her scream in bed. spend at least 30 hours a month talking to her on the phone, email and text her as well all hours of the day and night from work , while driving, even from home. then insist to your wife this woman is just a friend , that 95 percent of your conversation is about his relationship with you his wife and he is getting input from a woman's perspective about how to make the marriage better. he did not mean to say he wanted to make her scream, he needs to hear her voice, needs to find a way to see her, that even an addict can't stop cold turkey.... am i the only one smelling a giant FILTHY rat?
2007-10-16 05:37:38 · 19 answers · asked by PHOENIXepiphany 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Been there, done that! What you are describing is EXACTLY what my husband tried to tell me about a female co-worker. They were just friends, and yet he was constantly talking to her at work, on the phone, via text, and as it turned out, away from work. In the end, the truth was he was having an affair. There is no such thing as being just friends with someone of the opposite sex if you are telling them things you can't or don't talk to your spouse about. That's where the infidelity begins. Giant filthy rat doesn't even begin to describe what he is!!! I suspect there are MANY things going on you don't know about. How much of his conversations and correspondence are you allowed to hear/read?? If it's "private", pack your bags!!!
2007-10-16 05:59:13 · answer #1 · answered by Sasha's Mommy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Lies means affair. You are talking to this guy too much and you have started to lie to me about it - that is the fundamental of an affair - if this continues more things will happen. You need to decide what is important to you and if you don't then I need to decide if it's worth staying married to someone that is going to lie to me about other men. The only other alternative is for us to talk about limits for an open-marriage since you are nearly dating this guy already. This is not what I want but at the moment it clearly is what you do. Don't accept push-back that "we're just friends". That is how it always starts, you don't jump from strangers to lovers; you always become friends first and you are taking this beyond mere friendship now. You are "just friends" until one of three things happens, you finally kiss for the first time, you start to fall-in love with him because you're spending more time with him than me, or you start breaking promises [which you have already done.] You already are more than just friends. If I acted like this with another women you would flip out; I know it "feels good" to you and you don't want to cut him out of your life but that is what needs to happen now or one day this will be an affair if your not already concealing what has really happened from me.
2016-05-22 23:02:14 · answer #2 · answered by felipa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope your not the only one who smells a rat!!!!! First of all i prescribe to the idea that men and women cant be friends. As a man i can say that i would rather talk to and hang out with my guy friends than any woman UNLESS!!!! I have other intentions. The only reason a man wants to be friends with a woman is for SEX! A lot of women wont agree with this but it is true. Women can be friends with a man and not necessarily want to have sex with the man BUT a man cant be friends with a woman with out wanting sex. Now of course there are all sorts of exceptions to the rule but generally speaking this is the rule. Dont put up with his crap. I would never dream of disrespecting my wife in that way.
2007-10-16 05:48:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like a unhappy married man to me he should get a divorce and take up house with the other woman.
2007-10-16 05:42:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have an affair without ever touching someone, it is called an emotional affair. Intimacy such as that should be between a husband and a wife. No one else. He has a serious choice to make and no bargaining either.
2007-10-16 05:49:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dont be the gullible one.... Hes not a rat, hes a lying cheater. Walk away and cut your losses
2007-10-16 06:09:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Somebody is getting the nooky on the side or is at least playing with fire! It takes two to tango...so he's atleast trying...whether she's giving it up or not is the question.
2007-10-16 05:42:14 · answer #7 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There's this funny little thing in the English language called punctuation. Have you ever heard of it?
2007-10-16 08:57:56 · answer #8 · answered by oldtomato 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No this doesnt sound like a just friends relationship. My personal opinion is you cant have that much communication with the opposite sex and just be friends.
2007-10-16 05:41:58 · answer #9 · answered by browns_86 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You're the only one who has to question what is staring you in the face!
2007-10-16 05:43:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋