It has been almost 6 years since we saw each other, then we bumped into each other at a local bar.We spent the night together(not sexually), and she told me she was sorry and would like another chance.she seemed sincere this time.i told her I am currently seeing someone (although I'm not sure where this relationship is headed). We have had lunch together on a few occassions since then, and I sometimes stop in to see her at work on my way home (she is an exotic dancer).I think I'm still attracted to her, but not sure if we should get back together.Should I forget about her and move on or should I give her one more chance?
2007-10-15 18:41:56 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well, it sounds like she is your weekness, & if you do take her back, accept the fact that she may or may not be faithful . & take it.
you've known her before, so if you take the chance, take also the consequences & forgive her if & when she does it again .
However, I've found in my expierience it's not wise, you may just get your heart broken again.
2007-10-15 18:50:22 · answer #1 · answered by AnnaMaria 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, you can find better. First off, she is an exotic dancer. Nothing against dancers, but she is going to have guys drooling over her all the time, and she seems like the person who enjoys the attention, it is always hard to be in a relationship with someone with that type of profession. Second, will you ever truly be able to trust her again.. I if the answer is no then don't go back. You cant have a relationship without trust and she has betrayed it more than once. Once a cheater always a cheater.
I would say unless she quit the dancing for a few years and showed you that she was over that lifestyle and was truly ready to settle down, then maybe reconsider, but until then I would just remain friends and save yourself the heart ship. You deserve better. I understand you love her, but you don't need to be treated better.
Good Luck..
2007-10-15 19:10:04 · answer #2 · answered by angelalee76 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Some people never learn! You are just a glutton for punishment! It will always be this way. Remain her friend from a distance, that is the only way you will get along. To much damage has been done there. It is not fixable. She has made her life in the bar world & she is where she wants and always will choose to be..
Can't you find yourself some happiness with someone else while you can. Life isn't that long you know. Stop waisting it, it can be good if you find the right person.
2007-10-15 18:45:14 · answer #3 · answered by char__c is a good cooker 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Please let this bad egg go, she is well past her used by date and disrespected you twice already with other men. What makes you so sure she wont do it again?
And as for you...why are you disrespecting your current partner regardless of where the relationship is headed??
If my man was meeting an ex for lunch or stopping into see her at work, i would kick his sorry ***!
In all fairness, you both probably deserve each other. I feel sorry for the innocent people involved, namely your current lady friend.
2007-10-15 18:50:05 · answer #4 · answered by begirl 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OK, take it from a guy who has been in a relationship with an "Exotic Dancer"....
RUN FOR YOUR LIFE!!!!
I have known several "Exotic Dancers" and few are what I would call "Normal"... most are "Damaged" and have issues with boundaries.
If you give her another chance she will break you heart again, move on.
2007-10-15 20:02:47 · answer #5 · answered by eric_the_red_101 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOve on Once Bitten twice is crazy
Picture yourself in a nest of rattle snakes, you have a greater chance of getting out of there alive than finding happiness with her.
She is not worth the trouble
2007-10-15 18:52:46 · answer #6 · answered by will_955 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you feel comfortable and happy with unfaithful person ? You are the only one who can decide if you want to give her a 3rd chance. You don't want marriage and divorce in cycles,it is a waste of time and emotional pain.
2007-10-15 18:53:07 · answer #7 · answered by Vannili 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on. It's only likely to happen again. If she is an exotic dancer, she probably has attention issues, i.e. she really likes it, and there are probably lots of men willing to give it.
2007-10-15 18:48:36 · answer #8 · answered by jedimorgana 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not trying to be mean but you have to have a screw loose to even consider going back to this cheat a thon. Have some pride in yourself and tell her to take a hike. The only good thing about her would be if she gave your buds free lap dances.
2007-10-15 18:47:48 · answer #9 · answered by T T 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So you've been there twice and hoping the 3rd time is the charm? Wow. Some people never learn.
Those who forget the past are condemned to repeat it.
2007-10-15 18:47:48 · answer #10 · answered by Crypt 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you're considering it, even after all that's happened, I would say you're more than attracted to her. But the fact is that a leopard doesn't change its spots. So, for your emotional well-being, I would advise you to keep on walking. And never look back.
2007-10-15 18:50:08 · answer #11 · answered by Faerie_Queene3 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋