would you get married, stay single?
**Include your approximate age and if you have children or not.**
2007-10-16 06:41:16 · 43 answers · asked by Lucky 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
45, no kids, divorced. if i had it all to do over again i would not have been in such a rush to get married. i would have waited for that one person i had a strong connection with and not just settled. turned out pretty badly. don't think i'll every get married again but as they say never say never.
2007-10-16 06:52:17 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am divorced and was only married for six weeks because my wife cheated on me. She went back home to her boyfriend and got married to him.
I am not sure wether I'm happy to be single or wether I'm unhappy not to be married. It's probably a little of both. The reason why I say this is because the experiences I've gone through in a marriage may have been so hurting and painful that it's hard to decide wether your next wife would be the same or not.
I believe life is full of challenges and opportunities. And marriage is something we should all experience to acquire eternal love, happiness, and soundness. But when picking a partner, one should learn and assess all the qualities of that partner and that includes:
1. Good and bad habits
2. Likes and dislikes
3. Type of friends one has
4. Type of interests and hobbies one has
5. Learn the inner qualities of that person more than the outer qualities.
If you figure that all about a person and over a good period of time, then you'll know wether he/she is right for you. Based on that, marriage then can be established more firmly and truthfully and hope for the best in life from then on.
Hope this helps answer your question :)
2007-10-16 06:55:22 · answer #2 · answered by Coconut Guy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 20 years old, i have been married for 2 years and we have a 2 month old baby girl. Most would say were just getting started but i have known my husband for several years we were best friends befor even getting involved so it seems alot longer.
I love being married and i love being a mother. Yes, there are times when i miss the single life and wish i were single that way i could do what i want without answering to anybody but i wouldn't change it for the world, having a loving husband and a wonderful daughter, not being able to do what i want and having to answer to somebody is well worth it. There are up's and down's to both being married and being single but all in all, being a mother and wife was what i have always wanted and i love it.
Would i do it again? Hmm that's hard to say, befor i found my husband i was in several bad relationships. If i had to do it again i would, if it were with my husband again. If my husband and i didn't work out no, i would not do it again.
2007-10-16 06:50:36 · answer #3 · answered by Kasja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok Now I have been married twice and I have a child with each of these women. I don’t believe in marriage. I believe people that believe in marriage are doomed to fail at it. The institute of marriage is and has been failing for years, mainly because it is to easy to get out a marriage. The work it takes to stick out a marriage is not part of our Culture. We are always looking for instant gratification and quick solution to problems and that is why our divorce rate is so high.
Now I got that out of the way I have to say that I would rather believe in the person I am married to instead of believing in marriage. Believe that the person you are with is a person and will make mistakes. You have to whole heartily be committed to just make the marriage work in order for it to be successful. No matter what. We all tend to go into a marriage with a few deal breakers in mind. How does he treat me? If he doesn’t treat me right then I am out the door. Our thinking needs to be, how can I communicate and resolve our differences, but most people just bail. It’s too easy to get caught up in the foolishness of other people when our hearts are not in the right place. I got married the first time because I was young and dumb. I got married a 2nd time, because I thought it was right for me. I will get married again, but this time I have to make sure the woman I married to has the same level of commitment as I do. The commitment is to one another and there will be no false belief in that marriage works. You have to make it work and it takes both parties involved.
2007-10-16 06:59:05 · answer #4 · answered by Twigits 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I believe in marriage. I'm not single. I have a boyfriend of 5 months. Things are happy. But if I was married and had kids I would try harder to keep the marriage (for the sake of the kids) than if I had no kids. But I don't believe in subjecting the kids to witnessing arguments and fights between the parents.
2007-10-16 06:44:28 · answer #5 · answered by ~*~Stephanie Dianne~*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.i do believe in marriage!
2. i married to my high school sweetheart for 6 yrs im 23 now and we have two boys together.
3.my marriage is basically OVER !....so NO not happy!
4.if i could do all over it again....I wouls most defenetly WAIT i got married at the age of 18 ..ahd my first baby at 19....don't get me wrong i love my boys and i would NEVER EVER change that BUT my marriage ..i would change.in a heart beat ! ...we were too young i feel like we both missed out on so many things...it's silly really but there nothing that i can do now....well divorce and thats about it....so my advise to you if your going to get married ask your self are you really ready for this... it's changelle and not something that you can say " well i can try this out for a while" cause trust me it takes WORK ! and lots of it ...but more power too you if you are ready for this drastic change in your life ! peace and may god be with you!
i don't want to EVER get married again ! ...or have kids with anybody else. from now and it's me and my two boys ! so i guess i could honestly say i'm blessed because i have TWO men in my life who will always love me no matter what !
2007-10-16 06:50:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Happily married for 11 years. I got married at 27 to a guy I actually met originally in a bar! We now have two beautiful daughters (2 and 5). Yes, it was hard in the beginning. The first year was a real adjustment. We do a lot of compromising and remind ourselves that we are a family and our decisions are bases on how to make our family better. We do everything for our kids. Yes, sometimes we get lost in the day to day, and no, sparks do not fly everyday. You get used to each other sometimes and get into ruts. It is our job to remind ourselves that if this is to work, we need to work together.
2007-10-16 06:47:40 · answer #7 · answered by noitall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
23 married for a year happily married, no kids. I can't actually imagine not being married at this point. I look at my single friends and wonder how they do it. No one to come home to end of the day. I mean my husband is such a blessing its like no matter how rough the world gets it will always be the two of us together some one always fighting on my side.
2007-10-16 06:54:20 · answer #8 · answered by sarah W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married two times and the first I have regretted it many times. I now have three grown children and that is the only thing that was worth it. I am now married again and sometimes have regretted it a few times. I sometimes wish that I were single again. Nobody to answer to and I could do what I wanted. I am over 50.
2007-10-16 06:50:22 · answer #9 · answered by Nancy M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 26, my husband is 31. We've been happily married for 2 and half years. That's not very long, but so far I'm very happy to be married and I'd certainly do it again. We don't have any children yet, maybe in a few years. I don't think people should be forced to marry if they don't want to, but obviously I don't have a problem with it.
2007-10-16 06:49:29 · answer #10 · answered by Ahni 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people get burned really bad from marriages but its a risk you have to take. If you get married, you obviously did it for a reason. At one point you were happy. Marriage isnt for everybody, I believe you can be happy either way. Personally im engaged and im only 19. But when you find someone that you can honestly say you want to spend your lfie with, why not give it a shot?
"love like you've never been hurt."
2007-10-16 06:45:48 · answer #11 · answered by colostomy_punch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋