I wrote about her being crazy its on one of my questions still so go read it first. So I was sick and puking and she stands on the other side of the babthroom door talking to my concerned cat loudly, and waits for me to come out to talk about me being sick. I just said I don't feel well, walked passed her to my room, and told my fiance I couldn't handle it anymore, her always bombarding me with questions and wanting to talk for 20 min when im sick. and I told him about her reading my personal emails and asking me about them. um rude. I know she is trying to be sensitive toward me, but I feel smothered, and who wants to be bothered by almost a stranger when they are sick?? Was I out of line? we told her that she cant just walk in our room, she still does. I had my stuff for the shower on my bed and she grabbed my clothes fluffed them out from being folded with my undies in them so they went flying across the room, all because whe wanted to know what i was wearing for the day. AHHH!
2007-10-16 06:43:24 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I am 22 and 35 weeks prego. that is why I said read the other question first. I have only been here for a week and 4 days!!! I am moving out in a month or two, we just have to stay here while we wait for our house to be ready.
2007-10-16 06:58:43 · update #1
wow. I have a mother in law like that. My husband, me, and my two and one year old daughters lived with her and my father in law for two years so that my husband could go back to school and It was hell. I actually tried to divorce him to get away from his mother "sad", but since we were living with them and I was not working or contributing in any way I felt that I should keep my mouth shut and put up with it. I was wrong in thinking that because to this day I still have so much anger toward my in laws and my husband for "keeping my mouth shut". I do not think you are out of line, You should sit down and talk with her and let her nicely know her actions bother you but I have a feeling that might not work because your mother in-law sounds um, impulsive. Speak to your finace about it and ask him how does he think is the best way to approach her . He should be standing up for you though. He is going to be your husband. Mine finaly did after I handed him divorce papers because he defended his mother who tried to convince him to take my daughters from me. You want to set her straight NOW. My mother in law once started crying and ran out of the house because I did'nt want to talk to her while I was pregnant and sick. I'm tellin ya. I have been there and done that. You need to talk to her and I really hope that you and your fiance should proly try to get out on your own as soon as possible if you can. I hope everything works out.
2007-10-16 08:08:21 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think this requires a face to face conversation between you and your future MIL. You can have your finace there if it would make you feel more comfortable. You need to explain how you're feeling. It really sounds like she's just an overbearing mother, with the best of intentions and doesn't mean any harm. Maybe if the two of you talk about things and discuss what she heard that made her upset you can clear the air.
Good luck!
2007-10-16 06:50:28 · answer #2 · answered by Just Me 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Golly, I sympathize with you!:( You should put a lock on your bedroom door. And try to stay away from her as much as possible while you are sick. She is probably just trying to bond with you or something, but reading your personal things and standing outside the bathroom door is a little strange. Good Luck and Congratulations on the baby boy!!! Maybe they will get your house ready sooner:) And maybe her not talking to you is a good thing. she will get over it, she should have minded her own business!!
2007-10-16 07:02:51 · answer #3 · answered by curiousin08 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my, i sympathize with you. Do you and your hubby live with her or she with you guys? If you are in her home, that may be why she feels uninhibited to barge into your business...no matter how wrong that is. If she is living in your home, I would simply and politely tell her the house rules...ie, not allowed to walk into your bedroom, or intrude...to have rules like roomates would. I would totally feel smothered, and being pregnant, i find it much harder to hold my tongue or "pretend" to be nice. Maybe she needed to overhear you...she is a grown woman and should know boundaries, regardless of the situation. If I were you, I would just ENJOY THE SILENCE! :) Good luck to you and congrats on the baby!
2007-10-16 06:56:18 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Reading personal e-mails is definitely not a good thing! I guess I would feel a bit smothered myself. It seems so much easier to understand if she would just ask you how you are feeling or what you are thinking about (including what you are going to wear) other than invading your privacy. Maybe she will read this and get some insight into how to treat you!
2007-10-16 06:49:14 · answer #5 · answered by Brooke S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally don't think you were out of line expect in one thing. You know already she's nosy, instead of waiting to vent to your fiance you told him stuff when she was there knowing she's in your business like crazy. What you should have done is went to her directly or if you needed to tell your fiance first you should have done it at a time when you knew there was no chance of her hearing you. Because now you look like the bad guy that was talking behind her back. Do you understand what I'm trying to say. Maybe she is a little too comfortable with you but are you not living in her home? Or is she living with yous? If yous are living with her there's one simple way to solve that problem. Move out. If you can't than be greatful she's there to help you out and be upfront with her instead of talking behing her back. That's what you were doing your trying to turn it around on her by saying she was eavesdropping.
2007-10-16 06:55:35 · answer #6 · answered by Desiree 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Wow, it must be nice to have such a great mother in law. You definitely owe her an apology. She was only concerned about you. And I take it you and your husband are living with her. You should be grateful that she cares. You need to sit her down and apologize and explain to her (not us) that she is smothering you. You'd be surprised how well honesty works. Good luck.
2007-10-16 06:55:22 · answer #7 · answered by ROBIN T 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
If I was you I would check into a hotel until your house is ready. Check on line for cheap rates. Peace is priceless.
2007-10-16 10:16:22 · answer #8 · answered by Kat G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you pregnant? Or ehy is this in the pregnancy secetion and if she bothers you so much maybe you can move out?
2007-10-16 06:51:52 · answer #9 · answered by Mariana M 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, it sounds like you need your personal space...why don't you move out?
2007-10-16 06:50:27 · answer #10 · answered by Charis 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋