just wondering everyone's opinion.
2007-10-15 19:01:42 · 10 answers · asked by ♥ Plain Nikki 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ok, i should ask have you ever been the one receiving end of all those phone calls? what's your thought on them.
2007-10-15 19:06:57 · update #1
"on" not one.
2007-10-15 19:07:34 · update #2
it just that we have been getting tons of phone calls. i know they are calling because they care and i do appreciate it. but, they always want to hear what exactly happened. my whole family is still in shock and they are making my mom emotional because now she has to explain everything again. it only refreshes her mind on everything that went down. we've been letting them go to the answering machine. but, we have to pick up the phone sometimes. at this point, i really do feel it does more harm. i just want to unplug the phone and let my mom have some peace.
2007-10-15 20:22:43 · update #3
I think it is considered acceptable but really all condolences should be taken care of at a wake. It IS a lot of stress on the family.
2007-10-16 08:46:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Phone calls just interfere with the grieving family/friends. A visit to the funeral home for visitation is the greatest thing to do for those who are grieving. When at home, the grievers need to rest and do what they need to do in private. Phone calls are not needed. So remember this advice everyone.
2007-10-16 02:34:31 · answer #2 · answered by grannywinkie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you don't know how to deal with the situation when they do call. For me, it is hard to talk about it so soon after someone I care for passes. I just cannot ,at that time , take comfort from words. No matter how heartfelt and sincere.they are. I internalize my sorrow and just want to deal with it in my own way for a while. I know I'm not alone in the way I grieve. Just thank them for calling and caring.
2007-10-16 03:02:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
of course, that is how it should be. situation like a loved one's death has not yet come in my life but even if it comes, i will appreciate the phone calls from my family friends.
that proves they support you, care about you, wish to be by your side, want to help you and feel for you. that gives you strenght to bear the loss.
2007-10-16 02:30:59 · answer #4 · answered by Wonderful 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think they r important!! We just lost a 5 year ole grandaughter in a house fire!! Missed alot of work, with arrangements, sadness,grief and total dispair!! We got alot of cards, & calls from people wantiong to help!! "this is important", if they ask you if they can do anything, accept their offers, it helps to solidify the friendships, allows them the "blessings of helping", and will help your family, at this time of crisis!!
2007-10-16 14:23:00 · answer #5 · answered by happywjc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would rather a phone call so i wont wonder if they just dont care or if they heard the news.
2007-10-16 02:23:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes its perfectly normal, they will call and see how the family is after the passing....my regards to the family.
2007-10-16 02:07:37 · answer #7 · answered by caminolargo76 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is...In our family we come out of the wood works to be with the person, in person....
2007-10-16 02:17:16 · answer #8 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course. They are concerned, want to help, let them know they're thinking of you, etc. Its only natural.
2007-10-16 02:05:25 · answer #9 · answered by Barefoot 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dunno...I would wanna call you and console you, but not if it did more harm!
2007-10-16 20:49:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋