Should I change my doctor?

Question

I'm thinking about getting ready to ttc but I'm almost sure my ob/gyn will not be supportive. She has given me the third degree before on a couple of different issues. She has made me uncomfortable about my weight issues in the past. I love the womens center I go to but I don't feel comfortable with her. What should I do?

Answer 1

Always offer your physician the option of discussing the issue and options before changing doctors. She may make some valid points you have not considered. You may give her some reasons to think it is an appropriate time for you ttc. If not, there in nothing to stop you from finding a new doc then. What do you have to lose by discussing the points.

Answer 2

The bottom line is this.... you have to be comfortable with your doctor. When you get pregnant, you see your doctor A LOT and rely on them for support and guidance. That person should be someone you trust and respect. Whether or not she's right about her concerns is NOT the point... the point is her bedside manner obviously needs some work.

My advice... find a new doctor. You need someone in your corner who will support you, whether you have issues or not.

I am overweight and considered advanced maternal age (which is basically any female over 35 and I'm over 40). My doctor never once made me feel any different than his patients thinner or younger than me. He treated me like any other pregnant female in his office. He was supportive all the way, even with my "issues" that came up. We dealt with them together. This is what you need.

Be good to yourself. Find a doctor you can work with.

Good luck!

Answer 3

My NP used to lecture me on my weight and how I really need to start exercising more. Then when I told her I wanted to TTC, she suggested that I go to a diff doc so he could prescribe me with what I needed. (I have PCOS). Honestly, she was never mean about things but I'm not sure if I would of wanted to use her as my doc. So I switched. The new doc tells me the same thing, that dropping some weight will increase my chances of getting pregnant. But.....he also was very sincere in telling me that the more I loose, the better it will be for the baby, if we get pg.

Tough call but I'd maybe see how she reacts to you wanting to get pregnant and if she still makes you feel uncomfortable, I'd look for a new one.

OH, and if you decide to just TTC on your own, try for year and then if it don't work.....skip the normal doc and see a fertility doctor.

Good luck

Answer 4

You need to decide whether or not the issues that your OB/GYN brings up to you are for your own good or if they're something that is upsetting you because your OB/GYN is simply telling you the truth. Many people get upset at their Dr.'s because the Dr. tells them that they need to loose weight, quit smoking, or make some other lifestyle change. If your OB/GYN has given you the 3rd degree on certain issues then maybe you should listen to what he/she is saying & consider whether or not he/she is saying it for your own good. You may switch OB/GYN's and find that that Dr. says the same things to you.

And lastly, if you have told this Dr. that you're ttc, maybe the issues he/she is bringing up is crucial to the well being of not only yourself but a healthy pregnancy.

Here's a link regarding obesity in pregnancy:
http://www.webmd.com/diet/news/20060203/obesity-increases-risks-in-pregnancy

Good Luck in whatever you do.

Answer 5

I would probably make an appointment there and ask for a check up because you want to ttc. If they give you a hard time, explain to them that this is something you want and are going to do regardless of their recommendations. If she still argues with you or gets upset with you and treats you differently for standing your ground, then I'd switch doctors.

Many women with health problems go on to have successful pregnancies and healhty babies. No matter what you have going on, as long as you are monitored by a doctor you trust then you should also be able to have a healthy pregnancy and baby.

Good Luck... ********sending baby dust your way********

Answer 6

I too have had problems with a care provider, and their lack of sensitivity.

Try seeing if there is another doctor you can see, in the Women's Center.

If not, talk to your doctor about how she's made you feel. She may have valid reasons for being concerned about your weight, but didn't express properly.

Doctors have a very static way of giving information, they don't mince words. What they say can hurt, and they need to know.

So, either opt to switch or face her head on. Either way, good luck!

Answer 7

Definatly go with a doctor you feel comfortable with and one that will respect your wishes. Especially with having a baby, this is one of the biggest desicions you will ever make and one of the biggest joys of life and you dont want anyone to spoil it. I say switch and go with someone who will make you comfortable. In my experience a man Dr is the best. But that is just me. :) God Bless hun.

Answer 8

Why are you thinking it twice. You are uncomfortable = get rid of you doctor. Good luck on ttc.

Answer 9

If you do not feel comfortable with your doctor change him or her.

You want someone you feel comfortable being completely honest with.

It's just in the best interest of your health to be comfortable in your doctor-patient relationship.

Answer 10

Its called mommas intuition. If you dont like your doctor for any reason you need to change. I hate my first obgyn and I had a miscarriage because of something she could have prevented. You need to like and trust your doctor. You are not only putting your life intheir hands you are putting your childs too.