My boyfriend and I have decided an year ago that we would get married. Now, his parents are forcing us to get married and I would so love to do that this December. I have a 3 week long vacation and Christmas would be so perfect time! So..what is the problem?
My elder sister is going through a rough time and in the conservative family I'm born in, I cannot get married before her. She is now seeing a guy and hopefully things will get good for her. But, I do not know if that will happen before Xmas. His parents have asked me couple of months back..if we atleast wanted to have an engagement party @ Xmas. Things were really bad then and I said no. I wanted to wait out for my sister. Now, i'm going chicken and want my engagement to happen. I have asked my boyfriend if this was still a possibility. He sternly says "NO. IT IS TOO LATE TO ARRANGE EVERYTHING AND INVITE EVERYBODY. " My parents are really worried about my sister and I don't know how to tell them either. Am I just being selfish?
2007-10-15 15:37:27 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Another reason why I do not want to wait is that if I cannot do it this Christmas, it would not be until the next one. Don ask me why it has to be only at Christmas. It just has worked for all the family to come together over vacation and some other stuff.
2007-10-15 15:38:59 · update #1
Thankyou everybody for your replies. I am 27 years old, I have a good job and have been with my boyfriend for 6 years now. We have been living together for 2 years now. Thats the reason why his parents ask us to get married. My family and my sister do not ask me to wait. They are totally supportive of me getting married before my sister. But, I just cannot make myself do that. I have ahrd time convincing myself that it is ok. I just keep thinking that it will hurt my sister.
2007-10-17 03:56:42 · update #2
I can't understand why it should be a problem to get engaged at Christmas. How much organisation does it take? Besides, it's more likely to be you organising it than your man anyway. Even if you can't marry before your sister, that doesn't mean you can't get engaged first. Why don't you go and talk to your sister. Perhaps she would be happy to help you organise your party and will be able to use the opportunity to introduce her new man to the family.
2007-10-15 15:44:17 · answer #1 · answered by Rosie_0801 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET FRIGGIN' MARRIED!
You still have 2 months to do it in! All your families are going to be in town in that time frame, so take advantage of it!
Go down to the local office supply store and get some nice notecards and print out invitations on your computer and send them out!
That may be just what your sister needs to light a fire under her fanny! Heck, recruit her to help you!
Your wedding doesn't have to be elaborate... rent a pair of standing candelabras and get the preacher to show up, serve dips and wedding cake.
2007-10-15 22:47:53 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋