Been dating my bf for the past 6 months, when recently he told me he didn't want to be in a serious relationship. He still wants to go out, he says, and doesn't get physical with anyone else. (We are both 25) So I said fine, and a few days later as I was driving away from the mall I saw him coming in with a girl I recognized. He waved and immediately called me. He was like, "Hey, we're going to get something to eat, do you want to come?" And I asked him who he was with. And he said his friend Jen from Vegas. I actually know of her through mutual friends we have, but apparently he didn't know this. So I said sure, then he was like, Oh wait a second, let me call you back. So he called me back and said, "Oh she changed her mind, she doesn't want to eat, she needs to talk to me about her husband. But do you want to come over after and hang out with all of us?" I said no. WTF?? This girl is NOT married. So I said, Wait, she's married?" And he said she married one of his best friends.
2007-10-15 18:19:26 · 17 answers · asked by Leah 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why would he lie about that???? I'm almost positive there is nothing going on, or else why would he call me right in front of her (I saw him in my rearview mirror whip out his phone and call me right away in front of her), invite me to eat with them, then say she changed her mind, casually mention she was married, then invite me to hang out later. Something is VERY shady here and i don't get it. Anyone have any ideas?
Should I say anything to him about it? I don't even get why he would feel the need to lie in the first place since we aren't even together anymore (his choice)
This happened a week ago and that's the last I've heard from him... the longest we've gone without talking since we've known each other. He usually calls me every other day or every day, even since we've been broken up. I don't get it.
2007-10-15 18:20:57 · update #1
Oops, i meant to put this in the singles section. Sorry.
2007-10-15 18:21:24 · update #2
Seriously, I'm baffled.
2007-10-15 18:22:26 · update #3
Why would a married girl be going out with one of her single guy friends at night for dinner anyway? Where the hell was her husband if she even had one. Weird... I feel used and played. = (
2007-10-15 18:39:42 · update #4
I think he called you because he saw you see him and he was trying to cover hiss a**. Yes, something is shady. He probably doesn't want to burn his bridge with you until he knows it's going to work out with her or he wants you both. In any case, I hope you move on and find someone more worthy of you. Good luck.
2007-10-15 18:27:09 · answer #1 · answered by Ellen L 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I would call him & tell him exactly what you told us....that you know this girl isn't married & that you don't understand why he had to lie about it since you're not together anymore? See what he says...His "break up" didn't sound very clear? He doesn't want to be in a serious relshp, but wants to go out w/ you? So he wants to see you, but see other people too? I would just ask him exactly what he expects of you & what his plans are with you & with other women. Good luck! My first instinct was to say that he is stringing you along, but there's always details of the story that are unknown, so it's really hard to say!
2007-10-16 01:40:05 · answer #2 · answered by ♥bigmamma♥ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What would it take for you to believe she is the reason he doesn't want to see you anymore. He called you because you caught him red handed after telling you not to get physical with anyone else and here he is not wasting anytime. 6 months isn't very long to get to know someone and you sure didn't know this guy. Look we all want to believe the person we think we know intimately but lets face it we only know as much as he wants us to know. It hurts like hell when the person you love betrays you. You wanted to be the one that got though to him but he isn't ready to stop playing around and maybe you are the one he wants when he is done playing.
2007-10-16 02:46:51 · answer #3 · answered by Teenie 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i just wonder what he was eating. drop him like a hot potato. i always heard that women from vegas can be promiscuious. maybe the next time u see him give his member a good sniff, that will tell u right there. good luck to u and i hope everything works out for u. i will keep u in my prayers
2007-10-16 01:35:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you a story my cousin who came to know about my bf went to tell him about us to talk to him as my cousin when she got there she flirted with him sent explicit sms phone conversations etc then ended up flirting or whatever its called without them ever meeting each other.During this whole time both my cousin and my partner would talk to me over the phone yet pretend like nothing was going on until i found out my cousin was secretly married thats when they both confronted eachother and fought broke up over no reason so there was something going on with them.I think Jen from Vegas is into this whole thing just like ur bf is lying to u u know her thru mutual friends(thats funny shes from Vegas)unless she went to one of those 24/7 chapels like Pam Anderson to get married i think ur bf is lying going around with her and Jen from Vegas is in on it with him since they both call u in front of eachother
2007-10-16 01:33:07 · answer #5 · answered by abrowneyezbeauty 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well he probably asked you like that because he knew you would say no and he figured that way he at least asked, and then the blame could be put on you for saying no.
u obviously dont know the girl THAT well. so how do you know if she's married or not? maybe it just happened recently.
i dont know about you but me and my boyfriend would be having a serious talk if that were me.
2007-10-16 01:38:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
let the clown go and find you someone new to talk too. after dating 6 months and he told you that he don't want a serious relationship. what a creep, he should know within couple of month if he want to have a serious relationship or not. just forget about what he did and move on, Lady. that only be waste of your time and brain cells trying to figure his dumb butt out.
2007-10-16 01:31:29 · answer #7 · answered by Thomas 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
he just wants to be a player so be glad that you are rid of him. Anyone that can make up a story on the spur of the moment like that is able to do that only because he has done it so often. he may have told her that you wanted to talk about your husband, that you were his sister or perhaps that you are lesbian.
Just consider yourself lucky to be rid of the guy!!
2007-10-16 01:29:13 · answer #8 · answered by Al B 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
hes business with someone else sorry to say.. hes moving on and your just hanging on to wait and see if he wants to start up again. you should be out hanging with friends and have a guy on your arm or dancing or whatever.. like going to dinner.. he called you coz he was caught.. and i am sure he told her that.. but he didnt ask her before he asked you if you wanted to eat with them so when he hung up with you and she told him no then thats when he said she changed her mind.. you can bet they went on and ate somewhere. either way it sounds like hes done with you so you should move on and if and when you are available again you might go out with him again.. good luck
2007-10-16 01:26:47 · answer #9 · answered by Kat 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
dear this is classic. his woman new about u so that's why he called u in front of her. all the rest was a bluff. he didn't want u to come and eat with her and he invented her husband to make her sound innocent. your guy is a slime bag, don't brake your head over him. he is not worth it. he lied to u and yes, there is smth going on with him and her
2007-10-16 01:30:52 · answer #10 · answered by yeahright 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋