How come we don't see too many guys running around in thongs?

Question

With strip clubs being so abundant, and "bikini baristas" and places like "hooters" nearly everywhere, how come we don't see hardly any male strip clubs or men serving coffee in their next-to-nakedness? Why are there so many more women willing to do this kind of thing, but men (in general) won't or don't?

How come there are so many more female "beauty pageants" than men's "beauty pageants"? Why aren't there any men's fashion magazines? Why is it that men would resist taking part in such things, if it's really not about exploitation?

You're on Jackal........lol!

Twilight: apparently you've never seen a Chippendales show.....lol! They came to our local casino recently and the show sold out completely...

Steven D...it may be highly stimulating to men to see women "breaking taboos" in such ways, true that, but what about men "breaking taboos"? I think some women might say it's stimulating, as well. The question is, why aren't men as willing to "break those taboos" ?

O.k. Shingoshidao, you want a confession? I'm 37 years old and never in my life had I been to a bachelorette party or seen a male stripper before, but last summer a friend of mine bought me a ticket to a Chippendale show...yes, I went...why did I go? Curiosity, I suppose...and yes, it was very visually stimulating. I think it's a fallacy to think that women aren't as "visually stimulated" by men's bodies as men are of women's bodies...my psych professor says that there have been studies done that prove that women are just as "visual" when it comes to sex/what is sexually stimulating....

And no, I didn't just wake up from a dream about a man in a thong...if I had, I'd still be in bed trying my best to go back to sleep and hoping for a sequel......lol!

Back to the original question: why do men resist participating in such things? What stops them? If you've ever seen a Chippendales show, then you know it's not for a lack of a large "paying audience" or lack of interest...so what holds men back?

Twilight: I'd have to disagree with you on that one...the ticket price to the Chippendales show I went to was $30. per person- and the show completely sold out, in fact, there were women trying to get in that couldn't. I bet if there were more men participating in being strippers, or more male strip clubs, women would be just as apt to go to them as men would be to go to female strip clubs...there IS money to be made in this industry for men, but men do not seek to make money this way. What I want to know is why? Something holds them back. Is it pride? Is it dignity? Is it self-respect?

EDIT: The study he referred to was an experiment where (yes) pornographic pictures were given to both men and women to look at, and their eyes were tracked to see what part of the picture they were first drawn to. The interesting thing was, men (according to my psych professor) looked at the women's faces first (believe it or not...lol!), and the women looked at the sexual act itself first (specifically, right where the "activity" was...lol!) I found this most interesting. I wish I could remember what study this was from exactly...I'll have to ask him.

The study above that I mentioned was interesting in that it showed that men were actually most interested in the facial features and expressions of the women in the pornographic pictures...whereas women viewing the same pictures were drawn first to the sex act itself. (I would have thought the guys would be looking at breasts first....lol!)

Answer 1

men have sense.

Answer 2

How come we don't see too many guys running around in thongs? The answer is simple in my mind: Cause we would rather be naked ... grin
Buy ya know.. I got myself in pretty good shape and loved walking around with my jeans low on my hips and my shirt completely unbuttoned, and I had a pair of bib denim overalls that I would wear shirtless with the side buttons open - and yes I did get hit on by men, but girls loved the views and I got a lot more outward responses from women so yes women do enjoy 'seeing'
and I also was recruited by a woman who had a business providing male strippers for all female parties and women do very much enjoy Show.

why it isnt more common is because religions have all the guilt rules programing all the allowed attractions and corporate media program all the desires to be the opposite polarity of the magnet
and most people dont think - just read all the automatic dogma recycling that even I feed in the religion and spirituality section
we have had our sex stolen from us by those that say they own the 'Sexual Life' manual
and too many believe the silly little tests in the magazines where you answer 25 questions and that reveals to you who you are
and then you have a sillier government telling you that you are free

Answer 3

If I had the body and the dance moves and the self-confidence, I'd gladly make a living shakin' my booty for money. And I do have a couple pairs of man thongs somewhere in the back of my drawer...

My opinion is that our puritanism is more heavily focused on women, so men are really turned on to watch women break those taboos in really flagrant ways.

I don't think someone from a society that wore minimal clothing would pay $6.50 to get a coffee from a woman in a bikini.

Adds:
In response to your question, I guess my answer is that there's less market for it. Is that because of something inherently different between men and women? I think so. This kind of goes against what I just wrote about puritanism falling more heavily on women then men, but I once saw a sex worker claim that the great sexual difference between men and women was the fetishistic nature of men--that is that you could find whatever body part or sex act or fantasy made a man tick and you could control him or manipulate him to a certain degree. You can't control women with sex.

So I guess I'm still saying that men would do it more if women opened up their wallets.

Adds again: Maybe what you responded to the other answer about gets at that puritanism thing and women again. Maybe if women weren't so trained to be puritan then they would be hanging out at the male revue every weekend night.

Answer 4

Hey Tera...I don't think its a case of men resisting participation in that kind of activity or service...I think its a clear cut case of supply and demand.

There aren't as many male strip clubs around because the demand cannot support them. Sure, women go crazy at a batchelorette party when the strippers come out, but thats 'one off' activity. Women wouldn't be interested in going to a strip club for an 'executive lunch', or frequent one on a regular basis. (Perhaps some, but not enough to make it a good business.)

A restaurant like Hooters with men wouldn't work, because we don't see the high incidences of women going out as much as men. Women, generally, don't play hockey or baseball as much, and don't go out after the game with all the girls. There just wouldn't be the demand for it...so the supply doesn't exist.

If that changed, however, and there was money to be made, I don't think you'd have to look very far to find hard bodied males anxious to make the money women do in clubs like that...

Answer 5

Well what holds back from wearing a thong is a straight man would have to be very comfortable in himself to wear something like that. I don't think that would be too comfortable anyways, lol. But anywhoo, I think it would be hard for a man to not feel "gay" wearing something like that. Masculinity is quite rigid unlike, femininity which is much more flexible in some ways. There are stigmas for women and stigmas for men. So even if women did want to pay and see men, or as you say weren't conditioned to hold back visual enjoyment perhaps. I think society or at least in America views stripping and stuff as a feminine thing or showing off ones body as feminine. It's ingrained, because many women look at it that way also, as a man being gayish or feminine prancing around in skimpy clothes, etc.

There is a lot of conditioning, especially in American society. Men are visual, but the reason women's bodies, especially breasts are so fetishsized is because of the taboo that has been placed on them. In many countries there are topless beaches and it's really nothing to the people there and men, because it's not hidden and more casual and seen commonly. Whereas, breasts are "forbidden fruit" in America, which only adds fuel to the fire and takes a sexual part to a whole nother lever, thus into obsessed territory which it is in America.

Edit: But what studies are these Tera? The porn studies. I have read where women get turned on by porn. But then by these studies it seemed that these studies implied how women basically get turned on by any type of eroticism. The reason I say that is because from the study I read was that women got turned on by lesbian porn along with gay porn and straight porn, whereas, striahgt men turned on for straight porn and lesbian porn and gay porn for gay men. So if all women aren't bisexual, then this study would have to indicate that the women were getting more aroused by the sex itself, emotions, and sensual acts and pleasure portrayed than the bodies. Did these tests state the arousal towards men's bodies specifically or overall like I mentioned?

Answer 6

It isn't that men are unwilling to do it, more that women are not as interested in paying for it.

@Tera - to clarify - of course there are some, but if you look at the value of the industries, there is a lot more cash in places like hooters etc, than the Chippendales.

Edit #2 @ Tera - I don't agree. I think the market is pretty amoral over what it can make a buck at, and if the market was there, it would be exploited like any other. One full Chippendale show does not make your case. Try walking down the LA strip, or London Soho, or Sydney Kings Cross and you will see hundreds of strip clubs, live shows, packed to the boards, in many cases 24/7. And the audiences are almost exclusively male. The chippendales x 10,000.

Edit #3 (getting to be a habit) Not about dignity and all that stuff either. Plenty of young men down under the Sydney bridge selling their dignity and respect to paying customers for a tiny fraction of what a good lapdancer is making. You think those boys wouldn't rather have a horde of hetero women packing dollars into their g-strings?

Answer 7

Has anyone seen a man wearing one of these? Yes How did you see him, was he bending over and his thong was hanging out? Or he is your boyfriend and you see him all the time wearing them? but in order to do that you need to get him to take off his clothes. *ahem* normally it would be your bf and someone you are sleeping with Or have you ever seen a man buy thongs? If you work in a store like target that sells them, have you checked a customer out that was buying them? No have not seen Or have you bought them for a male friend, or boyfriend? Nope

Answer 8

Tera, hiya. Your quote "... men were actually most interested in the facial features and expressions of the women in the pornographic pictures ... whereas women viewing the same pictures were drawn first to the sex act itself ..." Yes, I can believe that. Men (other than the debased ones) do first take on board women's looks and personality.

Answer 9

Because apparently they don't need to in any aspect you could think of. But times are changing... facial cream for men. XD. Just look at the commercials these days. What a hoot. I'll support this initiative a full 100%...lol

Answer 10

Economics. If there were a big enough market for it, you'd see it. As it is, there are very few of these shows because not enough women want to see them. If there were a demand for it, a ton of guys would gladly get into the business -- guys are not nearly as shy as women about undressing, as I'm sure you've noticed.

Answer 11

Three things are going on here:

1. Societal, Fashion and Employee\Bar and Restaurant Customer dress codes gives a lot more leeway to women generally than to men. Women can get into or work in a lot more places wearing Jeans and a frilly top than guys can. So, men tend to be more uncomfortable when "Out of Uniform."

2. Most men seem to be resigned to the idea that women only want us for our brains and wallets--whether or not that reflects reality.

3. Women are, on average, more body conscious than heterosexual men and tend to take better care of themselves. Men who you might otherwise find attractive are scared to death that your seeing them in a thong might be sufficiently traumatic to ruin any chance they might have with you.