why should people teenagers love themselves?- no matter how you look?

Question

why should we love thyself? no matter how ugly, we might seem shoulnt we just learn to love ourselves?
When we love ourselves we wont have the desire to put down others in order to feel good, why should teengagers accept who they are?

Answer 1

There are very few times when 'whys' work with teenagers.Since they are in a perpetual state of experiencing and learning, distorted self-love is a part of the same process. Putting down others is a kind of reinforcement of the same thinking.Time corrects every thing and teenagers are no exception.

Answer 2

For me, loving ones self is the prelude for the ability of any individual to love others. I have a sorta friend who did not experience the feeling of being loved as a child. Her mother committed suicide when this person was 4 years old. Her mother was so desperate that she hung herself in the laundry room of their home with an electric extension cord. Her father did not, or could not display or demonstrate in anyway that he loved she and her sister. He was arrogant, saw himself as the "intellectual" in the family milieu, and because he demonstrated no display of emotional love for these children, both she and her sister continue to try to feel the security that the sense of being loved gives to those who feel loved. He provided the monetary means that provided, what he considered to be, the necessary component that displayed his sense of responsibility. However, the most caring thing he could have done is to hug his kids, and tell them how much he loved them, and appreciated their existence in his life.