my bf is going through a hard time and has went MIA. i have no clue if he's blowing me off, although he has no reason to, i called him yesterday and heard nothing back. before that i hadn't heard from him in 4 days. I text him an hour ago saying "should i send a search party?" and haven't heard anything. he's 35 yrs. old so i'd hope if he is blowing me off he'd just tell me. his "hard time" has nothing to do with me so i can't wrap my mind around why i'm being blown off. he lives 1/2 hr. from me and has no family around him and just his work friends. we both live by ourselves and had talked about what if something happened to one of us in our homes...no one would know for days maybe weeks. it was kind of a joking conversation but now i'm thinking what IFsomething happened to him and i'm thinking he is blowing me off. how do i find out?i know i could drive up there but what do isay if he's there and well? what do you think?i have a tendency to think way too much,maybe i'm making excuses
2007-10-15 15:08:10 · 10 answers · asked by Jax 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
OMG...i text him again saying "i really AM getting worried..." he responded..."stop worrying i'll come out of my funk eventually"...OMG I'm pissed! yeah well I hope he doesn't think i'll be around when he does!!!
2007-10-15 15:45:30 · update #1
Let him go, and move on. If it was meant to be, he will be back!
2007-10-15 15:41:59 · answer #1 · answered by JerseyGirl4u 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's very stressful to be in a relationship with someone who's not considerate. Knowing that you live 1/2 away, you probably worry about his well being and he doesn't call you back? Perhaps he might think either you're needy or just check on him to make sure that he's not with someone else. If that what he thinks than perhaps you should find someone else.
I used to date someone who lives 300 miles away from me for 2 1/2 years. There were good times but some of the time, I didn't hear from him for days. Sometimes he promised to come and visited, then he called 1/2 hr before and told me that he's not coming. I finally put a stop to that and moved on with my life.
2007-10-15 22:45:14 · answer #2 · answered by Phoenix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you settling for this loser? Do you have an extra head or something? As a 37 year old divorced and now happily engaged male, I can tell you there are only two possibilities. 1) He's just not that into you, regardless of the situation, or 2) he has been abducted and taken to Gitmo for "interrogation." I strongly suspect it's 1). If you have been dating awhile, and he is in a dangerous profession or lives across the street from the crack house, then you should make just one and only one obligatory phonecall to his workplace and then call it a day. DTMF. You will never get more respect from someone else than you insist upon from yourself. There are millions of men out there who would not leave a woman hanging, even if they had their head partially severed. You will never fix this guy. I bet your friends or coworkers will tell you the same thing.
2007-10-15 22:31:37 · answer #3 · answered by Ansketeln 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have the phone number of one of his work friends, perhaps call one of them to see if they have seen him, or call his place of employment to see if he is going to work. Once you find him though, dump him and fond someone more considerate or make him get counseling to deal with the problems which make him want to leave you hanging like this. If he has never done this before, try the work number, his family if you have their number, and if you can't get satisfaction, consider having the police check on him to see that he is okay, because if something has happened too serious, it would be better if they found him rather than you.
2007-10-15 22:31:14 · answer #4 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he ever done this? If no is the answer then drive to his home and see what's up! If you find something fishy then call the cops! But first go to his home, he could just be blowing you off! I'll keep him in my prayers.
2007-10-15 22:19:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go and check on me. Just tell him you were getting worried and then leave when you are sure he is okay. That will make him realize that somebody cares for him.
2007-10-15 22:39:36 · answer #6 · answered by Brie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really can't believe that you haven't already gone there. I would be worried sick......It really is alright to see if someone you care about is OK.
2007-10-15 22:23:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to give your best effort after that move on
2007-10-15 22:25:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go.... better safe than sorry. think he could be seeing someone else?
2007-10-15 22:12:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not suicidal, leave him be. He'll be in touch, when he's ready.
2007-10-15 22:17:34 · answer #10 · answered by bahjij6 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋