Mam & Dad need to stop spying on me :-|?

Question

i feel watched !
She goes though my school bag. Does 1471 on my phone calls ! ask me questions all the time watchs what i type neally always asks what im doing all the time calls me every hour ! You get me now ?
they take it too far,, what do i doo !

Answer 1

First of all, how old are you?? Have you done anything wrong to take away their trust? If not, have you talked to them about it? They might just be paranoid about somethings they hear about teen peer pressures. Your parents just care about you a lot and just show them that they can trust you. I think teenagers need some space also to find out who they really are and need to learn for them selves BUT sometimes they need to be told whats wrong for their own good because their still too young to understand and make certain choices. Some kids don't have adult supervision and have no one and they they wish they had parents who cared. So just talk to them.

Answer 2

first always obey and show respect - never do or say anything disrespectful - ever. then, after you have demonstrated that, then go to them and tell them calmly that you have obeyed them, treated them with respect, and ask what you can do to earn their trust - try to appeal to them to see if they would give you opportunities to earn their trust and respect. And then when they give you that opportunity conduct yourself well. Different people are different - some people are just plain control freaks and they are just like that with everyone and there's not much you can do about it. My dad was that way - he's 72 and he's still that way now. It may have nothing to do with you at all. sometimes people have their own issues to deal with. But you have to always remain respectful. It was so great when I left home and I didn't have someone pilfering through my things all the time. Sometimes you have to wait until then like I did. But I earned trust and respect with my mom - and the more I conducted myself well the more freedoms I got through my mother. it's just a tight rope you have to walk. Remeber it isn't all about you often. Usually they hear of this or that thing happening that concerns them and they over-react. But as bad as the over-reacting is - it's better than not caring at all, and if you keep that in mind that will help.

hope this helps you.

I think it's a responsible thing to know what's going on in your home. But you can carry that too far.

If you do all that and nothing works then write Dr. Phil and see if their staff has any ideas.

Answer 3

Well there is probably a reason for it and when you get a small freedom maybe you should thank them and show them how responsible you are by taking up a school event (soccer volleyball ect...) so that they can see you have a healthy activity to keep you busy, there they will show up to support you and you will be showing them that you are in a safe place and having some good clean fun... and I really wish I joined it when I was in high school and junior high! Then after you show them you are responsible to getting to your events and being prepared and getting good B's or maybe A's in school and studying if you need help asking for it, and also be open with your parents maybe you could talk to your mom about girl things sometimes so she is more involved because you want it and she would prob. stop prying... and she would tell your dad too ... most of the non important girl stuff....


I think your parents just want you to not make their mistakes (don't say to them that you won't just be open and talk to them) and I also think your parents feel left out of your life, or you did something bad or they are hearing rumors... so just spend sometime with them ask them if every _____day can be just your day with them...


If you hang out with anyone that isn't really good news then just tell your friend that you really liked being friends but you want to take a different path in life and ask the friend if she wants to join an activity with you and help with studying... trusty me you'll look back and be glad you did and satisfied with yourself.

Answer 4

Your parents are trying to be good parents by knowing what you are doing, with whom, when and where. They are checking up on you because they care.

Look at yourself very closely and be honest about your behavior. Are you sneaking around and doing things you shouldn't be doing? Do your friends give off the impression that they are rebellious and laugh at authority figures? They could be influencing how your parents see you.

Maybe they feel that you are not open and honest with them when they ask you things and that makes them think you're doing things you shouldn'e be doing. That would definitely make them go through your stuff.

Get your thoughts and feelings organized, even write them down. Approach your parents about what's going on and how it makes you feel. Agree to be open and honest with them if they, in return, will not be harsh in their reactions. That's not to say punishments will not be involved for imporper behavior, it just means they agree to not go over the edge if you tell them you've done something you shouldn't have.

You are going to have to prove to them that they can trust you. You have to let them know you don't expect them to bail you out if you make a decision that gets you into trouble. Are you mature enough for that? If you get pregnant, your parents aren't going to get up with the baby in the middle of the night, nor are they going to give or pay for child care while you finish school, for example.

Anyway, you get the picture. If you want your parents to respect your space and your privacy, you have to abide by their rules and be open and honest with them. If you aren't ready to be an adult, that's okay. But children don't have many rights when it comes to privacy in the parents house.

Answer 5

maybe mam and dad's daughter needs to stop doing bad stuff

Answer 6

if you can

talk to them directly , that why are they doing so and how will they stop...

Answer 7

i say .. WHAT WILL HAPPEN?.... you'll get pregnant soon...