this is a question/rant. doesn't it suck that so many people who don't need or want a baby can just magically become pregnant? and there are other people that try so hard and it just doesn't happen easily.
i had a miscarriage almost 2 weeks ago. nobody but my husband knows because i was only 6 weeks. well last week a guy at work comes in and says him and his wife are pregnant, which is great for them but then he starts in with me on "when are you two going to have a baby? you need to get pregnant... blaah blaah blaaah" i wanted to cry and i wanted to slap him and say "bite me" but i just played it off and acted like i don't really want kids right now because nobody knows that we are thinking about having kids. we want it to be a surprise and don't feel like dealing with people asking about the condition of my uterus all the time. anyway... sending fertility thoughts to those who are TTC, waiting sucks.
2007-10-16 07:02:20 · 16 answers · asked by silly nilly 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Yep...totally feel your pain. We've been trying for 14 months and nothing yet.
We were at a childrens b-day party recently with some friends and after about the 4th time I heard, "So when are ya'll going to have one?" I almost went postal and was not quite nice to the girl, whom I didn't even know. Luckily my husband noticed and said You ready to go? I got to the car luckily before I fell apart.
I'm ok the first time but each question like that breaks me down a little more each time.
I think it's the rudest thing someone can ask...God bless and good luck!
2007-10-16 08:35:10 · answer #1 · answered by chickadee_ajm 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. Everywhere I turn there are pregnant women. We have been married for over 4 years so people are constantly asking if we want children and what we are waiting for. Little do most know we have been ttc for 15 months now with no success and I am seeing my doctor monthly and have started Clomid and that we have both been through all kinds of tests. We have broke down and told a few people we are trying mainly so they can be supportive and pray for us. You might feel better if you let a few close family and friends in on your secret. We didn't tell anyone until it had been a year of ttc because we wanted it to be a big surprise but it gets old trying to keep it a secret. Plus like I said we needed outside support through this. It is just a suggestion. God will give us our miracle baby when the time is right. He has a plan for us and we must trust in him. That is really helping us get through right now. Best of luck to you and stay positive. Sorry for your loss!!!!!
2007-10-16 07:37:10 · answer #2 · answered by HONEYB1 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I totally know how you feel. We've been TTC #1 for 7 months with no luck yet. The first month we started trying my husbands stripper sister ends up pregnant by her bf of 2 months. She's always complaining about it and stuff. Makes me sick sometimes. I just wanna cry. My husband couldnt really understand my pain at first. But latley its been bothering him big time. We want a family so badly. I've wanted kids since I was 20. Now I'm 24 and ready. I hope you get a BFP soon. Good luck and baby dust to you! :)
2007-10-16 12:49:50 · answer #3 · answered by hotmetalfreeq 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi ya i have my wedding booked for subsequent June however that doesn't stop us trying for a baby. It's tough for us too as all my neighbors have kids and are pregnant too. I do usually get rather jealous b/c now we have been trying for a whilst and where i've fertility disorders its herder for us to conceive and i suppose like its no longer gonna happen. However typically I must simply try to overlook and lift on, even though it's difficult as I take pills every day and It rings a bell in my memory its to have a baby. When you and your fiance desire a little one there is not any regulation to assert you are not able to have one. Its higher to start previous as an alternative than later. Ideally I would favor tobe married first but oftentimes it does not figure out that manner. I don't need to risk getting too ancient. Im 25 lol. Chin up and make that resolution xx
2016-08-05 21:22:06 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree it sucks. My husband and I have been TTC since October 19th 2006 which is our wedding night so we're coming up on the 1 year mark. It is so frustrating to see teenagers in the USA and women who hate children get pregnant but women who are married or engaged and are actually actively trying and want kids take so long. I admit it's also annoying to see women get pregnant the 1st time they have sex or the second month they've tried. Don't worry God will let you get pregnant hopefully when it's the right time for you to get pregnant. Maybe now isn't the right time for you. Only God knows. Sorry for your miscarriage.
2007-10-16 07:08:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I know what you mean. Me and my husband are ttc as well. Its only been a few months but it does seem like its working for everyone else around us. My husbands sister just had her baby april 1st and just found out she is pregnant w her second and they wont even be married till this sat! we were married Aug 18th. Its our turn!
My husband and I both have a child from our pasts. he has a 7 yr old son and I have a 6 1/2 yr old daughter so we know we both can have kids. It just seems like it's taking so long. I know when I got pregnant w my daughter we were trying and it seemed like it wasnt working so I kinda gave up and went on a diet and stopped thinking about it...then I got pregnant:) I heard this happens to alot of ppl so I suggest trying to take your mind off of it and focus on staying healthy and it is more likely to happen. That's what I plan to do starting to do this month. Good Luck to you!
2007-10-16 07:14:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I no how you feel, I am just as tire of it as you are, I am tire of hearing "relax and i'll happen" or "when are you going to have one". I have pcos and this month would make it 5 years of ttc#1, I did 4 cycle of clomid without luck, now I am on metformin so far I feel as if this is my dream pill, it help my cycles got reguler.
I am sorry for your lost, but the best part is that you no that u can conceive, most ladies take metformin to help in aid carry a baby its 1st trimester so that a misscarriage would be happen
2007-10-16 09:18:23 · answer #7 · answered by Mom of 2 w/ PCOS 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, Im 22 years old...me and my x-husband had been having unprotected sex for 7 years already with no luck...yeah 7 years...well anyway just this year before i turned 22 years old he goes out and cheats on me and he starts having a baby with another girl...so yeah we are separated and it hurts because I feel that I could not give him a child. Maybe it was not ment to be because when I was with him, y periods were irregular, a couple days i separated from him, I started to get my periods every month until today. Lots of baby dust for you and me!!! take care and I know how you feel.
2007-10-16 15:31:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your frustration. TTC can bring out feelings of anguish and frustration, especially if it doesnt happen as soon as you would like. I am deeply sorry about your miscarriage. I know how you feel there for sure. When i was TTC, i hated all the pregnant women around me. And what really sucked was my sister in law was pregnant. So that really got me going. You are totally valid in how you feel! Baby dust to you darlin!!
2007-10-16 07:08:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm pregnant now and I really wanted a baby. It was easy for me though. I do know what you mean and try not to let people's comments and questions bother you. If you relax and keep trying then I'm sure it will happen for you too. Best wishes ***baby dust*** =] Try for it everyday or every other day if you haven't already lol. Good luck hon
2007-10-16 07:08:02 · answer #10 · answered by Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄ƷAℓεx & Aаяöи have my ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋