Why? Don't you think they can make up their own mind about what's good for them?
2007-10-16 09:01:38 · 17 answers · asked by F-1 says KISS IT! 7 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I guess I have tried to push people away because I am scared I am not good enough or my commitments have and will keep me from giving them my all for which they deserve. I believe they can make up their mind up for themselves for what is good for them but I just did not want to be only partially there for them and I felt that was unfair to them who if I truly love deserves my all and not an on and off, here or there for them. I can wish and have all the physical feelings in the world for a person but if my heart and mind is not there then I am not giving this person the whole person they deserve and maintain a healthy lifelong relationship.
2007-10-16 09:16:08 · answer #1 · answered by Dave aka Spider Monkey 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had 2 miscarriages in 2007 my husband and I never told anyone I was pregnant so when it did happen we only had to deal with it ourselves. Unfortunately I was admitted to hospital with the second miscarriage as they thought it might be ectopic and my husband had to tell his ***** mother as we needed someone to look after our son. She was crying and saying well she should have known I was pregnant (I was only 5 weeks and just found out myself) my own mother didnt even know. A few days later we went round her house and she announced that my husbands cousin was pregnant and SHE had told her mother straight away, couldnt care less about my feelings and the fact Id just lost a baby. Then about a month later we went out for my FIL birthday and because shed had a drink she brought it all up about how she should have known and how it made her feel not once did she ask how I was or how I felt. My husband and I tried to tell her that none of it was about her but it doesnt matter what it is she always turns it around so its about her she has to be centre of attention. She is a chain smoker and smokes while my son is eating or while hes sat on her knee. She gives him crisps and sweets when she knows hes going to have his tea at home. She is basically a horrible person that I have to put up with for my husband.
2016-05-22 23:35:22 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to do that, until one day I realized something very important. God gives us people that are close to us to lift us up when all the others walk out. So, NO! I never push people I love and care about away anymore.
2007-10-17 11:38:53 · answer #3 · answered by Spark of Insanity 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer to the question is "no" - I do not "push" someone away. If anything I am the one who will often get "pushed" out. "Pushing" and "avoiding" are two different terms and I WILL avoid someone but will not push them.
Each person is different however and I can appreciate the different responses you have received on this question.
Best to you!
Gerry :)
2007-10-16 13:17:51 · answer #4 · answered by Gerry 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I typically try to make them see the bad in me, so that they arent under any false pretenses. I do this all the time, I think it is my "push away" tactic.
That way, when they do find out what a loser I am, its not all that surprising!
2007-10-16 09:10:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The person doing the pushing are doing for him-/herself, not for the sake of the other person. People can make decisions on their own.
2007-10-16 14:10:39 · answer #6 · answered by Zombie Birdhouse 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes i have before and it didnt really work that person kept telling me let me all the way in and finally i did but i was really scared because i dont trust a lot of people because of many things that have happened to me in the past.
2007-10-16 09:07:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well not for their own good per se but because I don't agree with what they're doing and there's no way to voice my opinion and keep them as a friend, so i might as well push em
2007-10-16 09:04:54 · answer #8 · answered by Danielle 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He says I didn't push him away. Also I decided to let him go cuz I want him to be happy. I will always love him though. You know who.
2007-10-16 13:58:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ive had the opposite happen to me!! she tried to push me away!! but i wasn't going anywhere and now things are fine!!
2007-10-16 09:15:57 · answer #10 · answered by New York Chic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋