My hubby really wants a 3some. We are still young. Been together for 6 and a half years. And he has always wanted a 3some. I am undecided if I should or not. Even if I agree, how would I even find a someone?
2007-10-16 09:26:20 · 20 answers · asked by angie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
it would be with another woman. Not another man.
I have been thinking about it for a really long time. I have never been with a woman before.
I do trust my hubby and I know he trully loves me.
2007-10-16 11:22:42 · update #1
You'd better find out first - how you'd feel if you had one.
Are you okay with watching him with someone else?
Some people find it deepening others dont and are hurt by it
Before you wind up IN that situation - do YOU want it?
2007-10-16 09:30:44 · answer #1 · answered by Alexander Shannon 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
If you have no jealousy in your body, you can have a 3some..
As for #3, you can't order from the deli and you can't just pickup someone off the street.
Assuming #3 is female, have you ever had sex with another woman?
Most of a 3some with 2 girls, involves sex between the girls, while the guy watches (most guys can't stay up long enough to service 2 women)
You should find #3 and get to know her first (an ideal choice would be your best shopping buddy)
and the two of you hookup a few times before hubby gets involved....
The danger of course lies in the fact that one of you may like #3 better....
2007-10-16 16:47:38 · answer #2 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This does not answer your question at all I don't think there is a person that can give you the answer. But notice that every woman that answers thinks of the sex of a 3some as some romantic, intimate thing. It's a FANTASY!! It will be nothing more than that there will not be any love involved. Guys can have sex with someone else and feel nothing except physical. Take that into consideration, that's why it's up to you because it's a very emotional thing for the woman.
2007-10-16 17:29:19 · answer #3 · answered by ducaines1 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
OK, first of all, you really have to think how this would affect YOU. Are you the jealous type? Are you pretty liberal sexually? Do you have any type of moral conflicts about it? How would HE feel if the tables were turned, although I know the answer to that already
If you did do it, it would probably be best if you did this with someone you are not close with or someone you wont see again. And there are PLENTY of ways to go about doing it.
Just go to adultfriendfinder.com.
Thats funny as hell i feel like a spam message now.
But before u do it, consider everything, and how comfortable you would be seeing your hubby with another woman. If you can't handle it, he should respect that, if not, just go to a strip club together!
Let me know if this helps
2007-10-16 16:33:10 · answer #4 · answered by IMSTILLHEREPRAISEHIM 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No No No After 6 years he should be so in love with you he wouldn't want to be with anyone else. The effects off a 3some could result in you guys breaking up. Imagine watching you guy having intimate sex with another girl right in front of you
2007-10-16 17:14:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, don't do it. It would be breaking your marriage vows and your lives would go down hill. Respect for one another is gonna fade away. AND you would be committing Adultry. My gosh, what is he thinking of ? Why would you want him to have anything to do , with another woman ? Sick to the core. What are you, a bi-sexual ? I would tell him NO and forget it. Could be he is just testing you, to see if you would and then he would ditch ya. I guarantee, that your marriage is on the rocks and will be sliding downhill if you go along with this. Never to be forgotten . Probably , you both need your heads examined.
2007-10-16 20:45:09 · answer #6 · answered by Norskeyenta 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Only if you are willing to give him up.
He may like, or you may like, the other woman better.
If you have kids I'd say no. As you don't want to risk ruining their family.
If it's just the two of you, then you probably go married too young. Then if you are willing to end your relationship - go for it.
It's usually the first part in ending a relationship.
2007-10-16 22:46:47 · answer #7 · answered by DRD 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have to ask, then the answer is no. Do not do something which makes you uncomfortable or hesitant. It tales a very strong relationship to engage in 'the lifestyle.' If you're not comfortable with exploring it, then the green headed monster will rise for certain.
2007-10-16 16:32:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why are you undecided? Are you 100% sure you'd be kewl watching him have sex with another woman? If not, then forget the idea...
...otherwise, if you are sure there are no jealousies and insecurities in your relationship, then go nightclubbing together. You may be able to spot some prospects there...
2007-10-16 16:32:22 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
first of all what kind of three some . to girls 1 guy or 2 guys and 1 girl . ask him if u can do 2 guys first and then 2 girl.2nd are u interested in girl in that way at all. talk to him about it in great detail.neither one of u can get jealous after word.then talk bout it after word.
2007-10-16 17:37:11 · answer #10 · answered by dogasstired 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋