Tips for moving to start fresh.?

Question

I'm 25 y/o, single, no kids. I'm just getting out of a 4yr relationship that's been going bad. (We lived together; I never lived alone and have been living with him for past 3.5 years. He moved out of state recently for work and I stayed here.)
I've recently done somethings I'm not proud of. My friends and I are slipping apart (they're getting married, etc.) and part of me doesn't like/trust some of them entirely anymore.

I feel like I'm in a rut and I would like to move somewhere to get away from it all and start my life new. I've never really been single or experienced what I've wanted to do and I feel like now is the time to do it. I am a bit depressed now but nothing out of the ordinary, I'm just in a rut. I want to change the direction my life is going but I don't know where to start..

Any ideas of somewhere good for singles to relocate?
Any tips on ways for me to start over?
I need to do something for me for a change and just need a nudge in the right direction!

Also, I've not gotten to travel, so I haven't seen many places. I'm thinking of somewhere safe where the cost of living isn't astronomical. I also own my condo (alone thank God!) so I'd have to take that into consideration...

So far all of your answers have been helpful! Thanks!

Answer 1

Try hanging out with people who are going places... take some classes at a community college or see what groups are meeting at http://www.meetup.com
Chances are there are people nearby that you would never have known existed otherwise. You need to broaden your scope of friends. You have clearly outgrown this circle of friends.
Maybe try a little networking to see if there are good jobs in your area of expertise in a slightly bigger town nearby. Look at wants-ads from these other towns on-line to see what is there, then call, send your resume and see if you can schedule a group of appointments on one day.

You just wasted 4 years on one who thought nothing of pulling up stakes and leaving you behind. Next time, don't move in with a guy unless you are literally just about to get married because that really removes their motivation to marry you. You wind up providing the services of a wife without ever getting a commitment or benefits. It never works out.

Answer 2

Downtown San Diego is awesome. LA is too stuck up, and hard to make friends. The OC is not as exciting. Tons of twenty-somethings here.....mostly twenty-somethings in fact. Tons of things to do: Festivals, Gaslamp district is all fun restaurants, bars etc. Little Italy is so fun, Balboa Park is super close it has a ton (like 15) museums, and the SD Zoo The beach is super close. Everyone in our apartment building (we live in Little Italy) is in our age range, and super friendly. We moved here to start over, and making new friends has been a breeze. We meet a ton of people just going down to the jacuzzi. You can walk everywhere, or take the Trolley. Transportation is very good here. We have found it was the perfect place to pick up and move to......we didn't know anyone.....or even know what we were going to do for work....and I have NEVER been happier! Feel free to message me if you want more info

From what you are saying starting over is exactly what you need, and you are right, now is the time. Live a little, and step outside of your comfort zone....you'll be surprised how awesome it is!

Answer 3

Where is the one place you would always love to visit? Is there something that you have wanted to do for a long time but just never did?

How about storing all of your possessions and going on a trip for a few weeks to visit the places you have in mind? You can check in to renting a place for a month and getting a feel for the area.

I knew a girl who did just that and stayed in Maui for a year and then decided she liked it back home a lot more than she realized. But what a great experience!

If you like snow try Colorado, if you like hot weather try Arizona, if you like the Eastern US try New Hampshire, Maine, Massachusetts...you get the idea.

What a great opportunity you have! Enjoy!

Answer 4

you have to stay within your means. this depends on what kind of job you have.

if you have tons of money, move to the coasts and party somewhere like san fransisco. if you dont have much, then maybe move somewhere in the middle of the country where things are cheaper.

i would suggest that you look for good paying jobs, and move to where you can find a good, ideal job. make smart choices, become stable by yourself, become independent, and once your ok being alone, then you will have a clear head and should go out looking for someone.

Answer 5

I would suggest you go for it -- whatever "it" may be for you. When I was around your age, I felt the same way. I had a good job offer in a different area -- but I stayed. I'm five years older, and everything is the same -- not any better/not much worst -- Now I realize life is too short!!
If you're not happy, gosh darn it, Go Get Happy!!

Answer 6

Moving into a new home involves much more than just relocating your belongings. You need to re-establish your local support system, set up new accounts and notify government agencies of your new address. Here are a hand full of often overlooked items you should consider prior to moving day.

Answer 7

Just pack your stuff in a UHaul and drive for a day or two. Then find a place to live, get a job, and start over.

Answer 8

Try Toronto! Just tell your parents, and mention that you'd prefer not to let your friends know where you are. When you move, act mysterious or crazy, and you'll be easily remembered. Try changing your name, Liberty is always a cool name!

Answer 9

Make a list of everything you can’t live without. Avoid mixing items from different rooms in the same box.

Answer 10

Move to L.A. Thats the party city. And im sure you'll find someone or something.