I keep hearing over and over again by men and WOMEN that american women are least suitable for marriage......?

Question

As opposed to women from other countries/cultures. What is your opinion? And please no silly male and female bashing. only good thoughtful answers kindly.
I am an american born from persian decsent and have been told this from many people, mostly Iranians though, who some have happened to marry americans and mostly ended up divorcing.
A female barber told me yesterday that the worst iranian girl is better than the best american one for MARRIAGE. Of course she was exagerating but she sought to get the general Idea across.

Answer 1

I think it tends to be a cultural thing. Most women in America are brought up to think that they're opinion and view of the world has equal value, that they are just as much of a contributor to society as others.

Now I'm not saying that other women from other countries aren't taught this, but a society that raise women according to cultural and religious regulations that tend to instruct women to defer judgment and decision making to their male superiors, father or husband, tends to look at American women as hard to be with because they don't automatically and with out question submit to a man's will.

leelah: are you saying that you don't think that your opinion is just as valid as your husbands. that you view of how you want your life to be is not as valuable as your husbands. Are you saying that you don't think that you contribute as equally to society as your male "superiors"

That's quite unfortunate view to have, but I guess your entitled to it. Although I'm also entitled to feel sorry for you that you hold such a bleak view of your self worth.

Answer 2

I'm from a Caribbean Island. I am friends with an American women and I had the chance to meet some of her American friend. Personally I actually admire them for their Independency and open mindedness. A trait that I sometimes wish the women in my country had.

But on a neutral note... once the relationship is open to communication, both parties love and respect each other... then country of origin or culture should not matter.

Answer 3

I don't know that it's fair to say that we're the least suitable for marriage but it's probably fair to say that American women are among the least suited as a collective whole for the traditional marriage that a Persian (again, speaking in very general terms and of the collective whole) man would expect. I say "among" because I don't think is just applicable to American women rather it's applicable to Western women.

That being said, there are many, many American women who want nothing more than a marriage in which traditional roles apply. I'm from GA and I know a ton of women who would actually prefer to stay at home, raise their children, take care of their husbands and keep their minds focused on domestic and/or traditionally feminine pursuits.

Also, American men are not traditional men. Many take duty and honor lightly. I'm sure those Iranians that you are talking to who are married wouldn't walk out on their wives and children leaving them to fend for themselves while they jet off of the Bahamas with their 19 year old secretary. This very real situation drives a number of women to the workplace and to be aggressive and not put up with a lot of stuff because we have to make sure that we can always provide for ourselves and our families in the event that the men in our lives decide they're ready to bounce.

Answer 4

I'm an American woman and I was found suitable for marriage by a Syrian, as a matter of fact two of them. The first and I divorced for personality differences. The second and I've been married 23 yrs. How did it start? A saudi said I'm not suitable for American men; I believe he's right.
Edit Emily; I was brought up as one of those American woman you just described; only thing is I didn't latch on; chose to do my own thing.
Edit Juniper: Funny how I've often heard American woman say after they've divorced or are married to foreign men how much better American men are; just goes to show you.
You know the major fear, though they accept it, is for the women over here in the ME to have their husbands go out and get a second wife.

Answer 5

They're not any more or any less suitable than women from other countries. The reason you hear that is that there are a lot of American men who have different ideas of what a wife should be and look abroad for mail-order brides because they think American women are too selfish, too spoiled, and too materialistic. These men are chasing dreams. They believe these foreign women are submissive, family-oriented, and fantastic in bed. However, the reality is often quite different. These women only want to come to the US to get away from the poverty back home and they change once they get their green cards and can bring their families over.

Answer 6

It depends a great deal upon what one's idea of marriage is, what one's idea of a wife is.

I have begun, though on the basis of only a few examples, to think that Australian women may be more suited to my temperament. (I have a few good friends who are Australian women.)

But someone else may have very different ideas and expectations.

And regardless of country women everywhere are individuals. The country of origins doesn't determine a woman's character or personality. These are just trends.

EDIT

BTW, The Aussie women I know work hard and play hard and they demand respect in the boardroom and (from what they've told me) the bedroom. They know they're just as smart and just as capable as a man and they know they're entitled to make their own choices about what they pursue in life.

But the also are more laid back, they don't treat every difference of opinion as a male/female thing, and they know how to laugh even at stuff that may be vulgar or juvenile.

(All this is just the Aussie women I know. They could all be exceptional cases.)

Answer 7

American women expect to be treated as an equal to men. With that being said, I believe men from other cultures have a hard time accepting that kind of attitude from American women.

Answer 8

It is true that in other cultures women are raised to take care of their men really well and be happy about it. Many guys would prefer this and with good reason.

I doubt it's all that common in those countries for a wife to divorce a husband and take half to everything he owns.

The odds are certainly better.

But, there are some good American women. It's just not as common because they aren't raised the same way. Single parents aren't as common, either - also makes for better raising.

It's not that American women are more likely to be selfish. Just that where parenting prevents many women from growing up overly selfish in other countries. American society leaves it wide open for women to feel extra entitled and overly selfish.

I personally know some really good American women. None of them look good enough to be on a cover of a magazine. But they are wonderful people, nonetheless.

Also note that guys all have different tastes in women.

Answer 9

Personally, I think most American men are unsuitable for marriage. Their current philosophy seems to be "any wife of mine had BETTER work! I'm not going to be providing for anyone!"

Even the "worst" Iranian girl is going to expect that her husband acts like a man and provides for the family. She is not going to be happy with one of the "egalitarian" guys over here that basically wants to be a roommate with bed privledges, and wants the right to leave her and the kiddies stranded if he decides to leave her and marry someone else instead.

Bottom line? If you want a traditional lifestyle, you may have trouble finding a suitable partner in America. If you want a "liberated" or "egalitarian" lifestyle, no problem. But women are having just as much trouble finding traditional guys for marriage, as men are having trouble finding traditional wives.

Answer 10

I find that western women are a bit agressive after feminism bas been and gone.
They think they must be equal to men; and they think that means to have everything that men have and everything is acceptable to get it.

In addition to that, they also want to have it both ways: Everything that men have, but not the 40 hour working week, and never being told they might be wrong.

In other cultures men and women can be equal, yet not literally 'the same'. I find that much more natural.

Sorry if it turned out to be female bashing :)
It's only a number of women, but they are mostly found in the west.
I prefer women who remain feminine.