I am a 21 year old college student going for an accounting degree. Yesterday, i got in a huge fight with my father which totally made me want to end my life. I have never had a good relationship with him and yesterday everything just blew up, ending with me having a bruise and him wanting me out of the house. I hate him so much that i wish i died to never see him again. I cant afford to move out because of my car and paying for school. My mom wants me stay because she pays for the house and my dad never worked and has no money. Its hard to talk to someone about my problems because i have very few friends. I have never had a girlfriend, never been on a date. I feel really lonely and lost. I am having money problems because of school and my car. I have very low self esteem because i think i am ugly, but now its like nothing matters to me anymore. I hate my life and wonder if i should keep going. Ending my life will put me out of my misery.
2007-10-15 18:57:01 · 12 answers · asked by datzme240 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Everyday is hard because i am never happy anymore. I always think of my non existent family, my loneliness, my appearance, my money problems. It seems like there is no point in living anymore when i probably will never have someone to love or someone loving me. I see so many people who are happy and wonder why i have to go through this while everyone has a better life. I know life is hard and is not fair, but family and friends should always be there for you, but i have no one there for me anymore. Thanks for any advice or response, but truly ending my life will be the best option to put me out of my misery. Thanks
2007-10-15 19:00:38 · update #1
Yeah, some of us get that too man. Trust me I have, except the dad part, and the money part, and the girlfriend part, but I've been at the point where I want to quit life and just leave, but not considered dying. Life is just a game dude, think of it that way. just keep it pushing or else you'll never know how it ends. You haven't even started yet. At least you're in college. There's people who have far worse futures than you, don't forget, and they can strive to live on. And I know of people who've never been on dates until they were 26. Learn how to pick up chicks dude. I read this book called The Game, and it was pretty good.
2007-10-15 19:05:15 · answer #1 · answered by Charlie4590 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ilya,
I feel for you, I have been there. At this point, you feel you have nothing and no one, and you feel pressure because you feel that you must finish college and get your accounting degree. I urge you to stop thinking, the most valuable thing you have is you, you are not ugly, you do not have to get an accounting degree if you can't. You do not have to live to other people's standards, you are okay because you have been doing the right thing all this time, your father has problems, you feel sorry for him, but he is not your problem, you love your mother and want to help her but your can't but that is also not your problem.
You have to stop, drop all the pressures and rest your mind, go to sleep, physically and in your mind. When you are rested, you can decide calmly what you can do, and who can help you, a friend, a counselor, a teacher or a priest.
I am also here for you, I will answer any question if you want me to.
2007-10-15 19:23:35 · answer #2 · answered by Net Rider 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to feel the same way you do! DO NOT KILL YOURSELF!! You will only be adding to your misery!
What kept me from ending my life was the fact that I do not want my enemies to gain any victories on me. Add to the fact that I like pissing them off that I am still breathing the same air that they are!
What also helped is the fact that I turned my life over to Jesus Christ! I've met more friends through the Church than any other place. Do note; the Church is NOT for perfect people! The Church is for everybody because we are all sinners!
I care enough to pray for you! Someone else cares about you so much that he shed his precious blood for all of your sins! That someone is Jesus Christ.
All that you have to do is repent, turn away from, and pray this prayer, "Dear Jesus, please forgive me of my sins. I want you to come into heart. Cleanse me now of all my sins. make me new person in you. I Now accept you as my LORD and saviour. I also ask that you remove the thoughts of suicide! For this I ask in your precious name, Amen!
Now, if you did do this, you're name will be in the book of life!
All you need to do is find a Church that where Bible is the final authority, and is tought as such.
Fellowship with other believers. That's where you'll make tons of friends.
I will pray for you!
2007-10-15 19:52:32 · answer #3 · answered by Martinicus the mighty! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me like you need a change
maybe there is an option of work/study? maybe you could find a couple of other guys to room together and share expenses?
ending it all will not solve anything...it really won't...
things appear only the way you believe them to be...you imply that you have not had a date because you believe yourself to be ugly and boring?
don't start conversations with your problems...always put a smile on your face and try to be positive...or sarcasticly humorous...no one wants to be around someone who appears to be miserable...we are ALL miserable in one way or another, we just hide it, keep our chins up and try to focus on the positive
i laugh at my miserable life...nothing could be funnier to me coz nobody has seen some of the stuff i have seen and can laugh about it, make light of it, and go on
misery loves company...company just doesn't love misery
try to find something in common with some males, get to know them, see if you can't find a room mate and move out...that is your first step- to get away from your parents' house and get on with life
2007-10-15 19:08:05 · answer #4 · answered by uranus2mars 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nobody owns u anything. u can't live with your father - sell your car and move out. find a part time job. u don't want to do it? sure, it is more conveniet to stay with mommy and everybody love u and everything like in those stupid movies. but let me tell u smth - movies re not real life. it never happens in real life. so u want to stay at home , don't work and have a car? so stay quiet then and stop arguing with your old man. just stay out of his way. or move out. and u have no rights to judge him -whether he worked or not. u re the one who is not working at the age of 21
2007-10-15 19:20:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
live Ur life for u ... not for them...
Everyone in this world has only one person to trust and that is themselves !!
do ur best in school to get out on ur own, Stay away from ur dad and alway s keep ur mom close to ur heart cause she sounds like a woman who wants her family to be happy.
Do what u need to do for ur future and dont worry about girls cause if u did have a girlfriend then u would just have more problems and be less focused on ur school work.
A girl will walk into ur life when u less expect it so keep ur head up and do things for u nOT no one else
2007-10-15 19:30:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-04-09 02:59:46 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh dont feel so bad bout ur life keep going it will get better all u have 2 do is pray to God that every thing will get better i will even be here 4 u e-mail me at ravennmartinez@yahoo.com if u ever need someone 2 talk 2 God bless and i hope u feel better smile papi
2007-10-15 19:28:22 · answer #8 · answered by raven m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU STAY WHERE YOU ARE!!!! Your MOM will take care os this worthless man!! yuo consintrate on your studies, get your own $$$ tree planted, and be there, when your moms had enough!! It must be hard for him to watch you do something w/your life, rather than letting him influence you into nothing-ness!! Be strong&proud, yuor gonna be just fine!!!
2007-10-16 07:27:53 · answer #9 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
would it be worth it? for all you know, that's exactly what your father wants you to do. evaporate. if you ended your life he will have the last laugh. would you like that to happen? i suggest you stay in your house and move out when you have the resources. it's hard when you still have no living. do what your mom wants you to do. stay. don't mind your father. act like he doesn't exist.
2007-10-15 19:02:47 · answer #10 · answered by Xelca Grace 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋