Is it possible to be in a relationship where you cannot trust?
I have trust issues and I know that it requires trust to be in a relationship. Thing is, that I've been let down too many times in my past. Too many wounds have been created and I just don't feel like I can deal with the pain anymore. Honestly I don't think that I can be in another relationship. I am currently 20 years old and I trust absolutely no guy and no one overal
2007-10-15 17:44:06 · 19 answers · asked by . 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Same thing pretty much happened to me when i was your age, i became very paranoid. It all has to do with the people in your life, if u are with a good guy who deserves your trust, you will know it. If your gut instinct tells u something is wrong, it probably is. Im 25 and i learned now to give people the benefit of the doubt, and try not to jump to conclusions or assume things. Your heart will tell u how u should feel, and usually its right on target.
2007-10-15 17:52:27 · answer #1 · answered by Debbie M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not impossible. You could stay in a relationship be miserable and make the other person miserable but you'll just be wasting time b/c eventually it won't work out like that. You need to deal with the issue you have before you enter into a new relationship. Learn to let go of the past. Yes, falling in love is taking a risk. Be optimistic, if it doesn't work out you've got so many more guys to meet. Eventually you'll find the right one. We're still so young! Too young to become bitter already. Just have fun, the right guy will come.
2007-10-15 17:51:41 · answer #2 · answered by Ebony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yours is a pretty sad case but it is indeed possible to be in such a relationship. You are a living proof of its possibility, having been in such relationships.
You may want to keenly explore why trust vanished. Did you or your mate do or did not do something in the previous relationship! You are right to observe that trust is important for relationships. Trust is cultivated and nurtured over time. When distrust begins to infest it like a malignant worm in a luscious apple, one should trace and determine when and why it all began. It is possible to identify the causes and reflect on the alternative choices. Not all guys are untrustworthy, hence one should become a misanthrope.
Warm wishes
2007-10-15 18:05:13 · answer #3 · answered by ari-pup 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, it's possible, but odds are the relationship will be unsuccessful. Maybe you should speak with someone regarding your general outlook on relationships and try to rebuild some of the confidence you lost in people as a whole before trying to start or commit to a serious relationship. Otherwise, you'll be wasting your time. Good Luck.
2007-10-15 17:47:23 · answer #4 · answered by christopher3712 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. you have to have trust for it to work or else you'll hurt someone the way you're hurting now. Getting your heart broken over and over can cause you to feel the way you do, just remember that it has to rain before you can see a rainbow. Love hurts when it's over...but without love, what's the point? Being in a relationship may not be the best thing for you right now but don't rule it out forever or you'll miss out on THE ONE who won't break your heart.
2007-10-15 17:49:17 · answer #5 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a lot of time. Perhaps you need some room to learn to trust your own choices first? TIME helps a lot and so does maturity. There are many types of relationships. Often, the relationships we have outside our families "go wrong" because of unresolved issues we have back home. Before you can build strong bridges, you must learn to restore those you may have burned.
2007-10-15 17:51:56 · answer #6 · answered by anieska 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you've got to work on yourself with trusting anyone. Thats the key to being able to trust people. As far as trusting a guy, if you're not ready to trust a guy dont force it. You need to heal before trying to maintain a relationship with no trust. A relationship with notrust ends up with the person not being trusted telling himself/herself doing whatever they want since the other person doesnt trust them.
2007-10-15 17:49:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
we are living in a fast moving world where you should be alert and the at the same time not to loose trust in people . nowadays there is an increasing need for money and that includes you and me and people are now less attached to virtues so the measures we used to have on how to deal with people are not quite the same like 10 or 20 years ago .
trust people but be careful not to be conned , exploited or betrayed . you can know somebody from the tone of their voices . we need people but again be careful even in your household .
2007-10-15 18:23:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you, so young and to have been hurt so many times. Perhaps give yourself some time, don't get in another relationship yet. Give yourself time to heal, to get to know yourself again, go out and do some fun stuff with girlfriends or alone. Focus on you, heal, and then look for a healthy solid relationship. Get some counseling help if you feel that, that would help.
Good luck, you are important and worth the efforts to heal.
2007-10-15 17:49:41 · answer #9 · answered by Cat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is part and partial of everybodys life. Some relationship ended such because of so many reasons .Mostly just for seeking a better one or for fun. You are very young. Take it easy. We are born to this world not depending on this relationship.Be friends don stick to steady relationship immediately. Good friend will remain with you for years in all circumstances. Then decide for a stedy one.
2007-10-15 18:01:02 · answer #10 · answered by Sha S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋