Girls what would you do if you found porn on your fiances computer?

Answer 1

Nothing. Looking at porn is completely normal.

Answer 2

Let your fiance know that you've seen it, but don't be judgemental about it. The majority of men use porn, for their own reasons which don't make sense to us females at all. They are a visual species and like to look at stuff! My husband looks at porn on the computer a couple of times a week and at the end of the day, it's got nothing to do with the way he sees me or our relationship. Men have a fantastic gift of being able to disassociate sex from love and the women in these images mean nothing. They're not taking anything away from you or his feelings for you. Just let him know that you know so that it's not a secret, I would say secrets are much more unhealthy than porn!

Answer 3

If this was special porn, like porn focused on brutal rape, mutiliation and torture, young teens or children, I would ask about it. Don't ask accusingly, ask more like "I wasn't trying to snoop, but I accidently ran across some really weird stuff on your computer. What up with that?"

But most men have a stash of normal porn somewhere. Just accept it the way he'd accept it if you had a secret stash of trashy romance novels or "10 sexiest men" edition of a gossip magazine.

If he is abusive with the porn, that is a whole different kettle of fish. Some examples of abusive use of porn are:
Comparing you with the porn models, like "I'd get more excited if you had hooters like Cyndie La Tiddy here."
Starting to be affectionate with you, but then going off and "finishing" with his porn instead of with you.
Insisting (not suggesting or asking, but insisting) that you "act out" scenes from the porn.
I'm sure there are other abuses I haven't listed here.

As long as he is using the porn "as God intended" haha, I don't see any problem. Men aren't like women, he isn't "making love" with the porn starts. He just "has rocks" and wants to drop them the fastest, easiest way he can. You have to admit that 5 minutes with Cyndie la Tiddie is a lot less disruptive than the 30 minutes or more needed for the "real love" that goes on between actual loving partners.

Try to think of it as aid to bringing about a physical response that is going leave him more comfortable, kind of like a can of prune juice to get the bowels moving. Yes, he will have his moment of pleasure with the porn BUT -- and if you won't admit it now, you will by the time you're 60 -- you feel a lot better when that prune juice works, too.

Answer 4

I know you said girls... but I thought I would drop my 2 cents in...

Being a man and a man that looks at porn, I just have to say I do not think you should be insulted or hurt by it. My wife knows I look and is not affected by it.

Since ancient times, artists have visually recreated and re-evaluated the human body, from the ancient Greeks to the artists (and porn producers) of today the sensual beauty of the female form has represented the perfection of beauty.

Face it the nude female body is beautiful, and is pleasing to look at, it is not an insult to want to see more of it... it is a compliment, a statement or testament to the beauty of women.

So, if you did find it, then talk to him about it. Good communication is what will keep your relationship alive.

Good Luck

Answer 5

There is nothing wrong with porn. But you might want to discuss your feelings about porn with him. (not about whats on his computer, but in general) He has every right to have porn, but if he displays it out in the open and it makes you feel uncomfortable, that could lead to a problem if you don't talk about it.

Answer 6

Tell me about a man who does not drink,does not smoke,does not watch porn,does all the home cooking and cleaning,brings in all the money...........infact there is no such man.

Every man has got to do something.And if it is only porn then ignore it.Otherwise go and get yourself another man,who might be into something worse.But if you can't bear with it then move on by all means.

Answer 7

Theres nothing wrong with a little erotica.

I agree with one of the other answerers.........I'd be more concerned about the viruses those sites have.

Better off having a few dvd's instead.....then you could both watch it ocasionally.

I had a friend email me "porn bloopers" th other day .............it was the funniest thing Id ever seen.
All the mistakes they had made during filming.....One girl fell over in those heels, another couple got washed away on the beach...etc

Answer 8

Tell him what my favorite part is.

In the beginning of our relationship (when I was really young), I took offense to it. I was so young and insecure I told him I WOULD NOT be his human toilet and it made me feel inadequate when he looked at that stuff because I could not compare to the meth head dried up skinny models on there. I was afraid he'd get more used to looking at women like that instead of me.

But now, I would just tell him what my favorite part is. I'll even tell him "that guy has nothing on you babe!".

As long as he's not on ALL of the time and you're still getting some (he's making love to you and not Rosy Palm) it will be okay.

Answer 9

If it's a dealbreaker for me, then he's out because even confronting him over it and asking him not to look at it will just mean he gets more sneaky about it.

Also, there's levels of porn - women posing naked is one thing, it's quite a different thing altogether if the porn involves weird fetishes or animals or something else equally disgusting.

It can hurt to find out that men are looking at naked women because we can feel betrayed and think we're being compared to what is, many times, an unreal image of what female beauty and sexuality is.

Basically, inside every man (I'm generalising) is the desire for available women who will drop their clothes at a moment's notice, coupled with the desire for her to be sexually unavailable to everyone else. Sort of like a virgin nymphomaniac. Hence the porn.

Maybe you need to find some nude men and ogle them. It will probably drive your boyfriend into a mad rage of jealousy. I can just hear the screams now - "Why are you looking at him????? Is it because his dick is bigger than mine????" etc., etc.

Answer 10

Would rather have him see porn on his PC than bring a girl home.

Answer 11

Make a joke about what I saw. I would be more concerned about all of the viruses you get on the computer from downloading porn than the actual porn material. Don't be too uptight, you'll lose your man.