Hi there my name is clarissa i am 52 divorced I was once married to a man of my dreams, His name was Rick we were married in the yr 1991 i thought i have everything going good in my life be happy with the man i loved makin a family the only thing was i could not have children bc when i got rapped by my step dad and there was alot of damage done to my insides that i could not have any more children so if there is anyone out there that feels love is real dont always bet on it, i have learned through my faith in Jesus Christ that i dont depend on humans anymore i depend only on Jesus to help me through things of the world I thought that we were going to be married forever but i guess not and the question was asked my ex why do you not love me anymore and he chose to tell me i dont know how could anyone after 12 yrs of marriage why would someone wait that long to tell you that if you can answer this one plz message me back
2007-10-16 06:18:10 · 8 answers · asked by mommom1980 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well your question, "how can you find out for sure if the person you are in love with is really in love with you back?"
Obviously he isn't didn't he tell you that?
He may have BEEN the love of your life, but he's gone now. Move on and start dating again when the time is right. It sounds to me like he wasn't good enough for you anyway. Why would someone say something so mean to the woman he was married to?
2007-10-16 06:36:47 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really can't find the question(s) in all of these run-on sentences, and the word i doesn't exist in English... it is I as in capitalized. Your punctuation is missing as well, so subject and predicates appear inexact....
Somewhere in here, hon, I guess you are asking how can someone fall out of love, and I guess the best answer is that things wear out.... tires do, teeth do, carpets do..... everything does. And as we age, sometimes we forget to stay in communication. Marriage, I think, is Admiration Respect, Passion and Trust. Marriage is as well hard work, since each of us must put the other as our major priority. Love IS real, it is just that it is experienced by different people in different ways. So if you no longer find comfort in your husband, and you find comfort in JC, then by all means continue. Most women would prefer a real, life partner rather than a dead guy, but.... whatever works for you. If you wish to save your marriage, seek counseling, even if you go alone. If not, concentrate on JC.
Not even sure I have answered your question(s) since I'm not really sure what you have written.... Is this an oration of your thought, or complaints of marriage?
2007-10-16 06:34:03 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something other than not having children ruined this marriage and it was something you caused. It's not that this man's love wasn't real; it's that you weren't content with his love. You continued to live in the past, instead of appreciating the man God sent you. Now, you claim to depend on Jesus, when there is no scripture that tells you to do so. Had you placed your faith in God, and appreciated the man He sent you, you would still be married today. After 12 years of trying to show you love--12 years of misery with you, your husband finally found the courage to leave; and because you are so blind, you still don't understand why!
2007-10-16 06:29:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when u fall in love and marry, there are no guarantees, and u can never be sure of anything. some people are selfish and want excitement all of the time, and after 12 years marriage is commitment, caring, trust, but the honeymoon stage is over with and his love should not have depended on circumstances. or feelings but a promise he made to u and to god. bad things do happen to good people, because of other people's choices. theres only one u can count on that's Jesus.
2007-10-16 07:14:33 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about after twelve years the one you love, the one you've given your heart to, tells you she "cares" about you but, doesn't know for sure if she "loves" you!
Then you find out she's been having an affair, she's been having one and, she's sorry but, it's only an "infatuation" and she doesn't "think" she loves the guy, the old "we only had sex once" after going together for eight months, right?
I don't know how to answer you. I took her back, we've been together for, years, since then. What to say ? our relationship has never been the same. I have to be honest and say, if I ever met someone that I really cared for, I think I would leave.
2007-10-16 06:28:10 · answer #5 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had a lot of hurt happen to you in your life and I am so sorry to hear that. Have you ever had counceling. Sometimes when we are victimized we tend to put up a guard so we never get hurt. Everyone gets hurt by something in thier life but when you have been a victim of a tragedy it tends to hurt us even more. Keep up with the faith and try to get some help so you can have a normal relationship with someone else.
2007-10-16 06:27:25 · answer #6 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actions speak louder then anything.
2007-10-16 06:29:35 · answer #7 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has to show...It can't be just said!!
2007-10-16 06:26:32 · answer #8 · answered by magnetic1002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋