Just found out my wife is pregnant. Any advice about what to expect and how to approach it?

Question

She's 1 month pregnant. This will be our first time so I am a rookie. I just dont know what to expect.

Answer 1

I'm 13 weeks pregnant with my second and my husband could witness to this: be prepared for mood swings, weird food cravings (and no longer liking foods she used to love), crying over a hallmark commercial, being tired ALL the time, a little less action in the bedroom during the first trimester (after the 4th month it should pick up), sore breasts (be gentle), changing her mind a lot, not remembering stuff you think is important, etc. I hope this helps! Congrats! Oh, how to approach is, being kind, letting her think she is right, letting your wife know you care about the sad hallmark commercial, that you are willing to go to the store at midnight to get her a craving, that you will no longer cook (fill in the blank) around her, that you will be softer next time you are romantic and that you'll wait for her to initiate bedroom action, and it's okay that she changed all of the plans last minute. It will get better and it's not always this bad. Have fun! I forgot one last thing, she is never fat and always look beautiful!!!

Answer 2

I can give you some pointers. I am pregnant with my first child and I have not been the usual bundle of sunshine for my boyfriend like I was before I was pregnant. She is going to be hormonal and probably a bit scared herself. Just be reassuring about your situation and of her changing body. She may want a lot of back rubs or foot rubs and she is going to be very tired for a little while, get better, then get really tired again around the 7th month or so. ENJOY YOUR TIME TOGETHER right now because these are the last months it will just be the two of you. :) Above all else, ask how you can support her and be reassuring. :) If you feel comfortable, participate in her pregnancy any way you can..go to the doctors with her when you can, ask her how she feels, offer to help her out, go to child birth prep classes with her, and just be excited..this is such an amazing time for the both of you! Good luck! If she doesn't seem the same for a while, just rest assure, your old wife will come back after a while and hormones can make even the most mellow, great person, a little crazy at times. :) Hang in there and congrats!!

Answer 3

Here's the basic survival guide for having a pregnant wife.
1.) Be nice and considerate
2.) Lots of compliments, especially when she starts to show
3.) Once she's further along, touch her tummy, try to feel the baby move... she'll appreciate your interest/
4.) Go to as many prenatal appts with her as you can
5.) Don't let her lift heavy things, especially after 5 months, and don't let her bend to pick stuff up. Do it for her.
6.) Keep a sexual interest in her - this is a special time. She needs to feel as attractive and gorgeous as ever.

All that said, you should expect her to: have a few weeks of morning sickness, if not more. Offer her saltine crackers and water - it works. She'll be moody from time to time. She'll talk about baby stuff A LOT - baby names, baby furniture, baby clothes, stuff she's looked up online (facts about pregnancy) She'll be excited at first but then want it to just be overwith by 7 months... she may feel anxious about giving birth.

Oh, and buy her the book "What to Expect When You're Expecting" - it's like a pregnant woman's Bible! It has everything you need and even a section in the back for Dads-to-be!

Good luck! If my husband could do it, then you can too! (haha) You'll do great...

Answer 4

Be very thoughtful, loving and understanding. She will be going thru tons of moods and most will be crying or moody. Don't tell her she nags too much, crys too much or b!tches all the time. Tell her how beautiful she is and no matter how far along she is try to take time out of your day and talk to the baby and interact and be very concerned about what is going on and how things are going. Rub her feet, shoulders, back (esp lower back) whenever you can when she starts getting bigger. If she has a craving, don't ignore it. If you go onto babycenter.com you can register for free and get weekly updates on how the baby is growing and how big the baby is and what is forming and more. Be very attentive to everything she has to say about the pregnancy, be understanding when she has morning sickness, or certain foods she used to like she hates now or vice versa and never mention anything about her weight except that she looks like all baby and looks really great, tell her she looks sexy as she gets bigger b/c we think that we look like cows instead..lol, don't get upset if she decides that the couch is more comfy than the bed (b/c it actually is), when it's time to do the nursery try to help as much as you can w/the painting, furniture and such and surprise her by taking her to get her hair or nails done, to get a pregnancy massage or clothes shopping. New things always make her feel brand new and spunky. One of the biggest things to remember is to NOT pressure for sex all the time. If she is in the mood she will let you know. All women are different and they get their sexual moods at different times of their pregnancy...alot during their 2nd trimester. I had mine in the first and hubby hasn't had any since June. Don't pressure and just wait. I think that is all I can think of so far. Good Luck and things will go fine. Just remember to be loving, caring and understanding no matter how stupid or irritating things can get..it's just her hormones and we have no control over them.

Answer 5

Hey, Congratulations!!! Well, at first, there will be the morning sickness, or evening sickness, or none at all....Each pregnancy is different!
Since your on line, there are some very good sites for new parents to be....
Parents.com
Gerber.com
Pampers.com, and tons more......
Read up on stuff, but, don't listen to everyones stories like they are WORD!! You poor thing, EVERYONE and their mother, is going to want to tell you their story or stories, and HOW to do things!!! It will all come naturally in the end. But reading up on what you'll need for the baby, what your wife is going to go through with her body and all, is a good idea......
And If she asks you "do I look fat"???? Your answer is NO!!!
again, congrats!!!! It is a wonderful thing to see your child come into this world. And don't be nervous, we women have been doing this for centuries!!!

Answer 6

Just expect a lot of changes!!! She will be going through a lot emotionally and physically so just be there for her!! She is going to need you now more than ever!!:)(:

Answer 7

awww...congrats ! i am 7 months, a first for my hub, my 2nd
she will get tired, and irritable
possibly morning sickness
read up on this, "what to expect when you are expecting" is really good
get her to sign up for this very informative website: http://www.babyzone.com/
be patient, and tell her daily how beautiful she is... ♥

Answer 8

I think a really good starting point would be a few good books :-)
http://www.parentingclub.com/resources/reading/index.php
http://pregnancy.about.com/od/pregnancybooksvideos/
http://www.adventisthealthcare.com/SGAH/services/maternity/books.aspx

Every pregnancy is special, but the first is exhilarating...scary and exciting all at once.

Answer 9

Lot of mood swings,cravings in different foods, she might have or already be getting sickness. Just stay calm with her be there and support her.

Answer 10

Take it as it comes... Nurture the idea and enjoy the new experience... It is one you will never forget