my x is my babies mother.now when she left for north Carolina we had a plan on being a family while i work up in the city.but she met a friend while she was at work for a nursing home.but was reluctant to tell me whether this person was male /female.to make a long story short i fount out the truth threw my daughter telling me that mommy has a boy friend.needless to say i was still in love with my woman,well x now.the question is that i have been keeping up with my child support payment and sending more than enough for her to live.but the only time i hear from her is for gas money for her to either go to school or to work and the bank account that i had for my daughter future is now drained. so in my belief i decided to leave my troubles and pain in the most high hand.I can't even explain my x sometimes but my daughter is suffering from it.
2007-10-15 23:35:00 · 5 answers · asked by take_me1st 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Contact her to find out if your child is OK.
You need to do something, but what is the question. If you file for custody unless you can PROVE that the move would be in the "Child's Best Interest", you really have very little chance.
You need to start thinking in that mind set... "What is in my daughter's best interest", and act accordingly. If she is not providing a stable home and environment then you might be able to gain custody.
If her boyfriend is living with her that will help, but if you do go after custody the court will require an "Evaluation" to be done on both households and those can be rough.
I am EXTREMELY jaded when it comes to these things because as many people as I have helped with situations like this have nothing good to say about the evaluators.
I fought a custody battle and the evaluator was so biased against fathers having custody that the money ($2800), was a complete waste.
I have information on custody battles on my website:
http://www.UtahParentsUnderSiege.com/
Check it out and email me if you have any questions.
Good Luck
2007-10-15 23:52:32 · answer #1 · answered by eric_the_red_101 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to sit down and communicate with your x. you deserve some answers to your questions and she owes that much to you. you both need to come up with a fair amount for child support and she needs to BUDGET that. if she has a new man than he needs to be taking care of those short term needs like money for gas, lunch etc. anything concerning your kids than that when you step in, but stop allowing her to use the kids to get want she needs for the moment. she chose to leave the security and stability of your love and relationship than she has to deal with not having the purks available to her at her whim. your kids will be alright. she cant have her cake and eat it too. you have to live and you are making plans for the kids future she is not. so when she calls you the next time asking for extra just her that you dont have it. and let that be the end of the conversation. only talk to her when its concerning the kids, dont do the small stuff talk or listen to her problems. all that is not your concern. she needs to grow up and stand on her on two feet, and stop depending on you to continue to do things for her that you would do if you were in a relationship with her. let her know her place in your life now. which your kids mom. your are a good man and dad and knows that and she wants to continue to get from you because she know that you will not see yours without. stop allowing her to use you. and mistake your kindness for a weakness. GodBless
2007-10-16 00:00:59 · answer #2 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should take your duaghter back and keep track for her.That woman is just a low selfless whore!No offence but my ex aunt did something that made my famliy and me sad and mad!To make it simple,my cousin was kidnapped by Mindy,my ex aunt,and then she came back at the end of summer.My uncle is sueing her *** for that!That's why I hate women like that!Nothing but selfish whores!Ignore it.
2007-10-16 16:13:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how bad she is, you could suggest to have your daughter come and stay with you while her mum gets better and ask your parents to help out if you have to work?.
2007-10-15 23:40:20 · answer #4 · answered by Live_For_Today 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File for custody of your child. She does not sound stable.
2007-10-15 23:39:15 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋