My boyfriends daughter is having pain in the lower part of her stomach close to her genitial area and i think that she may need to go see an ob/gyn. Her dad also thinks that she may need to go, but her mom thinks that she is too young. She is 15 years old. Should her dad take her to one even though her mom thinks she is to young. Her parents are divorced and her dad really doesn't do anything without his ex-wifes approval. the thibg is the mom won't even take her to a regular doctor to see if anything is wrong, she just tells her that she is under alot of stress and that is why she is hurting. Any information you guys can give me would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.
2007-10-16 07:19:06 · 11 answers · asked by Teresa J 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
She has been having her periods. She has been having them for a few years now.
2007-10-16 07:31:11 · update #1
She also says that she is not having sex! Does the dad need to talk to the mom about this and let her know his thoughts on the matter?
2007-10-16 07:33:09 · update #2
hi
if she is having pain in that area she HAS to get it seen to it could lead to all sorts off stuff , it might lead to if she dosnt have seen to her not being able to have children (scary) her mum should take her to the doc . i dont know why she wouldnt but any way the dad is a parent to and its his daughter to and he dosnt want anything to happen to her and tell him to be a parent and take her . she might not have to have a pap smear the it might be something common but hust in case they might do 1 . if the morther dosnt take her make sure her dad takes her and cause ur a female and your close to her make sure u explain everything to her and whats going to happen cause this will be scary for her and be with her the hole tim and hold her hand through it and tell her everything is going to be ok thats what i would do if i was you :) or if she dosnt want any 1 with her while in the room let her go in cause she might not want to anser some of the questions with some one in the room . she might sexaul active but she dosnt want to say i know its scary thing to think only 15 but it does happen and she needs to the let the docter know . oh and if she has a pap smear they will probz give her the 3 check ups .... hope
& im her age i just know loads about this stuff
i helped and hope she goes
take care x x x
2007-10-16 08:17:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, it is a rant, and an abuse of YA. Don't be suprised if it will get deleted. Just a heads up. As to the entire pap smear factor, I have had one each two years on account that I used to be sixteen, I'm now 21, and I *nonetheless* do not adore it, and I typically in no way will. There is *each* motive to be embarrased, in the event you get embarrased effectively. Your vagina is an totally individual and intimate location, and it will probably think like you're being violated, specially if in case you have *in no way* had sexual interplay earlier than. Yes, you aren't getting bare in entrance of the medical professional, however they're close to observing your vagina for that entire five mins, so excuse so much females in the event that they think uncomfortable with that. It's attitudes like yours that maintain females from getting those relevant assessments performed. They fear that it has all been of their heads, ''ordinary'' females breeze via them, so there is whatever improper with the females who're embarrased. Grow up and realize that each lady is one of a kind, and no longer everybody enjoys their privates being poked, prodded and stared at. I have had three sexual companions in my whole sexually energetic lifestyles, the 3rd(and expectantly final!) is my fiance of three years, and I'm *nonetheless* uncomfortable with letting him down at my vagina, permit on my own a few creepy medical professional, regardless of how good I recognise her. It's fine that you're so relaxed to your possess frame, however severely, no longer everybody is all that relaxed. Try to realize it from their pov. And, btw, pap smears won't harm that a lot. At so much, it must be a little of strain and a few stinging for approximately a minute or so till you get used to it. I could be curious to peer what your outcome say. And you must be getting a pap smear each 2 years if the whole lot is ordinary. If it's irregular, or you've got a loved ones historical past, then it is each 12 months. Best of good fortune, I simply see it from the opposite part. There is a situation known as vaginismus that may be prompted by means of unhealthy reports with pap smears and pelvic tests. Google it, you are going to uncover a ton of information. I recognise many females with this situation, and what you're announcing could particularly harm their emotions.
2016-09-05 11:32:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother is like that. If she's in pain, have the dad take her in. It could be something serious that the mom is writing off as stress. A regualar doctor can do paps also but I don't think it would matter if they took her to a regular doc or a gyno. She needs to be seen though.
2007-10-16 07:23:58 · answer #3 · answered by stressedmama 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Answering your priority question, a girl should get her first pap smear after 3 yr of onset of sexual activity according to recent update of screening program. In general many docs start pap by 18.
In your bf's daughter case, we got to know whether she is sexually active if yes, any protection used?. Also menstural history helps in the diagnosis. If she recently started her cycles it is normal to have pain before the cycles. If she has noticed any unusal discharge or foul smelling dicharge, it is always advisable to see a gyn to rule out any pathology.
Hope it helps!
Dr.jags.
2007-10-16 07:34:45 · answer #4 · answered by jags 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is recomended that girls start getting paps either once they become sexually active or turn 18 which ever occurs first. she is technically "old enough" could she emotionally and psychologically handel it i don't know since i don't know her. she should at least see a regular primary care physicaian to see if there is cause for consern. it could be nothing but it could be something. i would recomend the dad just take her to her pcp if he has parental rights then he should have to tell the mom if he takes her. if he doesn't have parental rights then that may pose a legal issue.
2007-10-16 07:28:23 · answer #5 · answered by crystala_14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im assuming she has her period already, but either way she still needs to go to a doc. if she doesnt have her period then take her to a normal doc but if she doesn have it then take her to an OB/GYN. Take her even though her mom says no because it might turn out to be something.
2007-10-16 07:26:41 · answer #6 · answered by *********** 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
usually they wont do a pap on someone that young...unless she is having sex...she could just have a bladder infection which is easy to diagnose...the dad should take her to the doctor just for a physical...unless the mom is the one with the insurance..because then she would know...but the parents not taking care of medical needs is very sad...good luck...
2007-10-16 07:31:25 · answer #7 · answered by Vonda J 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It couldn't hurt for her to go and see a gyno and get a pap smear.
2007-10-16 09:14:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had mine at age 11 when I first started menstruating.
She should have it before she has sex, or if she has problems with her periods.
She should go get checked out.
2007-10-16 11:47:39 · answer #9 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whenever sumone becomes sexually active then they can go get a pap
2007-10-16 10:45:09 · answer #10 · answered by ashlei g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋