I love him but I am soffucated by his behaviour. He even locked me up at night, just to be sure that I wont leave the room while he is sleeping.
2007-10-15 16:57:35 · 16 answers · asked by Mtch* 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That really is a form of abuse and is against the law... do you like being treated like a dog or his property??? That is extremely controlling.... you can't reason with someone like that and it's not that he doesn't understand you ...he just doesn't care what you have to say.... Dump Him
2007-10-15 17:02:29 · answer #1 · answered by DavidV 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am never the one to tell a woman to leave a marriage. BUT... you need to go because if he is locking you in a room now he will be beating your head in and tieing you to a pole in the basement pretty soon. You deserve better. Do you pray? You need to get out while you can! Are there any children involved in this? If not why bring some into it? Get out while it's possible, it eill only get worst. Make the correct decision for yourself.
2007-10-16 00:10:15 · answer #2 · answered by MrsE 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say this, but he needs professional help. If you're not ready to leave him, ask him why he feels the need to do what he does to you. Remember to approach the matter very calmly, point to specific incidents and avoid making general statements, maintain the calmness, be reasonable even when he's not. Try to understand the cause of his insecurity displaced onto you first.
If you're afraid of him, especially physically, it's time you left. Help him from a 'safe distance' if you still want to.
2007-10-16 00:30:33 · answer #3 · answered by Observer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can't express the way you feel about it, in a normal conversation with him, then ask him if he would go to couseling with you... Trust is a big part of a relationship. He obviously doesn't trust you, or has trust issues. You may love him, but the way he is showing his "love" isn't love. If counseling doesn't fix anything, then I suggest you get out of that mess. You don't want to live your FREE life, locked up when you don't have to be.
2007-10-16 00:06:50 · answer #4 · answered by Crystal & Steve *Muah* 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're married to a nut job, and if you tell him you're unhappy he won't care. Don't waste your breath. Instead, get a lawyer and file for divorce. By the way, if you are living in America, it is illegal for him to lock you up. If you're too afraid to divorce him, call the police. This guy is a psycho, not a husband and definitely not a man.
2007-10-16 00:09:05 · answer #5 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Locks you up?! Holy moly! I think that you should maybe get yourself away from that situation. Is there other abuse going on too. I would think a man who is willing to go so far as to lock his wife up would also be abusive in other ways.
2007-10-16 03:57:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This kind of behavior is not normal and the more you let him get away with it, the worse it will get. Express yourself to him and tell him how his making you feel. Tell him you miss the guy he was when you two first met. He needs to trust you in order for your relationship to work. If things don't get better after having a talk with him you need to get out of the relationship before it gets to dangerous. i have seen this happen before, "caution"
2007-10-16 00:09:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
when you get the chance start talkin 2 him about things like stuff yall did 2day. after that when he finally looks at u and don't say anything back, ask him have he every thought about how yall relationships goin....after he answers tell him how u feel about it, then he should finally get the point on how you feel. give it a shot.
2007-10-16 00:06:19 · answer #8 · answered by Mikado 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW. he locks you in?? that is crazy. i would just leave. he will get mad if you tell him. do you have anywhere to go where he can't find you?? dose he act abusive?? that kind of thing is usually something someone abusive would do. i am sooo sorry you have to go thought this. i hope things get better for you:(
2007-10-16 00:03:58 · answer #9 · answered by rblankenship_rblankenship 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel and then tell him that if he wants to stay married to you he has to get some counseling.
2007-10-16 00:04:13 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋