i am 18 yrs old and recently lost my virginity (about a year ago). now in the yr 2007, i have been pregnant two times. the first time i got an abortion (parents didnt know) and the 2nd time, i had a miscarriage (parents didnt know). i have never used birth control. call me stupid but my parents are not the type to tell me that i need to be safe if i am sexually active. they are the type of parents that say "you better not have sex!!" but in reality, it was bound to happen. i am 18 yrs old and have a boyfriend so it is a possibility of us having sex. but my parents are in denial of us having sex. i am human and it is likely for teens to have sex. so is the reason i have been pregnant 2 times this yr. my parents fault because they did not educate me on birth control???
2007-10-15 20:04:48 · 34 answers · asked by Br3 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
It's your own fault because you are stupid. how hard is it to figure out that you will get pregnant if you don't wear a condom or take the pill? Come on!
2007-10-15 20:08:02 · answer #1 · answered by Angel 4 · 14⤊ 0⤋
Are you really wanting an ho9nest answer to your rather immature question or are you just simple? I was raised the same way - I was advised not to have sex until marriage and was never taught about birth control by my parents. However, at the very young age of 15, I lost my virginity. That time, and EVERY time after, I knew to use a condom from lessons at school, friends etc. Are you honestly telling me that in 2007, you did not know about birth control before you had unprotected sex????? Grow up or STOP having sex!!!! To just kill your flesh and blood because YOU are in denial that you need birth control is disgusting. What is it with people today who take NO responsibility and are always looking to blame someone else for there stupidity!! Are you going to sue your Mum and Dad next because you are dumb? You obviously knew after your first abortion that you could get pregnant from sex without protection yet you chose to continue and get pregnant again? Is your boyfriend only 12 or something and does not know about condoms either??
I completely understand that teens have sex - but don't do it if you are too immature to do it properly!
THEY ARE NOT TO BLAME - GROW UP.
2007-10-15 20:18:57 · answer #2 · answered by soxy 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
u would like to blame ur parents, but le me tell u, by 18 u have the brains and the intelligence to know that most parents r in denial about their kids have sex, so it up to as a person to take the responsibility,yeah u parents have not educated u, but it is ur fault for trying to educate urself. Condoms r there, if u don know how birth controls work there r libraries. U HAVE TO TAKE CARE of urself, ur parents r there to take care of u but in reality 18 is the time to start taking care of urself together with ur parents
2007-10-15 21:13:40 · answer #3 · answered by angel 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Um no, you are old enough to use the internet/watch tv/listen to the radio Im sure you've seen some sexually explicit material. Most kids older than age 10 know that having sex can make you pregnant, and condoms and birth control are readily available to anyone who asks. If you are old enough to have sex, you know how babies are made, and obviously you figured it out the first time you were pregnant, so... how about you figure out birth control before you do it again. Planned Parenthood can help you out if you are in the States
2007-10-15 20:10:16 · answer #4 · answered by Falconer 2 · 8⤊ 0⤋
USE BIRTH CONTROL! There you go, now your educated. So now you have no more excuses.
Every time you have sex, theres a chance you can get pregnant, no matter what! Maybe you dont care about having an abortion, but your killing poor inocent babies, because YOU decieded to be stupid.
I'm sorry if this is harsh, but right now im just thinking of your baby that died.
2007-10-16 07:13:48 · answer #5 · answered by Victoria 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You knew enough to get an abortion so what do you mean it's your parents fault that you don't know enough to prevent a pregnancy, or 2, in your case? You also know about birth control (you mention it), you're just not on it. Grow up, educate, protect yourself and stop blaming others for your own mistakes.
2007-10-16 05:48:40 · answer #6 · answered by AlS 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your parents didn't know you had an abortion, you chose that all yourself so that's your fault as for the miscarriage, that's nobody's fault. Birth control is to stop unplanned pregancies and I'd say you are too blame for not having kids.
Sides birth control would probably lower your chances of having a kid so it's not like if they told you to use it and you did it would matter.
You could of had the child the first time around but you aborted it so that's your fault.
EVERYONE DESERVES LIFE, PLEASE DONT ABORT ANOTHER CHILD!
2007-10-16 04:23:00 · answer #7 · answered by --; cookie. 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
if you can't admit that its your fault..don't try putting the blame to other people, esp your parents because 1. you're already 18 and God gave you your own brain, you don't borrow from your mom or dad right? 2. it was your decision to have unprotected sex, I'm sure you know what's gonna happen. your parents need not to say that to your face to know that 3. how can you blame them when they don't even know, you don't let them know...
it's really bad that you had an abortion and a miscarriage, but I'm also thinking (i may be wrong with this) that those babies are lucky that they need not grow up with you anymore because you still need to grow up and realize that you are not a baby anymore. act your age, be responsible enough to at least take care of yourself. if you still don't want a baby in your life, stop having sex..or at least be careful.
2007-10-15 20:37:30 · answer #8 · answered by airUbreathe 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
OK you are old enough to have fun your old enough and SHOULD be responsible for any consequences while having this fun. Nobody else is to blame. Yes it would of been a good idea that your parents taught you sex education but your 18 come on your an adult act like one!!
2007-10-15 23:25:10 · answer #9 · answered by sexiebum 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's time you take responsibility for yourself, your body and your actions. It sounds like from your statement that you know that being on birthcontrol is the proper thing to do but you are waiting for your parents to tell you to do it. Did your parents tell you to have sex? No! So stop waiting on them to protect you from the inevitable. You are a big girl now, whether your parents were right or wrong, take care of yourself. Sex is an adult act, if you want to keep doing it, you need to act like an adult and take the necessary precautions.
2007-10-15 20:13:00 · answer #10 · answered by Lovely H 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
its your own fault if your going to have sex u need to take the responsibility and your boyfriend should care about u enough to use protection your 18 now get on the pill and use condoms u shouldnt be having babies for a while seeing as how irresponsible u are
2007-10-16 07:10:29 · answer #11 · answered by Bookybell 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋