... i carry him. Then miraculously he doesnt need constant feeding and can sleep for hours at a time lol.
Anyone having a similar experience with their newborn? Whats the solution? Should i just carry him all day (my arm is about to drop off lol)
2007-10-16 05:47:38 · 7 answers · asked by Chimera's Song 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
My baby is a mere 4 days old.
I am not a nazi mother - i dont intend to limit feedings, but constant breastfeeding is no joke. My nipples are torn to shreds and i havent slept at all last night. I am very tired and my nipples need a break.
2007-10-16 06:04:46 · update #1
This is pretty normal stuff.
Sadly...you might as well get used to it. Your nipples will eventually get used to the torture of breast feeding, it just takes time. Use the lanolin or whatever that sticky stuff is that keeps the skin soft. This helped me out alot. I don't care what they tell you, letting them dry out makes it worse (at least for me it did).
As for the baby, give him some time. If he is only four days old, he is still getting used to the new world around him. He is used to being inside a very snug environment. YOu might try to swaddle him up tight in a blanket and see if that helps him feel more secure. Carry him around...get one of those vibrating chairs from Target and put him in that all swaddled up. My daughter lived in one of those things for the first four months. It was a life saver.
In a couple of weeks, after he starts to stretch those legs and arms out a bit, you will know he is feeling more comfortable in his new world..
And for what its worth - as for the lack of sleep - my daughter is 13 months old, and STILL gets up at least 1 or 2 times a night. Not all of us are lucky with babies who sleep through the night.
2007-10-16 06:26:31 · answer #1 · answered by SisterSue 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is completely normal. As well as providing nutrition, suckling provides comfort, something an infant needs after being thrown into the big wide world! It's not a problem, or something you need to change, she will outgrow it in time. My son nursed to sleep until he was eight months old and then he decided he didn't need to any more - I never forced it. Some people would say this is spoiling - I say you can never spoil anything with love. :) Try getting the hang of nursing lying down - that way you can relax when she's on the breast. There is absolutely no need to pump or supplement - in fact you shouldn't at this stage, your breastfeeding relationship is not yet established and pumping and bottles could potentially mess it up. I know it probably seems overwhelming right now - I found the first 2 weeks especially hard - but it does get better in time! Good luck!
2016-05-22 23:03:42 · answer #2 · answered by felipa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They were held inside you for 9 mo...expect their need to be as similar after birth.
I suggest investing in a baby carrier to give your arms a break.
If you heed this need for comfort, you little one will be ready for more independance before you know it...if you succomb to society and force independance, you could create worse problems in the long run.
You will not spoil your baby, nor be manipulated by them, that is ridiculous.
Baby's need to eat often (if you're breastfeeding), so don't hesitate. They endure countless growth spurts within the first year, it is not the time to limit feedings.
ETA: If your nipples are "torn to shreds"...there is a problem. That is NOT normal and you need some help with your latch. At 4 days old, your baby is working on learning how to nurse and bringing in a full milk supply, don't limit the feedings or you could have major supply issues. If your latch was fixed and it didn't hurt to nurse I'm sure you wouldn't feel this way.
I know how much it hurts to have the latch wrong. It happened to me with my first 2. I actually had bleeding and blistered nipples, then thrush, then mastitis...it was awful. That said, the first 2, I used a pacifier with and my 3rd i didn't and had NO problems at all.
Get help Mamma...SOON, before you contemplate supplements.
~some hospitals will allow you to return for post-partum breastfeeding support
~La Leche League is a free phone call away
~Lactation Consultant
2007-10-16 05:57:52 · answer #3 · answered by Gr8fulmom 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
How old is your newborn? I can relate to this - my daughter was this way for the first 3 weeks then we got a routine going where she would take naps in her swing or bouncer or a large blanket. It gets better with time.
2007-10-16 05:54:37 · answer #4 · answered by Precious 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try callinf La Lechee league they help with breast feeding or give the baby a bottle and try swaddling him. you need good nutrition, sleep, and lots of liquid to produce milk for you baby and stress slows milk production. Try "Traditional Medicines mothers milk" (tea to help your body produce more milk) to help you to produce more milk and lanolish on your niples to help them heal. I am sure you are a great mommy it is hard to get in the swing of things when your tired.
2007-10-16 06:42:48 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel D 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if you carry him all the time thats what he will expect all the time when you try put him down.
it is hard but let him cry a little bit but if it gets out of hand then take him gain and do the same after he keeps quite. with time he will know.
good luck
2007-10-16 06:00:14 · answer #6 · answered by ------------------------ 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
you have to just let them cry. it's awful at first but you have to.
otherwise you're being manipulated & that will not stop until you stop it.
2007-10-16 05:55:10 · answer #7 · answered by lisalisatheoneiadore 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋