If your spouse cheated on you before and you gave them a second chance but you still catch them looking at people of the opposite sex or asking a co-worker of the opposite sex out (although they said it was harmless) and you feel insecure all the time, would you call it quits?? (serious answers only)....
2007-10-15 17:49:39 · 12 answers · asked by Sony 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dear Sony:
I know that you love your man alot. I know this because even after he cheated on you, you decided to give him a chance. You have to really sit and think: Is this something I want to be worrying about all my life? Is this what I think that I deserve? I dont cheat on this guy, dont I deserve someone who is loyal to me as well as I am to him? Better yet, do this exercise real quick. Take a piece of paper, and fold it in half the long way. Make two columns, on the corner on the right, title Reason's why I should stay with him, on the other column write Reason's why I should leave him forever and move on. Start writing down all the reasons you think you should stay, and reasons why you should leave. If the only reasons on the right column are "I love him, or I have kids" then you really ought to just dump him and not think twice. Once a cheater always a cheater. You deserve better. If you stay with this guy, you will catch a disease, get pregnant, and always always have to worry about where he is, what he is doing, is he cheating or not, and that my friend, will do a terrible number on you and your self esteem. Dump that looser !!!! Asap!!!! I know it will hurt, but the best way to get over a break up like that is to just sweat it like a fever. First you go through a couple days of hurt, a little tears (which he is not worth by the way) but then, all the pain goes away, and then you will be thinking: "My god, what was I thinking being with that loser!!!" I should have dumped him sooner. Sony, you cant change a man like that, once they cheat, they always cheat and they always lie. Its best to just let them go ruin someone else's life, not yours.
2007-10-15 18:03:19 · answer #1 · answered by Yahoo User 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the second chance was a nice gesture but now that you have realized that you will always suspect the worst--second chances are not such a great idea. Sorry, but guys or gals who cheat lack respect for themselves and others--have no maturity--lack dignity and integrity---could care less about diseases --have little or no self esteem--no self control---not much concern for their partners feelings--- basically cheats are low life creeps that don't deserve anything but the misery they created. You can't tell me that their isn't a few decent people in your area.... why waste anymore of your life?? go get a decent person and have a real nice relationship. I have to give you credit--you gave a second chance--not many out there would do that. I doubt that you would ever do that again. people who look at others all the time and feel the need to have the attention of others all the time--are really not a good choice--eventually I would be upset by that juvenile immature behavior too. They would out on their butt in a second....and no excuses accepted. Well--good luck
2007-10-15 18:02:24 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-04-09 02:56:44 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie you need to get a life and some counseling. you need to be shown how to deal with the issues of being cheating on and what steps you need to take to forgive the spouse. so what they look at the opposite sex. they are not dead that is a natural thing to do. that has nothing to do with you. get over yourself. the problem is you are spending to much time worrying about how to control spouse and stop spouse from cheating on you again that you are a paranoid fool. stop it right now. enough is enough. his cheating has nothing to do with you. its all him and the character flaws that are within him. the cheat is just a symptom of a problem and he needs to get counseling for that. there is nothing that you can do to ever stop him from cheating on you again. so you need to focus on self. seek some professional counseling and really take advantage of what the professional has to offer. GodBless
2007-10-15 18:10:03 · answer #4 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELLO! Yes what kind of question is this you already know the answer. Do not feel insecure over this total LOSER! And a total LOSER is what this un human person is. Who doesn't love you and cares nothing about your feelings. Get rid of them and find someone who will make you feel good about yourself and happy. You know, you only have this one life, why spend it like this? Good luck and I know you are probably deeply hurt by this person but you can do better and I don't even know you.
2007-10-15 17:57:27 · answer #5 · answered by alex-mommy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Asking them out?! Yeah...I'd call it quits. Your spouse should be doing everything possible to prove to you that you are the only one. It doesn't look like that is even close to happening.
2007-10-15 20:39:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looking is one thing. Asking people out is crossing the line. Time to move on. Good Luck
2007-10-15 17:54:19 · answer #7 · answered by C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would call it quits. You gave him a second chance and he still cannot behave himself. You deserve to feel secure. Get rid of him.
2007-10-15 17:54:15 · answer #8 · answered by kim h 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If I felt I couldn't trust him and felt insecure all the time I would call it quits.
2007-10-15 17:57:29 · answer #9 · answered by gloria b 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say you should leave because you will never trust him again and it is far better to spend your life with some one that you trust and don't love than to spend it with someone that you love and don't trust
2007-10-15 18:08:32 · answer #10 · answered by Doc Phil 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋