She is a wonderful woman that I want to spend the rest of my life with but her ex was unfaithful and she has children which are her first priority and I am totally understanding of that.
2007-10-15 15:26:51 · 33 answers · asked by mikemja316 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you guys would really benefit from some counselling. I can't tell by your question if you guys are already maried, or if you are considering it... but either way, go to counselling together and get this issue out on the table with a trained "mediator." Some churches provide this service for free, if money is an issue.
2007-10-15 15:31:45 · answer #1 · answered by Truth Warrior 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are in the same situation as my new boyfriend, you just have to take one day as it comes, when your husband is unfaithful, like mine was I found it quite hard to belive that if I ever Met another man how do I know that he would'nt do the same thing, when I met my boyfriend who I've been with now for a Year, I had kept him at arms length, until I was really sure, I just could'nt take the chance of being hurt again, I did put my children before this man and I needed to know that he was not only going to treat me right but also my two children, so I can understand where your girlfriend is coming from, if you want to really be with her I would say just be a little patience with her, she will come round, don't rush her, goodluck.
2007-10-16 05:31:55 · answer #2 · answered by TRIKER CHICK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you convince a man that all women are not all the same? My husbands best friend had a crooked woman and she screwed him over every way imagineable and he's constantly trying to convince my husband that I am going to do it to him eventually...that it's only a matter of time.........Some people just think that way and there's nothing you can do about it other than making sure that you are a person who lives your life with integrity, and never stray from that. Eventually they'll get the hint, OR you have to give up on that person and move on because it can make a person miserable trying make up for the mistakes that someone other than you made.
2007-10-15 15:38:00 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow..shes a mother and has children that would really take a while like a long while since her last one was unfaithful (and put in mind you are not the father of her child so she would really check on you to make sure your not some psycho guy who would hurt her children or her)...and dont force her or telling her that your not like the rest of the guys..cause that would just really make you look like you are like the rest of the guy.keep in mind action do speak louder the words...just always be there for her , always be on her side , care for her and her children.
If you are understandable then dont keep pushing and convincing...that your not like the rest..shes a mother ..shes all grown up , smart and independent.
she can judge you !
2007-10-15 15:36:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her time and go slow. Let her make the moves more or less. If it is too soon after the ex it may be best to back off till she is ready.
Not all men are the same just as all women aren't.
2007-10-15 15:29:54 · answer #5 · answered by deb2polar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is to show her everyday. Take it slow and give her time and always be there for her. Lots of communication is the key, when she's in doubt you need to be there and discuss it.
She needs to forgive of her past & really let go to move on. Its up to her to heal on her own trust issues. It takes time.
2007-10-15 15:50:25 · answer #6 · answered by jtease 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be her friend for now and give her time and space. you have to prove that all men are not unfaithful rather than just tell her.
2007-10-15 15:34:04 · answer #7 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's going to take a lot of time to get over betrayal by someone you trusted enough to marry and have children with. You just have to demonstrate over a long period of time that you will be faithful to her.
2007-10-15 15:32:27 · answer #8 · answered by G.V. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say stop trying to convince her. just be a good man. be patient. its going to take her a long time to stop comparing you to the ex, and if you feel you can't handle being patient about that for what may be years to come, you should pull out now and let her go.
2007-10-15 15:31:15 · answer #9 · answered by pinksugarblue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry Once a woman is burned.......SHE is burned for life. You will suffer the effects of her ex for a long time.
HOWEVER, you just have to keep showing her that you are different.
Sorry, that is the facts!
2007-10-15 15:30:55 · answer #10 · answered by SouthernKNC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋