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please my heart is so broken
2007-10-15 17:14:27 · 3 answers · asked by Ria B 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ria, what do YOU want? If it was me I would have to go to him just to prove to myself that I had tried everything. Not give up my home where I was at, but for a 2 week period to see how we felt when together. And I would have to see my little boy. You may have inherited him but must have feelings for the little tyke!
It sounds like he is a self centered man, but I don't know all the details as none of us can but you and him. You could demand that he come to you, but it doesn't sound like that would work and you would be more disappointed. I would show up unannounced to see what he is doing, decide how I felt when I got there and either stay and make it work or go home and divorce him. Best of luck to you all!
2007-10-15 18:19:03 · answer #1 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is being selfish expecting you to uproot your life and that of your children to return to him. If he truly loved you he would have taken time away from his job to come to you and try to make things work.
You are better off saying 'no' you will not return and 'no' you do not want to work anything out. While the situation is a heartbreaking one especially where the children are concerned you must take stock of your own future and where you are heading with your life.
Apply for visitation with your son and allow him to have visitation with the twin girls, it was his choice that led to this situation and he now must face the consequences of another broken marriage.
2007-10-16 00:29:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've expressed your worries about whether he really wants you and about whether you should do what he wants. But what do you want? Perhaps, it's time to stop and get clear about what YOU want out of your life. I'm not saying that you should be selfish; I'm saying, be honest with yourself whether you actually still want to be with him. You're already taking care of your twins by yourself, so you don't really NEED him. Is it probable for you to get custody of your boy, or is he alright with his father?
Until you're clear about your terms for happiness, staying with him or not is just shooting in the dark. And, he needs to be negotiable and willing to meet the part of your terms that you must have to be happy.
Be strong, you deserve happiness and don't have to put yourself last every time.
Addition:
I think children are better off with and more inspired by a single parent who is wise, has inner strength and takes charge of his/her own life, than to grow up in a stressful atmosphere with both parents being miserable.
2007-10-16 01:31:01 · answer #3 · answered by Observer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋