Ok this is really getting out of my control!!
My really good Fren which is a year older than me has a love interest in me!!!
its really freaky!!!
I didnt know it at first.. wen i heard it from my friends that she likes me,etc..
at first i thought " well arent friends supposed to like each other"
So i didnt care much and time goes by she kept calling me mushy names and she dosent even call her boyfriend !!
After a few weeks.. she broke up with her boyfriend and he came to confront with me.
He told me that she broke up with him because of me. i was like wth!!
Few days later she confessed to me at a staircase behind the school which was quite deserted..
i didnt want to hurt her feeling ..so i said something stupid like...
"friends should love each other right??"
she totally got the wrong idea..
tried to kiss me.. i got so freaked out that i punched her and raan back home
Wth? i punched her and regretted it, but i had no choice! i aint homo.. no what shld i do? apologise?
2007-10-15 15:31:49 · 34 answers · asked by LMAO!?er 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i have no experience in relationships
T_T i dont have any interest in guys and girls yet.. im only 14
2007-10-15 15:50:15 · update #1
Wow. Punching her was a bad reaction. You need to apologize, and simply explain that you don't have feelings for her in that way. If you want to continue your friendship with her, let her know that you want nothing more from her, and ask her if she is willing to except it. If it continues to be awkward with her, just let her know that you are sorry, but you don't feel like this can be a healthy relationship anymore.... Either way, you need to leave it on good terms, you don't need any enemies...
2007-10-15 15:38:40 · answer #1 · answered by maggs717 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friend is most-likely experimenting with the idea of being a lesbian, and you are her closest friend. Don't look at it as an ending to your friendship, just be sure and tell her that you WONT go there, she probably already got that message with the punching episode. If she is truly a lesbian, that isn't a horrible thing either, we are all different, and that's okay. She can still be a friend. An apology would be okay if you miss her, and still need her friendship. which i kind of hope you do. I wish you well
2007-10-15 15:43:31 · answer #2 · answered by doug s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely apologize I'm sure you didn't mean to punch her. Just have a little sit down with her one on one and tell her how you felt about all of this. Then get her side of the story and see if you two can compromise. If you really want to I suppose you could talk with her boyfriend as well (privately) saying that you didnt know that she was like that.
2007-10-15 15:37:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes say you are sorry for reacting that way. I think hitting was a little uncalled for. I think you should talk to your friend and tell her you care but just not in that way and if she really is your friend then she will respect you and will not make anymore advances towards you. If not then as much as it hurts to lose a friendthen you might have to end the friendship. Also this might be a hard time for your friend as she might be confused about her sexuality so dont gaybash.
2007-10-15 15:46:03 · answer #4 · answered by maggie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While I don't think punching her was the best option, you need to explain to her that you just don't feel the same way about her- and make it very clear so that she won't understand again. Apologize for punching her and explain that you overreacted, but that she did scare you a little. If you still want to be friends, tell her that her being lesbian shouldn't affect your friendship , but make it clear that you just want to be friends
2007-10-15 15:57:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.
I'm sorry that this is out of your control.
You should tell your friend that you aren't a lesbian and have no interest in being a lesbian. But also, reassure her that its not a bad thing that she is and you still would like to be her friend, but nothing more than that.
If she tries to force it upon you, then you should distance yourself from her.
Also, don't make everyone know your drama. It wont only hurt her, but also you in the long run.
Good Luck
2007-10-15 15:37:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You had no choice? You could have just said "You've got the wrong idea, I don't feel that way about you". You never NEED to punch someone. My goodness, you've got a messy idea of how to be a good friend. Yes, you should apologize.
2007-10-15 15:35:50 · answer #7 · answered by SC 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You owe her a huge apology. Who the heck says "friends should love each other..." when someone is "confessing" love for them, and is NOT inviting an intimate relationship? The apology is owed for leading her on by that statement; for responding to her with physical violence; for offering the rationale of "i had no choice" and for trashing your friend when she was vulnerable. You could have been clear, you had every warning what was up.
2007-10-15 15:39:07 · answer #8 · answered by SC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You def don't want to lose her friendship ... I would apologize and tell her hey you will still be her friend but you are straight ...
Explain to her that it was just a natural reaction and totally regret ... Also explain to her that you do not want her being a lesbian get in the way of your friendship or you will not even be able to be friends ...
Best of luck ...
2007-10-15 15:39:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah your really ****** up ther you shouldnt have punched her. you should have just pushed her away and not a shove.
homosexual teens are wayy more likley to kill themselves if their friends abandom them for their choices. you may have just killed her. and im being serious.
so here is what you do. tell her "im sorry i punched you, i was startled and didint know how to react. please dont think i hate you, there is a difference between loving someone and being inlove with someone. i love you because your a great friend but im not inlove with you. im so sorry i gave you the wrong idea i really do want to be friends but no more" and then do something nice for her to show you mean it. go shopping with her or help her find a girl she can replace you with. be her wingman so to speak.
2007-10-15 15:40:13 · answer #10 · answered by night wolf 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋