At 14 weeks I got electrocuted, which led me to get an U.S. I was told that there was something wrong with the baby and I should terminate..
Before this I was very Pro-Life and couldn't imagine what medical need could justify an abortion. I refused and decided to wait a week to see If anything would change. They told me that I HAD to terminate and that my life was in danger. It was a partial molar pregnancy. That's where placenta is cancerous. It was already in my lungs and presented long before the U.S. as an URI.
So there I was 4 days before my wedding killing my baby. After the Termination the dr told me that the baby was almot completely consumed with the cancer and I wouldn't have made it much father.
25 years ago I would have just died or waited until the baby started to miscarry before getting a D&C.
I now see that there is a NEED for abortion to be legal, but for reasons where the mothers life is truely at risk.
How do you feel about this?
2007-10-15 15:23:24 · 12 answers · asked by in COGNITO * 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I am so sorry for what you had to go through.
But I am glad that you are here to talk about it.
Hopefully your open mind and experience can help others to see that things are not always one sided.
Take care. :)
2007-10-15 15:31:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I too am Pro-Life, and I think that what you did was the best thing you could in your situation. I hope that if you decide that you want to have a child someday that you are able to do so. As for the laws and abortion - I believe that abortion should not be birth control. I think that only in the cases of rape and the loss of the mother and/or child being imminent should abortion be legal. Along these lines, the govenor of Oklahoma recently passed a law so that abortion is legal only in cases or rape / incest and medical necessity, such as your case.
2007-10-16 00:08:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it was for you to go through this, you did the right thing. My husband and I went through 3 early miscarriage, the premature birth of our now 3 year-old son, and last Aug we lost a baby girl at 21 weeks (Due to complications of our son's birth) It is a horrible thing to have to go through. Even before I lost my baby I always thought that abortion should be a choice if the mother's life is in danger because after treatment she may be able to go on to have another chance to have a baby or possibly even adopt a baby from someone that was not able to take care of it themselves.
2007-10-15 22:41:14 · answer #3 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
2 lives versus 1 in this case? In reality 3 lives..your husband's too as he needed you to get through it but if you were gone, that's even worse for him. You made the right choice. People love to think there is a clear cut right and wrong, black and white issue and it's not. Yes there are very cut and dry reasons not too and yes there are cut and dry reasons to as well. The gray area in between is what the fuss is all about and ironically those on the outside of the gray area, get caught in the middle.
2007-10-15 22:33:57 · answer #4 · answered by Dude 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
just think of it like this, how hard do you think it would be for the baby to grow up without a mother? Or to live a very short life and suffer the whole time? As unfair and hard it may be, it was best. And just not meant to be. I look it as God didnt want this baby to suffer, if you dont believe in God just look at like this, Would you want to bring a baby to the world whi would endure nothing more that pain?
2007-10-15 22:40:41 · answer #5 · answered by Babysmom303 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am Pro-Life...but there are circumstances in which I think abortion is acceptable. In a matter of life and death, is it completely acceptable!! But I think there are too many women being irresponsible and using abortion as an easy way out.
2007-10-15 23:36:52 · answer #6 · answered by HD 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am truly sorry for you loss. That had to be the hardest decision in your entire life. Thank you for sharing your story. When you feel the need to talk about it, please do so. There is so much more to healing after a loss than just physical, you have to heal mentally as well. I hope that your husband and other family are doing well as well. They may need to talk about it and heal. Losing a loved one touches so many lives after all. I will keep you in my thoughts and bless you and your family.
:)
2007-10-15 22:44:53 · answer #7 · answered by omorris1978 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for our loss. I believe that you did the right thing. There is a need for abortion for cases such as this. I am sure there may be people that would still not agree but it should be up to the individual. Prayers to you.....
2007-10-15 22:33:39 · answer #8 · answered by CaliforniaGrl 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It was not abortion as a means of birth control, it was a medical necessity and therefore didn't fall under the guise of being a pro-life or pro-choice issue. So sorry for what you had to go through. Hopefully children are still in your future.
2007-10-15 22:36:24 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Only when moms life is truly at risk so many women use abortion as birth control.
2007-10-15 22:29:34 · answer #10 · answered by ziggy_brat 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋