why do gay people thrust their sexuality in your face?

Question

the innuendo from gays on tv is ridiculous, examples graham norton, julian clarey. gay people don't like being stereotyped as nice friends or good company (reference to some question here tonight) so make a huge fuss in drama queen fashion. do what you want, but ffs, keep it to yourselves. just because i don't agree with homosexuality, doesn't make me homophobic! i'm heterosexual but i don't make a point of telling everyone so and i certainly don't refer to my sex life. but time and time again gay people (not all of them) make a big deal out of nothing. so what you are gay, get on with it.

are they so insecure they are looking for acceptance, or so arrogant, they feel everyone needs to be aware of their sexuality. i don't get it!

i'm not prejudiced, i just want to know the views of how others feel.

actually no, my information doesn't just come from tv. a realative of mine has loads of gay friends, i have attended dinner parties with them and my cousin is also a lesbian, so please don't assume my ignorance, its a personal observation. thats the thing with answerers, never assume!!

i should have added, these are from my own experiences. feel free to change my opinion. i'm open to anything.

i don't throw my boobs in anyones faces. i am a woman, i am married to a man. it does not make me a bigot to want folk to keep their sexual preference to themselves. why is only this lat year or say its become acceptable for gays to marry. its due to popular demand. but you can't do it in a church. why is that?...hmmm!...my point is, gay people from experience make reference to sex all the time. its not funny and its distasteful. they get away with it because they are a minority.

FOR DA BEN is it not a catch 22 situation. so many posters have jumped to the conclusion i am a bigot. when i am merely asking a question drawing from my own experiences. the majority got defensive immediatley. maybe its a lack of understanding on our part. but maybe you also have to agree and understand that heterosexuals may find your way of life hard to come to terms with. hard to comprehend, and you can't blame people for that. and by the way for that other poster who said i'm intruding on this section, this section on yahoo answers is open to anyone. i can post where i like, ok!

WISH I HADN'T ASKED NOW. WHAT A SENSITIVE BUNCH!

hadley: are you not free to answer this question in whatever fashion you like...lol. at what point were you insulted. at what point did i say, do not answer this question. why be defensive. stand up respectfully, answer the question with pride. no-one is preventing you dear. in actual fact i told you to prove me wrong, but all most of you have done is prove that only your opinions matter!

hadley you are an idiot. i could rise to your stupidity with a few insulting comebacks but i won't, pease don't show yourself up, or your catergory. you aint doing them any justice.

Answer 1

There is a gay sub-culture that likes to flaunt it's sexuality in your face. Those are the parading in thong types. I understand where they're coming from, but they create stereotypes about gay people. Most gay people are normal people that you don't notice.

However, you need to ask yourself if a straight person was doing what a gay couple was (e.g. what one person said before me, holding hands) would you consider it "thrusting their sexuality in your face."?

When I first came out in high school, I tried to only tell a few friends, but soon the entire school made a huge deal about it. (I live in a narrow minded southern state) That year was hell. And yes, I was probably looking for acceptance and insecure. I still have problems with it.

Answer 2

You said: "i'm heterosexual but i don't make a point of telling everyone so"

You thrust your sexuality into others faces by making that statement and telling everyone your sexuality. You are not keeping your sexuality to yourself, so why should I be held to a different standard?

If a heterosexual couple says that they are trying to have a baby, are they not referring to their sex life? If a heterosexual couple has a wedding, are they not making a big deal about being heterosexual? If a man and woman kiss in public or hold hands, are they not flaunting their sexuality?

The problem is that some heterosexual people say that they have lives, and then demean and degrade gay people by saying that they only have lifestyles.

Acceptance should not be because of what you perceive as insecurity, it should be because of equality.

Those who are arrogant will say that they are heterosexual while, at the same time, saying that homosexuals should not do the exact same thing.

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You say "i am a woman, i am married to a man" so you are still thrusting your sexuality in others faces, namely those who are not given the same legal right to marry. You also say "but you can't do it in a church;" same sex couples have been getting married (within the eyes of the church despite the law) at the United Church of Christ, Metropolitan Community Churches, and Unitarian Churches for years.

Answer 3

You are in fact referring to the overtly camp members of the gay community. Trust me, not all gays are like this and I work with a gay guy who, unless you knew him well you would never know he was gay and he finds camp gay men annoying. In a way, it is the same as the likes of the numpty 'IT' girls and page 3 types who behave appalingly in public and in the media.

You really cannot stereotype any group, it is not fair or just.

By the way, I admit I find Graham Norton to be the most annoying person on TV!

Answer 4

First off: You personal insults and attacks are against TOS and Community Guidelines of this Yahoo! product. Please keep them to yourself

Secondly: You have the right to NOT watch such programs as "Graham Norton" etc.

Thirdly: You're the one who came into this category and started attacking. WE didn't come to you!

Fourthly: If you don't like it in your daily life, just ignore it. You have the right to NOT pay attention to it.

What you don't even understand is that there are HUNDREDS of gays and lesbians who are probably around you all the time and you don't know it. Why? Because we go about our daily lives just like everyone else.

If being gay wasn't such a "big deal" then we wouldn't have to fight for our rights to be protected equally under the law!
We wouldn't have to fight for our right to equal access to all rights, benefits and protections that YOU take for granted EVERYDAY!

If you hold such distain for homosexuals, that does actually make you homophobic: (Just look up the definition of the word)

ho·mo·pho·bi·a (hō'mə-fō'bē-ə) Pronunciation Key
n.
Fear of or contempt for lesbians and gay men.
Behavior based on such a feeling.

http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/homophobic

Answer 5

Erm i think its relative.
Gay people express thier personality, i guess in the same way a woman expresses thier femininity and hetro men flirt with that and express thier masculinity. Its just harmless fun
actuatly find some gay peoples conversation quite fun and amusing, the only time i dont like is when it gets too crude... or vulgar.But then that would be the same if hetro guys were talking about sex in the same manor.

I think you need to deal with your issues. What does it really matter to you, if you dont like the tv program , watch another one!.

Answer 6

I do see what you mean by some gay people seem to go out of their way to tell you they are gay. They will talk about how hot this or that guy is and say things like what he would like to do to or with this guy or that one. Homosexual women can be just as bad to. I mean they tend to go out of their way to make sure everyone knows they are gay. Now I am not saying all of them, I have met some that were very nice and acted just like everyone else. Yet I have also seen gay couples out kissing and rubbing all over each other, in ways that even made me blush. I think some of them do this because they are not able to act like or be themselves in their work or home life. They take every chance they get to show others that they are not straight. It makes and allows them to feel free and to be the kind of person they are. Since many of us do not really care, it makes them feel even better when they can act very, very, gay and not have to hide who they really are. It is a way of letting it all out of their system. I usually try to ignore them when they do this,, but it can be hard if they are right in front of your face and or they are friends of one of your other friends. I wish they would just relax and take it a little easy, they would make themselves look better to heterosexuals and I think it would make them more appealing to other gay people. So yeah I think many of the ones who act like that are insecure and are wanting to acknowledge who and what they are and want others to see it as well. In a way I feel sorry for them. =)

Answer 7

I love all people, their sexual orientation has no effect on whether I will be their friend or not I live in a country wher there is almost zero negative feeling about gay or any other group of it's type, and I love it.

Answer 8

Not only that, they also try to insult anyone who doesn't agree with homosexuality! And I'm not talking about adults, but kids! I witnessed it myself! While I personally have nothing against gays, I know that for a child it's hard to get through the concept of homosexuality, and it has nothing to do with education, it has to do with normal mentality that kids have. So anyway, I was at a party at my friends' house and two gay men kissed while a little girl was walking by. She said something like "ewww! Mommy, boys are kissing". They just went off on her, I thought they were going to eat her alive or something. They were so arrogant in a rude manner calling her uneducated, not very smart, brainless little thing. They insulted her parents calling them clueless of what's going on in the world and blamed them for not taking care of their kid properly. And I'm only interpreting of what they were saying. The girl cried and ran, and they laughed with sarcasm and hate!

Answer 9

If a mixed gender couple kiss in public, they're flaunting their sexuality in my face. I want the right to kiss whomever I want in public regardless of their sex.

Every day is heterosexuality pride day. Gays only get one frickin' parade a year, and religious zealots who say, "I'm not homophobic, but these people live a lifestyle I don't approve of" try to zone us, or put us in the back of the bus.

You are a bigot. You draw from caricatures on TV the images you want projected.

If you want to find non-threatening gays, try treating us like human beings with feelings, and parents. We'll be a lot less flaunty, I guarantee you.

Answer 10

There are as many gay people that talk about being gay as there are straight people that talk about being straight... Pay attention for a few days and you will see that I am right.