My bf and I have been talking about the future a lot lately. Our relationship is great and it's getting to point where we're planning on moving in with each other. Marriage is definitely in the air. He hasn't asked yet and I don't know why. I'm done with college but he still has another year so he hasn't been able to save a lot of money. It will be a long time before he can buy a diamond. But I don't care! I don't want to wait any longer! I'd be happy with a cz and maybe replace the stone with a diamond later. Is that cheesy? I haven't mentioned that to him. Should I? We're planning on getting married next fall. I'm ready to get engaged but I don't want to rush him. What should I do? My dream has always been to get engaged on christmas eve. I'll be so disappointed if he doesn't!
2007-10-16 04:26:50 · 11 answers · asked by Due May 17, 2009! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should bring it up. Marriage takes two and you should let you feelings be known. Sometimes the men just don't know and think they are waiting for the right time and if he only knew that the right time is right now you'd save him a lot of anguish. How is it that you're planning to get married next fall but he has not asked you to marry him yet? Obviously, there has been discussion already so tell him exactly how you are feeling. The ring can always be exchanged for a more expensive, traditional one later - absolutely.
2007-10-16 04:37:02 · answer #1 · answered by slave2art 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the big deal? He loves you and you love him. Congratulations on that!
It´s not just about buying a ring. Who is going to pay for your wedding? There´s a lot of money you need to save up for that as well. And you´re planning on getting married already anyway.
Be happy to have found a reasonable guy.
As little girls, we dream of getting married in this most beautiful ever seen white gown. For us, it will be, no matter that it might not be (as taste is a matter of opinion). As teens we might dream of the perfect man. But when we grow up we find that he never will be perfect, just the way we aren´t.
And still we can live with all that. And you will be disappointed and spoil his christmas just because he might not propose to you? Ãsn´t it about him asking you to become his wife? It shouldn´t matter whether it´s on christmas eve, new year´s day or valentine´s day or any other day.
Hey, if it´s his decision to finish college first, that´s a good and reasonable decision. Moreover, you should respect his decision. There will be more difficult decisions in life still to come.
If it´s important to him to buy you a diamond, then let him.
The other option, propose to him. Asking him to please propose can´t be worse than that.
2007-10-16 11:41:19 · answer #2 · answered by Bianca W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you both have already talked about a future together it would not be bad if you talked to him about the things you want as long as it is not a demand but a conversation where he can also bring out issues and plans he has for the both of you. An engagement would be nice, then you both can set a date for a year from now when he is done with college. Hope you get your surprise by this Christmas!!
2007-10-16 12:01:18 · answer #3 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are worrying to much about the material end of everything. Even if he doesnt ask you when you want, isnt it the fact that he is asking that matters.
I dont think that marriage is something that should be rushed. Maybe he is waiting for the right time.
And get a CZ ring is not a big deal, its just a ring, it is only a symbol of marriage, not the marriage itself. Be patient and things will unfold. Is he worth waiting for?
2007-10-16 11:32:18 · answer #4 · answered by Gotta luv it! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to discuss this with him before you get really disappointed because he did not give you the ring on Christmas. Why rush things. If you want to get married then I suggest you not move in with him until you do.
2007-10-16 11:30:26 · answer #5 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him in a subtle manner, give him a hint something like your friend who thinks that she'd be ok with a stone ring, she just wants to get married and you think its cool too.
My guess is he already knows what you think/feel about getting engaged/married
2007-10-16 11:31:14 · answer #6 · answered by Krishna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a family heirloom available to use as an engagement/wedding set?
My husband proposed w/ the wedding set his mom received when she married his dad. We had it resized, it's now my wedding set and we plan to add in stones for each of the women who wear it (our son will get it when he proposes and his wifes stone will go in as will mine and my mother in laws).
My grandma offered (and we accepted) my grandfather's wedding band to us for my husband to have. Grandpa wore it once ~ the day they married. Sadly, grandpa died 3 yrs ago but I know he approved of my husband and would be honored.
2007-10-16 11:40:21 · answer #7 · answered by Mary 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him know how you feel..
He is probably waiting because he can't afford a"proper" ring..
Get married before you move in.. once you are liveing together it's too easy to make excuses for putting off the wedding.....
2007-10-16 11:41:02 · answer #8 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Proposing is his moment too. Don't spoil it by being pushy.
If you plan on being married, then let it happen when the time is right.
2007-10-16 11:48:06 · answer #9 · answered by jlonva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you guys are planning a wedding then arent you already engaged?
2007-10-16 11:35:31 · answer #10 · answered by sarah W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋