Would u have an issue if ur boyfriend thought it was nothing?

Question

My boyfriend's best friend just split up w/ his girlfriend (soon to b married) after she found an email between him & another girl. I really like this friend of my boyfriends & thought that his girlfriend was overreacting to the email cause they were just talking (harmless I thought). However today I read a copy of the email & I would have left his *** too. The other girl that sent the email was talking about having sex w/him, how much she liked it, how she does not care that he is going to b married soon &that she would like to stay his friend w/ benefits & have sex if him anytime he is in town. I could not believe what I was reading. Here is where my question comes in. I was speaking w/ boyfriend about the email & what happened in the relationship & my boyfriend does not c anything wrong w/ what his friend did. He claims they were just emailing each other nothing else. He states that he would never hide something like that from me but does not think his friend did anything wrong. WTF

My boyfriend and I have been together almost two years. We are also currently talking of marriage. All of the people involved in this are in their late 30's early 40's. The girl that left my boyfriend's best friend just had his baby a few months ago.
My relationship is good however this line of thinking is sending up alot of red flags w/me. Can he honestly believe that his friend is not wrong. My boyfriend is currently feeling really bad for this guy and I think he got just what he deserved. From both perspectives, male and female "would u have a problem w/ the email?" and would u have an issue if ur other half thought it was just fine?

Answer 1

I would have an issue for sure. The main problem with your friends choice was not only to talk to this girl, but think about it. Everyone has a choice before doing anything, and obviously he had been thinking about it for a while. Your bf may not see a problem because there was no touching involved YET! but keep in mind the man was secretly talking so it was on his mind to begin with. Men don't see a problem until action takes place, but like I said you have already been deceiving when you take this thought and dwell on it. Its like sex and lust there both wrong!- Major problem- Hope this helps!

Answer 2

Boy its just so easy to walk away and not look back. Look both men and women do stupid things no body's perfect and it was only an email its not like he was banging her on the computer If you or this women really love the men you are with work it out set ground rules let them know your not happy about whats going on. Your boyfriend said he would never do that to you so you have 2 choices either you trust him or you don't don't try to make a whole lot of something out of nothing, and remember that your boyfriend has just as much right to his opinion as you do, The top 2 things in a relationship is communication and trust if you don't have that then you have nothing including love

Answer 3

yea this is a touchy subject. Maybe what your boyfriend means is that its a big deal but not to break off a marriage. I think sometimes men dont see emails and such as cheating if they haven't physically done anything yet. We both know that this isn't true. If you are worried about something like this happening with your bf and you want to make sure that isnt not gonna happen just talk to him. Often times men go outside of the relationship because they aren't getting something within the relationship. Find out what every want and desire you bf wants. Make sure he knows yours as well. Try to fullfill all of those. If you are his number 1 sexy mama then he wont want anything else. just be honest that it made you feel weird! =] hope this helps

Answer 4

Maybe she was trying to break up your bf's best friend and his fiance. It is possible. Did she read any reply emails from him? Maybe he was telling her to leave him alone and that he wanted nothing to do with her. This girl can SAY all she wants, and your bf probably knows she is lying. I would say, give him the benefit of the doubt on this one, until further evidence is found confirming this one. Your bf knows his buddy better than you do, I am sure he is right.

Answer 5

I agree with you WTF....the other guy is an ****** for doing that to his future wife. I mean that was the peroson he was going to spent the rest of his life with....well at least it did not happen. You should put your BF in another situation and say "what if it was the girl who did it to his friend, then what would he think?"

Answer 6

I would have a major problem with the email. I would have a bigger problem that the boyfriend thinks that it is alright. If she said that she liked having sex with him then they have already had sex. Heed those warnings that you are feeling. Good luck.

Answer 7

If he sees nothing wrong he will soon be doing what his friend did. Walk away now before you get hurt, cause you might just find out he is already in the wrong.

Answer 8

i guess your BF and his friend have a lack of morals. of course there is a whole lot wrong with it sending emails like that. if it wasnt, why isnt every married, engaged couple doing this? your bf sees nothing wrong with it, thats shows loyalty means little to him.

Answer 9

Wow. There is something seriously wrong with it and wrong with both of them for thinking that there isn't! They clearly were not "just e-mailing" and as the bride to be, I would have hunted her down and beat her a**!

Answer 10

Hmm, tricky. Did anything happen?

How about this?

What do you think is worse? Find an email like that, or, seeing him kiss the girl.