My husband sent me a IM ment for another woman. It said " I love you so so very MUCH and thank you so much for coming into my life, I love u" When confronted he finally admitted to talking to her but claimed it was just for pics or her and thats it, the words ment nothing. My trust is gone and he is doing anything in his power to convince me other wise...He is out of country. So help me please is it cheating ? This being the 2nd time he's lied about another woman do I stay or should I continue walking away?
2007-10-15 17:15:31 · 15 answers · asked by Katrina E 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Only you can answer the Big Question:
"Am I better off with him or without him?"
You answer dictates your next move
2007-10-15 17:40:26 · answer #1 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is not cheating. He is just getting some attention from someone that he is close to. Maybe she sent him pictures of something, or even her, but he is not cheating.. The guy might just be seeing if he still has it. I really don't think he is cheating. If it came down to it, and she said, "ok, lets do it", I am sure he would say look... we are just friends. Don't worry, but keep an eye on the situation. Don't read anything into it. If you don't trust him, first chance you get to seize his cell phone and find out who he has been texting to, do it. Then confront her.
2007-10-16 00:24:33 · answer #2 · answered by fire_chief22 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Trust is such an important element in a marriage. Without it, there will always be suspicion, mistrust, anger, resentment..etc.
If you think he is worth your while (with his efforts to convince you and trying to keep you), have a good talk with him, get his commitment to change and let him know you will give him a last chance; though you can forgive him, forgeting will be literally impossible. He has to make every effort to win back your trust.
If you feel there is no chance of him changing, don't waste your youth and time. Let it go and move on. Sure, there will be a sense of loss, tears, anger and feeling of being cheated but time will heal.
Good luck!
2007-10-15 21:17:35 · answer #3 · answered by Didi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow. I'm sorry you are being hurt like this. If he were doing everything in his power to convince you otherwise, then perhaps he could try being faithful. Yes, this is cheating. And, if the words meant nothing, why did he say them? Also, do those words mean anything when he says them to you? How are you to know? Ask him to clarify that for you.
2007-10-15 20:44:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
While he has not physically cheated (well not that you know of) he has nonetheless hurt you beyond words. I would not blame you for losing all trust and faith in him and no matter how many ways he says 'sorry' the words will become meaningless and empty to you.
Tell him upon his return he can expect his bags to be waiting, why should you put yourself through this and have it happen again when he returns?
2007-10-15 17:33:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why would you want to stay around? If he chooses to stay in a job that takes him away from you and out of the country he is not that into you anyways. Be done and go about your happy life and leave this low life to live in the gutter.
2007-10-15 17:44:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
yes he is cheating- run, don't walk to the nearest exit. I would have said try to work through it but since it is not the first time then chances are that leopard is not ever going to change his spots!
2007-10-15 17:32:06 · answer #7 · answered by dances with cats 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How much more evidence do you need Katrina?, as it is very obvious to me he's up to no good and playing around behind your back. You can either wait to catch him out again or tell him its over now. To catch him out again, you wait until he goes for a shower and then get his mobile phone and check it out for messages.
2007-10-15 17:33:24 · answer #8 · answered by Live_For_Today 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He is cheating. It would be enough for me to get out. He has done this before and he has proven that he will do it again. You deserve better than that. Go out there and get it. Good luck.
2007-10-15 17:35:31 · answer #9 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
im sorry to say this but the fact that this happen for the second
time, it time to deal with the fact that he cheating on you and
you need to fiqure out what you want, if you truly want respect
from him then let him know how you feel .and then do what
is right for you.
2007-10-15 17:36:42 · answer #10 · answered by luckystar 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋