1

The only "birth control" that works 100% is not having sex. Yes, birth control pills can make you feel sick (they did me), and yes, they can mess with your reproductive system (particularly if you are on them for years and years).

ALL prescription medications have side effects!!! Just ask a pharmacist! Whether you can feel them or not varies.

Remember: condoms, bcp, etc. can lead people into a false sense of security. They do not prevent people from getting Sexually Transmitted Diseases. All kinds of STDs are transmitted through condoms.

I will say, though, the fact that your boyfriend would rather not have sex than have you go on the pill (because of what it will do to your body), says a LOT about him. It shows he cares more about you than sex.

Answer 2

"He got a girl pregneat about 3 years ago because they didn't use protection and the birth control pills basically worked as an abortion for her. He says they will mess up my uterus and possable prevent me from having kids in the future and it will mess with my digestive track."

His ex probably had a miscarriage that had nothing to do with the pill. Unless she took 7 at one time.

The pill does NOT make it harder to have children. As soon as you stop taking the pill is no longer effective. Trust me.

The pill does NOT "mess up" your uterus.

The pill does NOT "mess up" your digestive tract.

Katlin was probably not on a pill that was right for her. There are a lot of birth control pills out there and it make take some testing them out to find one that is right for you.

When you first begin to take any birth control pill you may experience some nausea, like morning sickness, but if you let your body adjust to the hormones you will most likely be fine in three months. Some pills may make you more emotional, but again, it's a matter of finding the right one for you.

If not, you can try another pill. I've taken four different birth control pills in my lifetime. Some worked for me, some did not.

I wouldn't recommend taking gynecological advice from this boyfriend.

Condoms are not 100%. Neither is the pill. But in conjunction, you are very unlikely to get pregnant.

Ask the DOCTOR to tell you what the pill can and cannot do, not your boyfriend.

What decision is it of your boyfriend to dictate what you do with your body?

Answer 3

Do not listen to people who are NOT doctors.

Kaitlin most likely just had a pill that did not agree with her. Sometimes you have to give it a bit to find the correct pill that works for you.

The girl he got pregnant, you do not know all the details about. Perhaps there were other health issues with her.

Talk to your doctor about your concerns. If YOU do not want to go on birth control after you talk to your doctor, tell them!

Condoms are only 99%. As is any contraceptive. Doubling up (condoms and pills) will help even more.

It is YOUR body and ultimately YOUR decision.

Answer 4

WELL I AM GLAD THAT YOU ARE GONNA SEE A DR ABOUT THE PILL BECAUSE SHE WILL EXPLAIN TO YOU THAT WHAT YOUR BOYFRIEND FEARS ABOUT THE PILL IS UNTRUE.
THE PILL CAN NOT BE USED TO CAUSE AN ABORTION. THE EX MOST LIKELY GOT PREGNANT AND MISCARRIED. SHE COULD OF GOTTEN PREGNANT ON THE PILL ITS NOT 100% BUT IT CAN HAPPEN IF TAKEN IMPROPER OR WITH ANTIBIOTICS.
BUT IT DOES NOT MESS UP YOUR UTERUS. I WAS ON THE PILL OFF AND ON FOR LIKE 10 YEARS, MORE ON THAN OFF, AND I AM FINE. I BECAME PREGNANT RIGHT AWAY AFTER BEING ON IT. AND NOW I AM EXPECTING A LITTLE GIRL.
BUT AS FAR AS YOUR FRIEND BECOMING SICK ON THEM, IT COULD OF BEEN THE SUGAR PILLS OR REMINDER PILLS, THEY CAN MAKE YOU NAUSEOUS. BUT SHE COULD OF JUST BEEN ON THE WRONG PILL. NOW THEY HAVE SO MANY DIFFERENT BRANDS THAT YOUR MOOD SWINGS WILL ALMOST BE NON EXISTENT. YOUR CYCLE CAN BECOME VERY LIGHT AND LAST ONLY A COUPLE OF DAYS. YOUR SKIN CAN BECOME CLEARER AND THE ONLY DOWN SIDE IS THAT YOU HAVE TO TAKE IT EVERYDAY.
BUT YOU CAN STILL CONTINUE TO USE CONDOMS BECAUSE LIKE THE PILL CONDOMS ARE NOT 100% EEITHER. AND THIS WAY YOU HAVE TWO BARRIERS TO HELP PROTECT AGAINST PREGNANCY.
IN MY OPINION ITS REALLY UP TO YOU TO DECIDE WHETHER OR NOT YOU WANT TO USE THE PILL OR NOT. JUST MAKE SURE YOU HAVE CORRECT INFORMATION TO MAKE A WISE CHOICE AND TALK TO YOUR DR ABOUT YOUR CONCERNS AND SUCH, THAT IS WHAT THEY ARE THERE FOR.

Answer 5

honey, i don't know where you heard all of that nonsense about birth control pills.
1. if you are using condoms, they CAN and WILL break at some point. the birth control should be used along with the condoms.
2. alot of birth control pills have virtually no side effects and your doctor will prescribe the one that is best for you.
3. after you get off of the pill and would like to become pregnant in 10 yrs or so, you will have no problem.

i definitely think that your mother is right. and if you think the pill isn't right for you, there are other birth control options like the patch, the shot.....

Answer 6

Then if u get really depressed DONT go on the shot(it screwed my hormones up)!! Check out my New Question please.