I am starting a big Custody, Visitation, and Child Support Battle agianst my ex who's a drug addict, He is so vindictive, and a big"O" liar. So I know many of you have went through similar things , what can I learn from your mistakes, What should I not do , and what should I deffinetly do! Please help me I am a good mom, I just want whats best for my baby I left him when I found out about the drugs.
2007-10-15 20:26:39 · 5 answers · asked by ? 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
The court order or agreement governs the custody, visitation and support of the child. Report any violation so that the court will make the necessary decision on your ex partner.
2007-10-15 20:47:53 · answer #1 · answered by FRAGINAL, JTM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do to your child what my ex has done to me. I did nothing wrong and no, I don't use drugs. Me and my ex were sharing our twins and I was custodial parent until he wanted them at school age. He hired a lawyer behind my back and acted as a friend to me to my face. I trusted him and got shafted bad. He did lie alot in court, mostly about having the kids the whole time because I didn't save daycare receipts as I never thought I would need them. He now has had custodial for 2 years. So far he has a DWI and an outstanding warrent for his arrest. I am going through mediation and hoping I can bring the children home to the state I live in instead of only having summer visits and holidays.
Someday your child will ask about dad and you will have to have some very good answers as to why dad was not around. In todays kids minds, drugs and prison are just not good enough reasons. The only thing I can tell you is to try and get along with the father as best you can. Don't deprive him of his child or you may end up in an ugly court battle for years to come until the child is 18 years old. These court battles are very stressful and hurt many involved, such as other siblings, grandparents, cousins, aunts, uncles and many others. My ex is doing this very thing to our children. They are now almost 11 years old and under a great deal of stress, yet their stubborn, evil, ruthless, backbiting, rotten dad forces them to live with him in another state because of some piece of paper that he proudly boasts gives him power. I pretty much have to tread on eggshells very lightly when dealing with him or he gets extremly insulted to the point where he threatens me with the children. I am very exhausted from all this. I keep thinking 7 more years and I can tell him to take his court order and shove it up his a** (excuse my language) without the worry of insulting him because I won't care then. The kids will be 18! As of now, I am praying that the Lord will give me my children back after the mediation and that he will be caught in all his filthy lies. I hope I have helped you see what life in a court battle can be like.
2007-10-16 04:16:54 · answer #2 · answered by Dakota Lynn Takes Gun 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all hire a lawyer for a fixed amount of money and get good references from ex clients. Hourly pay is a killer and they will do unnecessary work to overcharge you. Get a private investigator for proof of drug abuse, money spending and assets. Make sure you can show this in court. Don't start fights with your ex and do not talk bad about him in front of your children. Realise that fathers have rights also and that the most important thing is to benefit the children. Maybe your ex is not a junkie but a occasional drug user (not good either but manageable). I wish you good luck!
2007-10-19 15:10:39 · answer #3 · answered by Maryjo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all people, child support should be banned and illegal. Don't let the communist into your life. Get rid of the state and out of everyones life. I would say be mature people and stay away from the state. They are evil and are under the communist bolsheviks.
If I don't get my way with things I will do everything legally that my ex wife does not like and use the kids unitl she bends and gets the state out of my life. For all men, use the kids in a peaceful way and you should get your way.
2007-10-18 23:23:51 · answer #4 · answered by fred k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
rule #1.
ALWAYS ALWAYS be on your best behavior..over the phone..in person... etc..etc..
You never know when you are being secretly taped, videorecorded or watched!
AND..do NOT make up any stories that are not true --- they will come back to bite you in the butt- people can tell if you are lying about things--- and don't make the story out to be worse then it is......
be honest and sincere..and it will be for your advantage.
do things with the kids alot--because you might have a social worker come check out your house--so, is there something you like doing together?? Do it often!
2007-10-18 10:59:50 · answer #5 · answered by ★★★ Katharine ♥♥♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋