20 too young to get married?

Question

We have been together 2 years and will get married, God has brought us together undoubtedly but I'm just asking for opinions.

Answer 1

I got married at 20- my husband was 25. We're celebrating our third anniversary this month and are still doing very well and are very much in love. Three years isn't a lot, but I tend to believe that if we were going to fail, we would have started failing by now.

Your age in numbers doesn't matter as much as your maturity.

Answer 2

In my opinion, yes. There's just so much growing left to do, and what looks great at 20 might not look good at all at 25, much less 40 and beyond.

What's the rush? If you're saying you "will" get married that means you believe this is a relationship worth committing to. Two or three more years (or five, for that matter) of dating is just a blink of an eye if you plan to spend the rest of your lives together.

When my wife and I got married (she was 23, I was 25) she wanted to have children very soon. I insisted that we wait five years and have a house before having kids. It was important to me that we be a couple before we became a family. I think the same for you - it's important to be an adult for a while before being a mate, and then another while before being a parent.

Besides, with people living well into their 80's now, can you imagine spending 60 years or more together? I just don't see the reason to hurry.

Answer 3

20 is not to young to get married. If you both are mentally ready for this, then 20 can be a perfect age. You both have to realize that marriage is a job, it has to be worked on. It is a full time job, that you have to work at every day. You must communicate and give, you can't think of just yourself anymore. Just because you are only 20 doesn't mean you are not mature enough to get married.
My husband and I married when I was only 21 years old and we've been happily married for 2 1/2 years now.

Answer 4

I married my highschool sweetheart when I was 17 and he was 18 and we have been happily married for 1 years now. We have 2 children and are very happy.

Marriage is different for everyone. If you believe God has brought the 2 of you together, ask him when is the right time to marry. I commend you in including God in your marriage, that is the best thing to guarantee a long fruitful marriage!!

Answer 5

Since the divorce rate is at 53% in America today, and 90 percent of the divorces are over finances...I think the issue greater than your ages is your level of fiscal responsibility!
If you are both employed full time,
have already established a secure savings program,
have planned for your retirement,
and how you are going to manage 40 years down the road, agree on what your roles will be in the elder care of your parents (if you still have them that is)
and what your plan is for having children,
how they will be financed,
and are that far ahead of the GAME...then Happy Wedding!
BUT !
If you have NOT addressed these issues, you will have some MAJOR stumbling blocks down the road. It is fine to know in your heart that God wants you to be together, but it is true as well .... that God helps those that help themselves.
Be smart. Most young folks spend more time planning a 5 hour wedding than they sit down and spend planning
a 50 year marriage! Marriages, good ones, don't just HAPPEN...they take a lot of work,
unerring forgiveness,
continual vigilance,
and a mutual desire for peace and harmony that surpasses the work of the United Nations!
And this is just between the TWO of you!!
Mix in one irritating sister - in - law, and one well meaning mother - in- law, yours or his, and then your math just became exponential in the
"how to deal with THIS department!"
Pay attention. He needs your 100% support. If he is not what you want now, and you think he will CHANGE,
or if you think YOU WILL CHANGE HIM down the road--forget it.
What you have is a 20 year old model of the 65 year old attitudes he will have one day 45 years from now.
IF HE BUGGS YOU NOW over anyting or is irritating NOW--WAke up and get the WHOLE Picture full volume
and in surround sound !!!
It is not going to change. The same goes for him, remember this! If your mother is a whiner, you will likely become a whining little mother yourself! If he tosses his wet towel on the bed and leaves it there, you will be picking it up 49 years from now!
I see it every day in my practice,
and you have got to PLAN Ahead.
Honey, remember, it wasn't raining when Noah built the ARK!
Good Luck--wish someone had told me this 30 years ago.
I coulda saved a lot of rice!

Answer 6

If you have prayed about it and receive a confirmation that you should marry this guy then go for it. But remember you will be missing out on some very fun years at college with roommates and other stuff that you can't do once you are married. Don't get me wrong, marriage is wonderful but once you are married its harder to have freedom that a single person does.

Answer 7

What are you doing right now? What to you plan on doing in 5 years? What would you be doing if you had never met this person?

If it was meant to be, it can wait. I was engaged at 20 and this was our thinking. He was 24 at the time. We waited until I was out of college and we were no longer dependent on our parents. We waited until we both grew up a bit and REALLY figured out who we were and exactly what we wanted.

We just celebrated our "half-iversary"

If its meant to be it will wait, 2, 3, 4, 5 or 10 years. There is no need to rush.

Answer 8

I got married at 21 my husband was 24 we have an amazing relationship. i dont think it is too young but i would deffinitly give it another year because alot of people i know as well as myself have experienced the two year itch if you can get past that you should be fine. we have been together for 4 1/2 years. there is no specific age that is perfect to get married.

Answer 9

Well, I got married at 19 and here i am separated 9 months later. at the same time, we have 2 babies, financial stress, and a lot of growing up to do. just keep in mind that both of u must know yourselves individually, before u can be whole together or its gonna be a very bumpy road.

Answer 10

yes it's too young. medically you are considered an adolescent until you are 25, meaning your brain has not fully developed or matured. ALOT will change between 20 and 25. If you think you are ready to get married now you will be ready later and there is no need to rush it right?